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Not career achievements alone.
Otherwise you’ll just be attracting gold diggers and clout chasers, women who are only interested in fame or fortune.
They won’t be in love with you, they will only want the money and clout you can give them.
If you want to attract a gem as you say, you will need great character, great chemistry, and shares values.
If you want someone virtuous, you must be virtuous yourself. If you want someone to love you for you, you must have natural chemistry (being yourself should be enough). If you want someone that gets along with you well and has little to argue about, you’re looking for someone with shared values, someone who looks at life in the same or a similar way.
Continuing on with the shared values, if you don’t want a shallow girl, you’ll want to find someone who values depth of connection, someone who loves and cares for you in a way that transcends the physical.
They’ll stay by your side even if you got a terminal illness or if you got into a freak accident.
Depth.
Now, if you just want to attract women in general and want to be attractive in general, I’d say charm, charisma, and personality is number one.
Great looks will simply make that all easier. Like 10’s can have mediocre game and still have great “success” at attracting women in general. And 5’s will need to have really great game to have “success” at attracting women in general. So looks matter in terms of affecting difficulty level, but at the end of the day it still comes down to your charm, charisma, and personality as the primary movers of what makes guys attractive.
Gems are unimpressed by looks. Looks may get their attention for a second, but bad character or personality will immediately turn them off.
Achievements can help a lot IF they contribute to your personality and character in a positive way.
For example, confidence, leadership, perseverance, tenacity, mental toughness.
All those things are very attractive traits that most women want in a man.
The question is… Are your achievements building those desirable traits within you? Are your achievements shaping your character and personality into something attractive?
I hope that gives you some more clarity. 🍻
Of course. The problem is, the VAST majority that will want to "get to know you"... are doing so because of what you DO have... and that's... all of the financial status you've accrued from your career and achievements. I'm not a bad looking guy... just shorter, but athletic, and I have my flaws. But I couldn't even get females to give me basic public courtesy the last several years courtesy of my "lack of status." Well now... that's changed around... and lo and behold, now they give me that courtesy and want to "get to know me." But I want them FAR AWAY from me now... because they SHOWED their true colors. For years. Beware, my friend. Open yourself up at this point... and there's a GOOD CHANCE you'll get taken for the ride of a lifetime-ending in a fatal wreck. NEVER forget how you got treated before you made it up... because who you are as a person didn't change, what you were about didn't change. They DID. Those will NOT be the people that you will be able to count on when you need it most. That's a guarantee.
I have seen people change their colors. When I had nothing, people laughed at me. Now, I am somewhat successful, I bought properties and a car. More people want to be my friends. I have started ignoring them.
2 tips. Try to appear as average Joe as possible-that way the people you meet from this day forward don't know the extent to which you're heading up. 2. The people in your past-since they didn't want to ride with you during the struggle and get to know you? They're history. Permanently. This is what most wannabe celebrity types, wannabe rapper/drug dealers don't know. Most WELL OFF people... don't advertise it. 3 huge chains, new Jordans, designer locs, booming car system... are NOT signs of wealth. Those are signs of a wannabe who's insecure. Middle America craphole towns are FULL of people like that, pulling into every gas station buying 2 for 99 cent blunt wraps ok? Why do you think they're there? Because they can't AFFORD to live in the Hamptons or Topanga Canyon-which is where the REALLY wealthy are. So they're trying REALLY HARD to get someone to notice them. Most truly wealthy pay for private school education, have traveled to multiple continents prior to age 21, don't refer to people as "bitches and hoes," have an extensive investment portfolio, and aren't dripping with discount jewelry. But a lot of women THINK those guys are well off, because they try REALLY HARD to get noticed. By wiping out the people of your past, and appearing to be Mr. Average Joe from here out... it's likely you'll find someone from a similar educational, social and financial status-who doesn't need your possessions. Stanford grads don't marry Section 8 baby mamas, and there's a reason for that. They're not in the same circle.
I agree with you. People who laughed at me are history. I hate showoffs. I am living a simple life. But the problem is girls think that, I am a loser with no intelligence, no money and no future plan. So girls aren't attracted to me. I am tempted to show off but I am still trying to control it. I waiting for that real girl who accepts me with my imperfections and simplicity.
