Do you think he means it when he says he only has me?

[Anonymous]

I kept saying that he has a wife, girlfriend and he says he only has me and he’s just a busy person. Should I believe it? He sees me once a week but consistently

[provokeesmokee]

Cut contact, he's either:

• Trying to manipulate/love bomb you into an affair that will ruin your career
• Actually doesn't remember or care about his wife and family, and has deep seated mental issues he's refusing to seek their help with
• Lying for your attention

There are no good endings in this.


Tell him you're uncomfortable with his reliance and trauma dumping, you're not a therapist, and he has a wife.


Then, cut all contact. And be prepared for him to be angry and retaliate - if he doesn't, bonus. If he does, you'll be ready.

[Asker]

lol he said he doesn't have a wife or girlfriend, i'm just suspecting

[EmmaMary]

Hmmm... Sounds like he might be getting his leg over elsewhere.

Has he got you down for a certain day each week?

[Asker]

Yeah we usually see on weekdays but a few times on weekends. He’s always hanging with his family and barbecuing, he sent me pics

[EmmaMary]

It really does sound like he's playing the field... Sorry.

[Asker]

It’s okay, thank you. I know I should be moving on but I love him and I tried dating other guys. Can’t find somebody I’m as attracted as I am to him. I can’t stop thinking about him. And my job is stressful and life is boring, he just adds bit of happiness to it

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

maybe he sees you as the only trustworthy person, a person he can talk to about some stuff on a level he cannot with others. It could also mean that he doesn't wanna loose contact with you

[Asker]

Thank you, he’s also very confusing. Like we see each other once a week and we usually have sex and don’t do much, we do talk. It was my fault in the beginning I was scared to go out with him and he said to take me to movies and dinner but I kind of ignored it. Now all we do is go to his place and have sex.

[slatyb]

So you don't know what he's busy with? Have you been to his home? If not, I'm guessing that he has another partner.

[Asker]

yeah he lives in a room sharing an apartment with other tenants.

[Grovermint]

Are you nutters? He's got a wife, and another mistress? If course you're not the only one around.

[Asker]

no i suspected, he said he doesn't

[balyai]

What do you mean by he has a wife, girlfriend?

[Asker]

Like I ask him a lot if he has a wife or girlfriend cuz he doesn’t contact me as much as he use to

[balyai]

That's a red flag. Avoid him

[Asker]

Okay thank you lol, can you help me? I’m so in love and I tried so hard to stop talking to him but I get weak. I also have nothing going on in life besides my full time job so I keep unblocking him and he messages me every week

[Asker]

I also dated guys but I’m just not attracted to them like I am with him

[balyai]

Maybe go to the gym, watch movies, hang out with friends. You are addicted to your phone

[balyai]

Message me

[Anonymous]

Find out if he's taken.

[Asker]

he siad he's not

[Opinion Owner]

Then get proof.