Girls, how much your priorities, expectations, requirements regarding guys change as you age?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

[DizzyDesii]

The majority doesn't really change. I’ll choose an exception to the rule maybe once every few years but thats about it. My priorities are still in the same order but I’m beginning to question marriage. My expectations are slowly declining to avoid disappointment but whatever, im used to being disappointed at this point. Requirements really haven't changed at all. I extended my age gap by like an extra year up/down lmao and i lowered my minimum wait time by a few months for when sex is likely to happen

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Noooooo! Don't lower your wait time! 😱. That's just going to allow users into your life who will waste your time and keep you further from your goals.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs my wait time used to be til marriage and i failed that lmao 🤣 Then i tried it a second time, made it a year and a half and we failed again. So i just didn't want to try waiting til marriage a third time. Been waiting 6+ months minimum. People can't hide their true colors longer than 3-4 months lol. So far this celibacy tactic is working... more so for me than them 🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

"Then i tried it a second time, made it a year and a half and we failed again."
Yes; I understand. But was that HIS goal as well? Or was it only yours?
Because for stuff like this to work, both people need to be on board with the plan. BOTH people need to be fully committed. You HAVE to. Because abstinence is going against our natural instincts.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs with the first guy, i wanted to wait. He didn't and pressured me daily. With the other guy, he wanted to wait til marriage and i was happy to give it another go myself. Sex was neither of our goal. But when it happened, it happened. We were trying some dumbshit we saw in porn and it backfired and sex happened lmao

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Lol now I want to know what you were trying. Now you have me curious haha.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs I’ll tell you

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Okay!

[menina]

My preferences and my expectations changed a lot since I was a teenager or even when I was in my 20's.

I do have my requirements but I don't expect to find a man who meets all of them. That's not realistic. However, I expect him to meet my basic requirements. I think I became more open-minded and realistic as I got older.

[Anonymous]

Vastly from teenage to 30. It's like night and day. It doesn't change much from 30 on though.

[Smiling_Baby21]

I think the more grow, is the more I know that I don't want to have a kid before I am married

[Minahh]

If he had other good qualities I overlooked red flags, now if he's not compassionate and empathetic he's not worth my time