Let them think that. Trust me, let them. You don't have to do ANYTHING to them... they'll do it to themselves... and very shortly... poetic justice will be taking a chunk out of their asses-and they'll be looking for a fallback. You see it every day. Women in prison pen pal sites looking for "financial stability"... NOW... because no one wants them. They laughed at a guy like you, and now poetic justice got their ass. I just saw on Houston Craigslist under resumes the FIRST AD TODAY... is from a single mom who's homeless with her kids... and has no way to pay for the motel. Photo of her up, fat ass in tights, dime a dozen... offering to "sell content." Once AGAIN... someone who laughed at you in the past-and poetic justice now has her by her fat ass.😏There are a LOT of them. Drive by, smirk. Just smirk. That's what these people don't get... no one's doing it to them... they're doing it to THEMSELVES.😊
First of all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What you may not see as attractive is what makes another persons knees buckle. Second, if the sports players you’re talking about are the pros on tv, then they have good and really high paying jobs and work out A LOT. Third, you’ve gotta have an attractive personality. To me, if you’re hot on the outside but have an ugly personality, you’re not that attractive. If you’re not good-looking to me but you have an amazing personality, you’re much more attractive.
This doesn’t make sense, no woman is genuinely going to be with you because of your “career or accomplishments”. You will attract gold diggers who want your money and will leave for the next highest bidders and that is it
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Absolutely, if they have been able to monetize those talents to make enough money to impress women. Athletes like those you've mentioned obviously have.
Any guy who makes good money can get a girlfriend.
Not really. You gotta back it up with a good wholesome personality.
Well first of all the chess player won't pull the same girls a football player pulls and the painter will also have different girls into him. So not all sports are sexy sports.
Second of all you need to be "world class" as in millionaire athlete if you hope to attract girls without working on your appearance.
So the ideal answer is yes but the realistic answer is no chance.
You're better off getting shape, getting that hair cut thay beard trim buying some nice clothes that fit you well and then you can actually get girls you want instead of settling for the one girl who will have you
I dont think this works with most girls. Those that it does work on are probably the ones you dont really want.
With achievements it depends what kind of achievements but not at the main attraction.
Eh no. Most people out here saying that only personality matters when it’s clearly not the case. Personality AND looks matter. Looks attract me, personality makes me stay. I would go on a second date with someone who is average looking but has a great personality. However, if a guy is very handsome but is super boring, i wouldn’t give him the time of the day.
I don't understand. How do I transform to be a perfect guy?
Nobody’s perfect.
I can improve myself, but can't be perfect. If she is a GEM❤️, she will accept me with my imperfections. That's all I can say.
Yes and let’s review the evidence
exhibit A: proof you don’t have to be good looking
exhibit B: proof you don’t have to be tall
exhibit C: proof you don’t have to be in shape
Okay then. I'm wondering if it's as easy as it sounds, then why are a not insignificant sized group of men complaining otherwise.
@KlinkyCoder that’s a logical fallacy it is impossible to call yourself a man when complaining
That doesn't make much sense
@KlinkyCoder no one ever taught you that men don’t complain
Looks and career don't matter to me. He has to be funny. That's the only thing I care about😆
R u married?
I hope this answers your question
Yeah you can! But only the ones you don't want to have. The garbage.
No, I want GEM.
I am 5ft 7 inch. Most of the girls I have approached said personality, which means 6+ ft height with 6 packs abs. They will not date any guy under 6 ft.
I know what personality means. For girls , it's 6 ft height tall guy. Thanks;))
If you are an expert, tell me how do I become a perfect guy and find classy girls for dating? Or will you date me?
Smart answer. You understood my point. It's possible only in dreams not in reality.
Yes, there are great people out there. But it's like looking for a needle in haystack.
a guy has the power to attract girls if they're funny and nice. because that always wins when they're looking for an actual serious relationship. i know most would agree. but we are really not THAT difficult to please. especially when we've been through shitty guys.
now if they're looking for surface level, then sure...
i know most wouldn't** agree
Ofc.
Important for women are:
Some point can be weaker but than must another point stronger. Money f. e. can be compensated with much charisma. Visual appearance is for women secondary/not important
To a degree. If a potato has a better personality then you still won't have much luck.
One of my best friends growing up was the king of 1st dates. He was smart, athletic, handsome, good career (pharmacist), but was incredibly boring. Women flocked to him but he didn't get a second date until his 30s. So yes it helped him because without it he stood no chance even with being good looking.
exactly. Personality is king.
Yeah I don't know what’s up with guys thinking women don’t care about personality or looks. Just money and status. It’s very weird.
Then, these SAME guys complain about how the women that are willing to talk to them only want them for their money.
To an extent I think so. I know way too many below average looking men with solid careers (and/or inheritance) that were among the first to get married (and stay married) to write that off. Reasonably assured financial security counts for quite a bit, it would seem.
