What should I do? Can you be friends with a liar?

[Anonymous]

I caught my so called partner on a dating website. We matched - yes I catfished him and he lied about how long we dated and the reasons why we split.
I spoke to him on the phone afterwards and he lied to me again when I asked him later that same evening.
It wasn't till I exposed myself and sent him the messages that he admitted it.

He's apologising now, saying how sorry he is and wants to remain friends.

I feel totally disgusted with him and can't believe he said he cared an had feelings towards me

Updates

10 mo

Also- we hadn't officially split up. It wasn't like we ended things. We always had disagreements and we'd resolve them a day late

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Fuck no, I can't be friends with a liar, if you lie once your going to keep lying, and I don't have time for a snake in the grass! I To me honesty and loyalty is everything and if you don't have that we won't ever have Shit! I He's only sorry because he got caught, if he was truly sorry he would have been honest with you from the beginning!

[Asker]

I agree. I'm embarrassed at what I did... but i only did it to find out my gut was right. I never went on their to lie or be deceitful. I went on their to catch him out and pull him up on it. He used to gaslight me all the time. This time he couldn't. There in black n white

[Anonymous]

As hard as it is to believe, him lying and cheating doesn't mean he never had feelings for you.
You can love someone deeply and still cheat, especially as a man.
It's a complex issue and there's not enough room here to explain, but I know for a fact it's true. Because sadly, I've been that man who lied and cheated on the girl I loved and I regret it every single day. I would've died for her, but my dick took over my brain in the thinking department. Shit happens

[Opinion Owner]

And that's really hard for women to understand, because sex is all about feelings for them

[ohsheeT]

So you both lied
So next time you find him on a dating app at him for a date. Meet him some place and don't lie.. but to be honest. You both are bad for each other.

The moment you date anyone the moment there is a Lie from either party it goes downhill from there

I look at people who lie they must not like themselves if they have to lie to be someone else

[Anonymous]

Most men lie constantly. There are honest men out there, but it takes some searching.

Look for someone better.

[SawerBrown]

Sounds to me thst you're both liars and really no longer have a relationship if you ever actually did. What you did is no different then what he did.

[Spade_01]

It's a ruined situation. Totally. Get out of it.

[Anonymous]

If there is no trust, then their is no relationship.

[Anonymous]

Run for the hills and do not EVER look back

[CuriousMufuxka]

You are straight drama.

[ByCureChris9669]

dont dooo thatt!!
did you?

[Asker]

Did I what

[ByCureChris9669]

Catfishing him to get information.
You suggest by your answers that you were both on the fence in your relationship. It is very likely he didn't see it that way. From his point of view, the relationship might have been over, and he was looking for someone else.