How have your dating preferences changed over the years?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

1) My dating preferences have sort of kept up with my age (Thank God).


2) I think in some ways, I was a lot more naive on who I would date, where now I’m more aware of hidden issues… like the stuff these girls could hide for a short while, and naive 16 year old me (even 24 year old me) would assume the best in these girls that would have been horrible for (to) me (because they were able to hide their issues better, perhaps). Now it seems like they are worse at hiding this stuff… or they can’t keep up with it and it either starts showing physically or mentally.


I knew a few girls in high school that 16 year old me thought had it together… and I’ve found out the drinking and drugs they were hiding rotted their brains and they lost their minds (some even before college started); like they’d seem intelligent, kind, somewhat chaste, perhaps… graduation happened… and then their brains were just gone. One woman started ranting about random stuff and people and animals being “out to get her” and I’d find out… oh, yeah, she was hiding a coke, maybe a meth habit and were pretty much “Bleethed” out within a year or two after graduation. Like they had the youth or looks or whatever to help hide it, and they had kept it going for sometimes all of high school, and then bam … a hard life caught up with them, and that age and “hardness” destroyed them (even sometimes by the time they hit 20)…


I dated a girl (in college) who kept up appearances successfully for a few months… but within that, things were starting to quickly unravel… but she could kind of keep it looking ok on the surface… and after only a few months, she just became lazy or uninterested in keeping up appearances… and she got found out. Like a hard life or a drug problem or having years of casual sexual escapades - they look.. “ragged” more quickly. Age catches up with a lot of people. Harder to hide certain things.


3) I’m less interested in a look, because I realize that with that look comes a lot of things I would not be interested in., like I would be paying for it with stress, money, etc. just to be with a chick who looks a certain way… like that comes with a whole host of issues. So while I may be into it on the surface, I find it hard to pursue or be bothered because of all the issues they would probably bring to the relationship. Like sometimes a stereotype can be a good “shorthand.” I find myself getting out of that wish to be with them. A part of me might still turn my head for that (as a single guy), but I’m like…. Ugh…. The work behind that or to deal with that ain’t as “attractive” as it once might have seemed.

[Anonymous]

changed from slim girls to bbws

[jennifer_bloom]

I do not love without emotional limits anymore and I do not trust without lots of evidence anymore.

I also do not invest without comparing like I did when I was younger.

And I do not forgive bad qualities anymore.

They can be removed from my wrath list, but they will never be allowed to be my friend again if they make a mistake.

[DishLady]

Aside from the age group I like (which increases exponentially along with me as I get older), nothing really. I've always wanted a guy with certain values. I have a particular "type" I enjoy... and that's that.

[HawkPerception]

I used to think I was into introverted nerds because that was closer to who I was when I was young. As I've gotten older, introverts tend to be too hard to break the ice with and take a lot more effort to get a conversation going. I like a talkative girl that has a lot of strong opinions (as long as they don't conflict with my own 😂)... A girl that knows what she wants and shows clear interest. A girl that has a radiant personality.

[Genie23]

Looks wise? Yes. Personality and character-wise? No.

[ohsheeT]

Though my preferences have somewhat stayed the same, but there is change. Because you never date the same person or there.'s no 2 people alike

[Chazmatazz269]

A complete reversal of my record.
I prefer to not date at all.
Ell oh ell!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Yup, here is my history as I remember it, briefly:

• 16 to 17yo: any girl I found pretty
• 17 to 18yo: any girl I found pretty, and kind
• 18 to 35yo: any girl I found pretty, and kind, and conversationalist
• 35 to 45yo: any girl I found pretty, and kind, and conversationalist, and witty, and cute, and analytical, and emotionally literate.

Honestly, given how picky I have become over time, I feel lucky because I still find girls, even if stats are against me 😂

[Anonymous]

Not really.

All that changed really was that when I was younger I was kind of racist and would only date White girls.

But that began to change around high school or so. Now I basically like women of all races equally. Lol.

And if you're curious about what I just wrote, yes, I was already dating in middle and elementary school. Though it wasn't anything serious. Just silly childish stuff. Heck, in elementary school I barely understood what a "girlfriend" even was. Lol.

