A guy tricked me into dating him by pretending to be someone else and changing his appearance. How should I feel about this?

[Anonymous]

How should I feel? Stupid for being tricked, angry for being deceived, or just take it as a learning experience to not be so gullible? Right now, I feel mortified for being so gullible.

[inhua]

we can be mad at scammers all we want but there is some self-reflection to be made

why did we fall for their good looks? why did we fall for their money? why did we fall for their lifestyle? perhaps deep down we are just shallow people?

these questions can be applied outside of dating. why did we link on that suspicious email link that told us we won $50 million and a free holiday to Hawaii? or why did we buy that nice looking car from a guy in the trailer park, signed all the paperwork only to find out days later the car is broken beyond repair? why didn't we ask questions first and consider the possibility of something being fake?

sure these scammers attacked our primal desires but we are responsible for our primal desires

same applies to men as well. you don't get to be upset that she "tricked" you with 50 pounds of makeup because you happen to be superficial and judge someone by their looks

it is simply misplaced anger. men marrying whores and gold-diggers, women marrying bad boys only to be shocked when they get lied to, cheated on, divorced etc. they knew what they were getting themselves into but ignored the warning signs anyway

[Wonderingguyy]

You can feel all of those things! Definitely a learning experience

[MissBoogus]

You should feel betrayed, hurt, mad. Don’t feel bad about anything he’s the one that lied to you.

[razelove]

Just take it for what it is, a learning experience. Guys go through it every time we date, women using filters, make-up, so on and so forth. If you enjoyed the time with him, just tell him to put those lifts on every time, or however it is that he deceived you.

If you liked it, and it kept going after meeting face to face, then there was something going on there.

[Berethor]

It could has ended as a rape by deception, so what happened to you was a very bad thing.

[DextroShade]

If you wear makeup, waist trainers, pushup bras or use filters you are doing the same thing!

[Wise4myage]

Block him and never speak to him again.