Is it alright to ask a girl to kiss her on a date?

[Anonymous]

I have a hard time reading body language due to having Asperger’s and I believe it’s toxic masculinity for guys to “go for it” and steal a kiss without asking permission.

I am conservative but think masculinity is defined as being intellectual, not being “macho”.

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9 mo

This is also relevant. I graduated college and typically only date women who have degrees because people with higher education are less likely to define masculinity by its rough elements or think someone is gay because they’re shy. Brain over brawn.

[Screenwriter]

Listen to the woman's talk during the date, and at the end of the date if the woman simply says "Goodnight and thank you," does not offer her hand to shake, or ask for a kiss, then leave it at that.

If she says she'd like to see you again, then tell her you'll call her for another date within the week.

Thank her, and wait 3 days to a week to send a text. If you get no response, it would appear she's not interested.

You could try to contact her again... ONCE. If she doesn't respond, assume she's not interested and have no further contact. Time to move on.

I hope you're seeing a therapist/social trainer to help you recognize social cues. It takes practice for ALL OF US, even neurotypicals MISS CUES. So don't give yourself a hard time with this. Err on the side of caution. Do LESS than you'd like to. Also ASK.

Most women would not be offended if a gentleman gave them a kiss ON THE CHEEK. And told them they had a pleasant time. Even if you never see them again, you'll have ended on a positive note. That's ALWAYS good.

[JackCarter]

I like your mindset on toxic masculinity
If I were yoi, I would wait for her to give enough signs or maybe till she goes for it.
Asking it too early , when she is not comfortable enough can be a turn off...

[Billlewis]

Of course. When I'm on a first date with a woman, I usually ask her if I can kiss her feet afterwards.

[Cheerfull009]

Yes, get her permission