Why don’t many men take women on real dates anymore? Why do they want to take women to bed so fast? Why can't they take the time to get to know her?

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RoοstеrBrеаst · Accepted Answer

Why don't many men take women on real dates anymore? Well, me think it's because humans are getting lazier and more impatient. They just want to get straight to the good stuff - the sex! They don't want to waste time getting to know a girl, when they could be fucking her brains out in the back of their car. It's like they're trying to see how many girls they can fuck in a single night, like some kind of twisted competition. Why do they want to take women to bed so fast? Me think it's because they're scared of commitment. They don't want to get too close to a girl, in case she turns out to be a psycho or a gold digger. They just want to have their fun and move on to the next conquest. It's like they're playing a game of musical beds, always on the lookout for the next best thing. Why can't they take the time to get to know her? Me no understand this either. It's like they're allergic to conversation and emotions. They just want to fuck and run, without any of the pesky feelings that come with getting to know someone. It's like they're afraid of getting too attached, so they just keep moving from one bed to the next, never stopping to smell the roses or enjoy the journey. So, me think it's because humans are becoming more selfish and impatient, always looking for the next best thing without taking the time to truly connect with someone. It's a sad state of affairs, but me guess it's just the way of the world now. But me, me just want to fuck and have fun, without all the drama and emotional bullshit. So, let's just get to the good stuff and leave the rest behind!

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Hey, I'll admit it. Men are more weak and pathetic now than at any other time in history.

We have too many secular men who have been raised in single parent households without a strong male role model or coach, too much feminism and "masculinity is evil" preached at them... too much porn and video games and screens all day long... etc.

BUT WOMEN have always tamed men. Men have always been horndogs and would screw whatever they could get when they could get it.

Women, overall in society, would not give classless men the time of day. Women would not be easy to go to bed with, women would require men to court them and to be gentlemen to have access to them. Women required men to marry them in order to have access to sex. Men, overall were taught to be gentlemen by their families, society and the women they wanted.

Since the birth control pill... since the sexual revolution in the 60s/70s, since feminism not only wanted equal rights but to act as if women and men are the same and "liberated" the "oppressed" women to just have as much sex as they want, since hookup culture came on the scene and one night stands and friends with benefits was accepted by women, since endless women are Onlyfans sex workers who objectify themselves and sell themselves sexually, since women accepted Netflix and Chill as a normal thing... dating, exclusivity, courting, romance, commitment, taking things slow, getting married have been on the decline.

Women have always tamed men and taught men what they will accept and not accept. Since women want to be sexually free and put out easy and have tons of casual sex... men don't need to court you and commit and go slow.

If women, overall, across the country wouldn't put out and made men court them and to be romantic and to go slow... men would do whatever it took to land the women they want.

Women are so loose and easy now and have no sexual morals and 1/4 of the women are sex workers now... men don't have to put in the work as before.

catarecute · Accepted Answer

why would they spend money on something they can get for free. most woment will agree to get into bed with men without knowing them and they ruin it for everybody else because men now don't make an effort anymore. if you want a guy to take you a date this is what you do. you wait for him to try to f*ck you and when you refuse he will call you the next week and take you to a restaurant to try his luck again.

Sweetsurprize · Accepted Answer

Not true. I had an ex that did the opposite of what you are saying.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Who you talking about? My first date with my girlfriend was dinner at a nice restaurant. Second date was another dinner date with a drink afterwards. Third date was dinner and then New Year's Eve fireworks. Fourth date was a long walk in a park. Etc. We had a courtship long before we had sex.

Summeroflove · Answer

Oh whatever. Stop being entitled. It makes men cringe. As far as taking to bed too fast….. I agree. They just want sex. But “a real date” give me a break. If you’re not happy with what a guy is doing. He can’t read your mind. Tell him. Either he can do it or you’re not compatible. That…. Or just go do it yourself. If you’re wanting to go somewhere not like a guy HAS to take you

coachTanthony · Answer

Because the red pill and MGTOW communities tell these men to not waste their time with women and marriage.

