I met a guy, we hit it off and the next day he ghosted me. did I do something wrong?

[Anonymous]

last week i went to a friends birthday gayhering, there were no more than 15 of us there. this guy, we’ll call him j, approached me and complimented the jersey i was wearing. from there we had a conversation and hit it off instantly, spending the rest of the night talking. we had a lot of chemistry and others noticed it too, with some asking if we were a couple and telling us how good we look together. towards the end of the night, he pulled me aside and asked for my social media, telling me that he finds me very attractive and enjoys talking to me; he initially asked me for my snapchat but i told him i’m not very active on there and gave him my number instead. he left for a little bit then returned and called me to open the door for him as it was locked from the outside and we carried on as usual. he left before me but i wasn’t certain if he going home or had to go do something, as i was on my way home i called him again (i think this might’ve been where i messed up) to update him on our drunk friend which we had spent a bit of time taking care of. he told me he was also on his way home and i asked him if he was nearby so i could come say goodbye, he told me he was pretty far out so we simply just said our goodbyes over the phone and that was the end of that. that night when giving him my number, he sent me a text saying to make sure it was correct, so the next morning i replied just saying hi and asking if he got home safe, he took a little bit to respond but when he did he apologised for that as he was busy so i didn’t think too much of it (it’s a Sunday, maybe he’s hungover?) i didn’t stress and carried on with the conversation, asking about something we had spoken about the night prior, he responded once more and then after i replied to that message, he went ghost.

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2/2 i deleted his number and cleared the chat after about a day as it’s clear that he doesn’t wanna speak to me, however i can’t help but wonder if i did something wrong? it’s important to note that we were both drinking a bit but nothing crazy to where we were disoriented. he also told all our mutual friends there that he’s attracted to me and wants to get to know me better so i can’t help but wonder what changed in less than 24 hours? did i come across too strong?

[SueShe]

It is clear that he could not achieve what he intended to when he addressed you and singled you out of that crowd. His intentions were obviously to get into your pants as quickly as possible but when met with resistance by you, he simply lost interest.

The second you did not give him your social contact but only your phone number is the second where you were no longer interesting to him. Not wanting to tell you that, he simply started distancing himself from you with totally fallacious excuses and then ghosting you.

Nothing really unusual in today's "hit and run" world. If a girl cannot be laid flat on the first date, then she is not interesting anymore. There are plenty of fish out there that are willing to fornicate right away.

No big loss.

[SueShe]

thanks for the MHO

[scott04sa22]

I let someone go recently because she hate kids and I didn't feel safe for her being around my family and friends. She was also crazy with no ambitions. My dad's families don't like people like that. If I proceed on the relationship, then I'll get disowned. Also she'll be sitting on the table everyday always thinking about herself then enjoying life when worrying about herself and the world ending every minute.

[In_Trance]

He had other options, that's' all

[Asker]

yea that makes sense, i’m just struggling to understand why he’d even bother talking to me and ask for my details only to disappear less than a day later, like what was the point 😭

[KITEinStorm]

ghosting is very popular nowadays. :( A few days later he asks you to meet up and then he ghost again...

Do you know if he is married or in another relationship?

[Asker]

he’s definitely not married and i’m pretty certain he’s not in another relationship from what i know (we share a best friend who would let me know if that was the case), i’m just trying to decipher if i hounded him too much by calling and texting?

[KITEinStorm]

Forget about him, stay away from men who are offended by everything and whose moods change insignificantly.

There's nothing you've done wrong. He is just playing the role of not being able to stand being strangled.

[Staximus]

He's just a gen z bitch boy who didn't have enough balls to ask you for your phone number like a real man