Guys, How should I ask a girl out over text?

[Tomisworthless]

[strateguy632]

write text "when is a good time for me to call you" if she said a time then phone to ask with voice to go out together somewhere nice.

[Tomisworthless]

I asked her if she was free today and wanted to get some food and go hike a trail and she responded thanks for the invite but I’m really busy!! I can drop off the Bible later though if you want.

Bible was a gift she wanted to give me some time agob

[Vegasrunner]

I don't know if this will work for you but I just say. I want to see you (again) are you free (date _ time) Be specific.

[Tomisworthless]

I told her what do you have planned for Friday? I was thinking we go get a bite to eat then go walk a trail

[Vegasrunner]

@tomisworthless How did that work out? That seems a bit passive. You typically want to act as if she would never say no to you.

[Tomisworthless]

Didn’t go to well considering she said she’s really busy but thanks for the invite. Didn’t give a time or day that could work either so my understanding is that she’s just not willing to make time for me

[Tomisworthless]

Yes Passive I suppose it is, I can’t see it but that’s generally how my mind thinks and the way I formulate sentences. Not sure what being assertive is as a natural instinct or reaction

[Vegasrunner]

@tomisworthless Yeah I didn't think that was going to turn out well for you. Hopefully you learned a lesson for next time though.

[Vegasrunner]

@tomisworthless I get it, but if you want to get something you never had you have to do something you've never done. When u start out by asking about her plans you've already put her on a pedestal providing her w/ her most desired commodity attention. Phrases like "I was thinking, what do you have" make you sound too unsure of yourself almost like you don't believe you're good enough to go out w/ her.

[Kevininja363]

Don’t do it over text. It increases the likelihood of getting rejected as it isn’t meaningful. Call her or do it in person. Then it’s more likely she will accept because you were confident enough to do it face to face or where she can hear you.

[Truthatanycost]

Ask her out in person, face to face first. Texts are ok for follow up meets.

[Anonymous]

Just ask her if she'd like to meet for coffee.