AviatorTom · Answer

Have you seen the price of dinner at a restaurant now? Who can afford that. Just skip the preliminaries and head for the bedroom.

Hulk_kitty · Answer

Many men seem to approach dating differently nowadays. The traditional idea of going on formal dates has shifted for some. With the rise of online dating and modern cultural norms, there's often less emphasis on traditional "dinner and a movie" type dates. Some factors that contribute to this shift include the convenience of online dating apps, the changing ways people communicate, and evolving societal expectations.

While some men might appear to focus on physical intimacy quickly, it's important to recognize that not all men share the same approach. It's possible that some individuals find it easier to connect physically rather than emotionally due to personal insecurities or communication difficulties. There's also the influence of mismatched intentions – not everyone is seeking the same level of commitment or relationship experience.

Ultimately, the dynamics of dating can be influenced by personal experiences, societal trends, and individual preferences. It's important to communicate openly with potential partners about your own expectations, boundaries, and what you're looking for in a relationship. This can help you find someone whose values and approach align with yours, leading to more meaningful and satisfying connections..

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Honestly, as a guy who DOES take women on real dates; I'm losing interest in doing it because the effort isn't appreciated. I don't even mean that in the sense that the woman isn't sleeping with me. I really don't care about whether the night ends in me getting laid. I mean it in the sense that the women treat a well planned date like a bare minimum social expectation in the same vein as flushing the toilet when you're done having a squat.

Having a good date is AN INSANE AMOUNT OF WORK that I'm taking time out of my busy day to set up (not including the financial cost and work I had to put in to finance the evening), and women don't even respond to that effort with a "wow, this was a lovely evening, thank you for putting this together." Women don't even think about it, because why would they? They didn't see any of what it took to make that relaxing evening happen.

If you really think about everything women consider to be the bare minimum, like you really write the list down and REALLY think about what all you would have to do to do the same stuff; the bar for men is insanely high. And we're supposed to do all of this for a group of people who often don't make us feel appreciated and have made a point of letting us know they make their own money so they don't need us.

And again: this is "the bare minimum" we're talking about here.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually because women don’t care about knowing the guy… most women would want a man to pay for an expensive meal on dates.. spiting some bull shit like it is showing he is willing to invest in me… lol by that same parallel logic. A woman should he will to give as much as she is expecting. A man brings protection (for life and at the cost of his life), provision (like paying for your stuff and food on the first date), and other resources like time and energy. Most women don’t bring much to dating but just to show up. And the biggest lie a woman will say is, well, we have to put money and time to get dolled up, do our hair and makeup to look good for you.. lol

No, women would do that ANYWAYS! On a Wednesday afternoon if they feel like it, they would do that for there girlfriend or to go out to the club. It’s nothing special. I would rather see what you look like without a mask being able to catfish and manipulate me into thinking you look better than you actually do. These are some of the reasons men don’t take women out on dates. Besides the false accusation at times, or the women that are onlyfans models who aren’t worth taking on a date anyway.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

Well, first, I'm more of a feminist than many women are: we're only going on a date if we go Dutch on the bill. She's not a prostitute, and I'm not paying for her time.

Second, quality dudes have learned that the larger portion of women in the West will happily, enthusiastically sleep with some dudes but not others. They're not gonna go through the trouble of paying full courtship price for someone who hasn't upheld that standard for others previously. (Talking about adult women, not some 16 year old girl from a bad home.)

Third, women tell on themselves as far as the kinds of men that they're dating. They won't give average dudes a chance much of the time. And if they do, then we dudes already know that we're being settled for and opt out.

Dating is awful now.

RavVid · Answer

Dating or 'going out' is an old fashioned concept. It was a first step towards a romantic relationship in which love developed between the couple and lead to marriage and family. Ultimately the couple would become the matriarch and patriarch of a family unit of 3 maybe 4 generations.