When you open your mouth, you need to have something to say. Simple as that. Achievements, skills, and passion can be attractive, but it's not going to reel them in by itself. In other words, it's about personality. There are exceptions to everything, but for most normal people, personality is what counts.
Women don’t care about your level of education. You think anyone cares that Floyd Mayweather is practically illiterate? He even beats women and they still throw themselves at him.
Literally all you need is money. Status. You could be a college drop out with a face like the ass end of a rhino, and multiple women will want you—if you’ve got money, status, property, or businesses.
Not with career or achievements. But personality? More likely.
Yeah, you just have to identify the women looking for a meal ticket. Not sure why any guy with any self respect would want one though. Prostitutes would be a whole lot cheaper, easier, and as equally meaningful.
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No. If you have a wonderful personality, are funny, and stop seeing women as something to be gained but as people you would like a partnership with then yeah of course.
The only women you’ll find with that crap is the women men constantly complain about.
I think personality goes a long way. Men who are confident can pull way more women than a timid guy. Which is why sometimes you’ll see a hot girl with a not so cute guy. Confidence and a great personality actually changes a person’s looks.
I want someone that I find physically, intellectually, and emotionally attractive. If all he has is his achievements then I’m sure he’d make for great entertainment like a good friend or acquaintance
Yes, success is very attractive to me.
Yes, a witch that will be with him just to use him as her personal ATM and drain his resources and live off him while he gets hardly nothing in return.
A man should never use money, career, fame and achievement to try to attract a woman, all he will be doing is attracting is the wrong kinds of women into his life.
Not the type you want. Anyone attracted by that is gold diggers.
some girls yes but not quality girls not all girls, i see it with Drs all the time
No, that is all meaningless to most women. We want personality and charisma.
No.
Women in their 20’s care about looks.
Women in their 30’s care about career and money.
Its not a good idea. They'll want to know how much you make so that they can take advantage of you for your l money. I work in the warehouse of a thrift store and I had one take advantage of me for my money.
Yeh. But only if they're gentleman with great behavior and personality. Looks don't matter but depends on the ladies.
Obviously. One of the advantages of being a man is that you have other ways to attract women outside of your physical appearance.
Different women are attracted to different things. Some will find career and achievements enough, but my guess is that most will want more.
Yes, very much so. Women are more likely to attracted to a chubster with a good job and a ton of charisma than a hottie who isn't going anywhere in life.
we attract who we want and who we are nice to and most of all who we listen too with both ears
yes, but only does that find your career and achievements important while not your looks
You will probably attract the kind of girl who you wouldn't want anyways.
Money buys many Sugar babies.
So you are saying that all wealthy successful men are married to sugar babies and gold diggers?
Not ALL men. But it tends to draw the moth to the flame. Why else would insecure, wealthy men flaunt their success.
That's why they all have hot wives.
Sure if they are looking for someone to use them. They need an attractive personality I think that goes further than looks or money.
Nothing to do with the question, but the automatic pick that GAG put up for you is Doctor Who ❤️
Yes, the more beautiful a woman is the more she prefers a man with 6 figures. Even less attractive women want a wealthy man. I knew a beautiful girl that made 55k and had a baby daddy that made 150 k. The world is full of gold digging trash
Please clarify what you mean by quality girls. Thank you.
It means not trashy girls.
Oh 😮 hmmm ok. That's like having the lowest standards I feel like. Just stay away from the ghetto girls and you'll be fine lol. You could easily find a nice girl in a small town. Small towns, there isn't a lot going on and usually families are big on holding their daughters close and not allowing them to go out. They don't really go out when there is nothing to do anyway. They're big on gender roles, if you also want that. As long as you have a job that will bring home the bacon and you won't be living paycheck to paycheck, you can save up a little each month. The family and the girl will be fine. You don't need to be a millionaire.
Nice! Dating small town girls is a good option.
Only if they are tall and have a LOT of money.
So they all are gold diggers.
Yes, but of course not all girls will be interested.
Yes, but those achievements need to be perceived as leading to higher earnings, current or future.
More with a great personality, but yes.
Yes of course
You are shallow. All you want is money. Right? You don't want a loving and caring husband.
Of course its the politically correct responses. Personality personality personality 😂
good looking is very subjective
Ur words have the power even if u have no face
Harvey Weinstein says yes
isn't that the majority of men?
Only if they get paid beaucoup bills
Gold diggers yes. I have seen it.
Not me.
It depends
Not really
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