How do u understand you're over someone?

[Anonymous]

sometimes u feel like you finally get over ur feelings but then whoever u talk to u just seek for him. its been 1 year but i still feel like ill never get over him? how do ı know if i lose feelings for these people?

[Izzy_3991]

It's normal to have memories and whatnot. I think you truly know when you are over them when you have no desire to kiss them or hold their hand. If anything, the idea feels gross and wrong because that person has become a stranger to you.

[Asker]

i mean if he would suddenly come rn id prolly go hug or sth. but i feel weird bc its been a year and im still thinkin bout this person. i dont wanna do stupid thingz like getting into a relationship and thrn still miss my ex so I don't know what to do , ım like stuck

[Izzy_3991]

I don't see anything wrong with a friendly hug but is it more of a romantic hug?
Also, do you miss him or just the thought of him?

[Asker]

more like a feeling when i meet someone and I am looking for "him" in different people. tho i say i am over my feelings I d still romanticise us and him in my head , yeah

[Izzy_3991]

If you are actively looking for him or searching for him out in public places then you still have lingering feelings for him. How long were you dating for?

[Asker]

6 months dating 6 months been since we broke up and its not just me we few timez talked during that 6 months and i know he's not completely over me either so it just makes it harder to forget cuz ıll always have that feeling "what if..."

[Izzy_3991]

It's only early days. 6 months isn't enough time to get over someone.
I won’t ask why you broke up but is it possible that you didn't want to break up? Perhaps you have unresolved issues with the relationship?

[Asker]

actually i was the one who broke up. I havr a real imprtant exam this year and he can be problematic most ofthe time. i was 17 and he was talking bouthow he wants to have s*x w me and it was irritating me then but didn't show him. then i decided to break up for both of us goodness:/ yeah so it didn't end badly, we even kept coming backto each other but yeah :/ I don't know

[Izzy_3991]

It's a red flag that he was pushing for sex and that he's problematic. I would cease contact for a whole 6 months. Give it a whole year and then see how you feel 😄

[Asker]

thank you girl for ur reply. Ill start uni soon hopefully new people will bring me new memories and ill get ovee it💕🌷

[Izzy_3991]

You’re most welcome! All the best at uni and creating new memories 🫶🏻

[Wise4myage]

By moving on to better things.

[Asker]

being busy w other thimgz doesn't really mean that ur feelings are dead🤨

[Wise4myage]

Very true.