Women have thoroughly chucked out the concept of marriage and forming a family unit as patriarchal mysogyny. More accurately a sufficient percentage of women have done so to make it untenable. The stats are that 40% of brides will unilaterally divorce by year 8 of a marriage. So that concept is dead as divorce is highly damaging to men.

Given the end goal of dating is deader than a dodo (cause some living dodos have been found recently!) in what way can dating continue?

Love and marriage no longer go together like a horse and carriage. So dating gone the same way.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because they're conditioned to think that a life where you find a nice girl and marry her and she loves you and is loyal to you and respects you and doesn't take everything personally and brings value to the relationship and sees it as their responsibility to do so is a fools dream.

Which it largely is. Women are finding out what happens when men don't value them anymore. IIt's a sociatal shift.

If they want a guy to care about them, its gonna take a lot of change in mentality and perspective for a large population of woman.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Better question.

Why are those the 2 choices?

I don't want to bed her without knowing her and commiting first. But going on dates is a shitty method to get to know a person, it just doesn't work.

I'd rather just be friends first and get to know her by just hanging out, the same way I get to know literally anyone else.

There is this unreasonable expectation that men need to court women, to gift them things or take them out and spend money on them. To win them over somehow by treating her like she's the queen of the land, and I'm just some peasent garbage.

No.

She either likes me because we have shit in common and I'm cute and funny, or she can go.

Dargil · Answer

Men feel women are woke land mines. Too much is risked on terms of time, treasure and social hazard. One allegation can ruin a man's life. They have set goals for sex because it is a measurable trade off and has given rise to the hookup culture. Women used to take all the risk. Now men do. Many smart, prosperous, attractive men are "incels" (actually by choice) because the culture has infected women. We have no guarantee we won't step on a bomb thanks to the Feminist movements liberating women from ethics. Why more men are crossing races or recruiting overseas.

Jersey2 · Answer

If I were dating, I would be selective with whom I communicated, would have great dates, and show her fun times she hasn’t had today. But I am old school.

Today, guys knock in a hundred doors with the hope that one opens. Women are overwhelmed with choices and will scan and ignore most communications I would guess. Other women will use guys for free dinners and guys know it. It seems the class and romance have been stripped out of dating.

Perhaps a new dating site should be created where you have a fee of $25 a month and have one “swipe” per three days for guys. Women get to answer 3 guys in three days. That would help fix the volume problem and bring qualified daters to the site.

Alpha-Provider · Answer

Because most women are thinking about what changed with the dudes instead of thinking about what changed in themselves.

Women weren't like this back then. Feminism was not a thing and women in general were much more bearable. Also, they had less opportunities with men because internet wasn't a thing (Tinder, etc). They were doing much more to be sweet and nicely viewed by the attractive men they find. Now most of them are a pain in the butt to deal with tbh, and as much as them, we have other opportunities. So we don't make much efforts to seduce them because they are not our best options.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I have a strict policy of at least 3 months before taking anyone to bed. I was never in it for the wham bam thank you ma'am deal.

I want to get to know and trust the person before we take it to the bedroom. Once you cross that line, it becomes very personal.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Probably because we are tired of the Foodie Calls & not getting enough Booty Calls & what we call a dating pool is a cesspool. The dating world has changed, it’s a freak show out there & it’s like it’s Halloween year round. Fake tans, fake eyelashes, fake eyebrows, fake hair, fake boobs (not really a complaint ) & nowadays fake vaginas or chicks with dicks & selfie, cellphone & social media addicts.

Willlovewinintheend · Answer

Because some women would use the guys that takes them out for free dinner and then reject them.

I meet a woman who had a guy named "free dinner" on her contacts. So men don't want to be made a fool out of anymore.