[nextdoorguy]

Depends what you mean by changing.

More lesbian and gay. Yes there is a change in my opinion. Females are more attracted to more females.

Younger going for older and that is yes too as I think maturity played a factor there.

We are living in Morden times and I think people have more freedom to explore new horizon. Hope that helped.

[Zack-Bann]

With every new ex I learned about what I don’t like and won’t put up with


Over the years my boundaries became clearer


But I also let go of many childish expectations I had


I’m far more open minded today
(Which is usually the reverse for most people I noticed)

[Benjiman19]

I have changed my dating preferences from just slim girls to slim and a little bit bigger than slim. Not exactly large, but about medium sized. I still prefer slim, tiny, a few years younger than myself. But I'm good with a little bit thicker, a few years older than me.

[OneViewpoint]

I'm much more cautious / concerned about wasting my time with the wrong women. I prioritize looks but also confidence, intelligence, knowledge, and a sense of humor. Looks alone will get you a brick wall with me.

[DancingQueen16]

Not really because the first guy I ever liked was a funny and smart blonde with blueish green eyes and that's almost exactly like my boyfriend now except his eyes are just blue and not blueish green

[itsannalee]

I only have 4 ex and they all different
1. Asian
2. French/Australian
3. Australian
4. French/Arab


And my current partner is Arab/Turkish
So i think I don’t have type

[Anonymous]

I won't say it's changed by a lot. But I think respect means love to me.
Teasing fells disrespectful, and makes me feel unworthy, awkward, and embarrassing beyond imagination.
So someone really loving me and just being as an equal I will be more then happy to be in a relationship or married

[alice55]

I used to prefer extroverted confident muscular guys as a teen now I prefer shy guys and more on the skinnier side.

[Vevv123]

I don’t think they have actually… apparently it’s the same unloyal people

[dragoblack]

Preferences got more stricter, and noticed the red flags from the dating profiles. Also I'm more interested in physically strong women with balanced muscle. Muscle shows an ability to be dedicated & passionate, and healthy minded, i like that.

[Berethor]

It toke me some time to start carring about zero body count as I tend to now.

[EmmaMary]

I've had no need to do any dating for the past thirteen years.

[beenherebefore]

Not much. I have the same preference since I was in kindergarten.

[jshm2]

Funnily enough, from older women to middle aged women.

[Nikki1989]

They haven't. It has always been about personality and sharing the same interests.

[Ironco]

I don't think they have changed much. If I find someone attractive and witty, I'll try to get to know them. Then see where it goes. If it gets romantic great, if not I made a new friend.

[ProbablyClueless]

I used to prefer curvier women.

Now I prefer a more athletic build.

[Anonymous]

They haven't. Once I love anything it's always. Even if a relationship ends the love I had at the time is what keeps embered in memories.

[ashleighthelashtech]

Yes. I used to like older men. Since having a kid im now attracted to younger guys.
want that stamina lol

[MannMitAntworten]

My preferences haven’t changed. I am boringly consistent.

[blackeagle007]

Used to admire clingy, needy etc (call me crazy). Now I hate that. Someone who’s a good at conversation and gives me space

[Anonymous]

I don’t like bad boys anymore after one cheated on me back in high school

[blackeagle007]

That seems female

[Blackcat1952]

It changed wonderfully perfectly. My last time was 1994 you were not even born yet .

[Arcadian222]

Yes, more into mature ladies that tight hole girls

[Arcadian222]

Than*

[raaz222]

Yes. I have been looking and meeting girls for many years. Now I am letting boys also to taste my banana. Also hunting for good couples now.

[qwerty2469]

I only dated pure and chaste Christian women. Married one. Now all I date are dirty whores.

[Anonymous]

Nope, never, I like dominant and sporty type of girls, that will never change.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Yes, I'd say so.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, I still like the guy who is nice.

[Anonymous]

From trying to quitting

[robocop666]

they never changed

[Wise4myage]

No, not yet.

[beefcakebradybatson]

They haven't.

[In_Trance]

Not really