I ghosted him was I wrong?

[imzadi28]

So i was seeing this guy i met at work. We worked same building on different floors different companies. He seemed real cool at first kinda nerdy. I told him I had just went through a bad break up and really just wanted to take things slow. I expressed to him multiple times I wasn't looking to be physical I wanted connection. He said he understood but, kept hinting off about taking things further. He went out of his way to plan a hiking date that was ok until he kept trying to feel up on me. Then there was the time i went to visit him at his office for lunch and he once again hinted off about getting physical and letting him keep my panties if he beat me at uno. I tried to ignore it because he was fun to be around, but at the same time it just felt off, he just kept insisting i needed my needs met and to be taken care of. The last straw for me was when i went to visit him for lunch and he told me to lay on my back i did thinking he was just going to show me a stretch like before. But no he tried to pull my pants down and said he was going to please me orally. I jumped up and was like no im good. 5mins later his business partner walks in. I was so happy I didn't let him I would have been mortified. After that I texted him for a then went ghost. He bought lunch a few times plus the date so I felt bad. But at the same time I feel I warned him enough. Was I wrong? Is he a creep or am I over thinking

[Nawlins34]

You're not wrong, but you fed the fire somewhat.

You were ignoring your intuition, even when it was obvious he didn't understand what you said.

I'm not a fan of ghosting regardless of the gender, but I understand in your situation.

That said, don't expect the same guy who didn't understand what you meant when you said, "take things slow" to understand being "ghosted". Going forward, your actions have to match your words.

Leave him the hell alone. You can't go the sexual harassment route, because you were responsive at least initially.

If he reaches out to you again, let him know that you will be sending a message/email, in that message/email you let him know that going forward, you're not interested in him beyond a professional relationship and that you felt uncomfortable.

You basically want to date/time stamp the moment you let him know that you two aren't trying anything anymore.

For legal purposes, better off doing this on company email, immediately save a copy of your email and his response if any - keep them. Better yet, BCC them to your personal email to keep a copy. Make a mental note of all CC cameras in the building that you frequent and make a point not to cross paths with him without being in range of those cameras.

Be safe and good luck.

[spartan55]

He is definitely a creep who didn't respect your boundaries. That being said, there are a couple of things you may want to reflect on. First is how you handled ending it with him. I understand he was a creep and you just wanted away from him, but perhaps you should have told him why you dropped him. Second, you may want to pause dating until you are more comfortable with the physical side. I get why you are avoiding it, but most guys don't want to be your friend.

[Sour-rose]

O heeeeelll no. fk that shi, it's better that way to ghost him. He's a freak. If you gonna please me, you gonna need me to give you consent, pal. Otherwise, you might go to the hospital with a broken nose and knife cuts on your body.

[MagicCarpet1]

Reading this made me lose some brain cells. I am actually more surprised that you actually have a job.

[Iron_Man]

You should have ended it right there in the spot never having a conversation with him again

[fonduegirl]

Yes, ghost that creep