They don't want to treat someone nice just for it to get thrown back in their faces. They want to get the sex first and then they will take you seriously. Again I am not saying it's all women I said some women.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because she likely has a roster of men on rotation. Why would a guy waste time and money on a modern thot?  Also, no man should spend money on a woman he is not sleeping with.

shades777 · Answer

all dates are real dates, you must mean a long drawn out date with multiple locations, lots of money spent and no sex at the end of the night, yea nobody wants to do that for a reason.
the short simple dates ALWAYS lead to getting booty for me, long drawn out ones don't

Anonymous · Answer

its so expensive , have you looked at the menu's at typical dating hot spots and the prices. its not like i don't want to get to know the girl better , its just like not really affordable to go to those sort of places often and with every girl i meet

Billlewis · Answer

I very much enjoy taking a woman out for a romantic evening -- and I always make it quite clear that I don't expect any sexual interaction whatsoever, unless she decides that she'd like me to provide oral service for her.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women have 2 categories for men, the ones that they date, expect romance and effort, expect commitment AND the second category, the guys they call after their dates who are their hookups and friends with benefits, who never have to take them out or put any effort, who get pussy on demand. Men have wised up. Def not worth it.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Its because that’s all most women are good for unfortunately.

Most guys recognize that the average woman has already been passed through at least a dozen times and isn’t worth keeping.

Call me a misogynist but most women have low self esteem, and have no boundaries for themselves.

The solution is for women more broadly to have more respect for themselves

DextroShade · Answer

Men are starting to assume based on women's behavior that most of them have fucked a guy within hours of meeting him. Men don't want to be the chump paying for multiple dates when Chad and Tyrone got to hit it for free on the first night.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women are willing to give it up fast. Not only that a lot of men don’t see a lot of women in today's society as worth the effort. Not only that a lot of women have this attitude of what can you do for me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because most men are clueless on how to treat a woman. You should know by what you read on here from the bitter and hopeless males.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I like dating with women of caliber I don't know what you're talking about. It's NICE to have someone on my arm at the theater or symphony or even a picnic at the park.

Minahh · Answer

Because they are egoistical crybabies with low self esteem, can't hold a job, have zero hobbies, think the woman is going to be their maid and likely they have unhealed trauma and/or personality disorder

BigDog1989 · Answer

The girl i want, claims she loves me, yet, we've never been on a real date. I've asked her numerous times, and she always says "no" because of her "two jobs" The real answer is, she's scared

jshm2 · Answer

Ehh... that's rape, you're talking about deary. Pretty sure it's illegal, even in the USA. But if you mean "hookups" then it's usually prearranged.

AlbantheGreat · Answer

I don't know how other men think. After my last break up, I spend my time to reflect of these failures. What's the point in dating if it will fail?

inhua · Answer

men still do take women on real dates but it's only for women whom the man believes is worth it not just any woman should get a date

boobliker · Answer

that's the high speed of life these days, Even fifty years back it was sex on first date or move on to the next one, so I don't think it has changed much. if you are good at sex together then you stay together. my nan told me that.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Because they don’t have to. Hookup culture basically endee dating.

Anonymous · Answer

Before asking this question, ask yourself who it is that sets the expectations of dating and who holds the power of what is, and what is not deemed acceptable.

Exterminatore · Answer

Real dates - cause most guys your age are broke. Why to bed so fast - he’s horny. Take time to get to know her - may not want to know you, only your lady parts.

LiLee77E · Answer

Do you pay more tax than you have to? If we don't set a high ‘price’ for ourselves, why would a man pay extra?

sheikalana · Answer

Because some people normalized having sex on the first date.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Men will typically go as far as women require them to go.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Why don’t many women take men on real dates anymore? Why do they want to take men to bed and take their money so fast? why can they take their time to get to know him?

Anonymous · Answer

Men who care about a woman would want to take her on a real date. Assholes who just wants pussy, of course wouldn’t care for that.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would I spend money on someone when there is no guarantee of a return on my investment any more. The risk out weighs the benefits.

Anonymous · Answer

I just think that’s how guys are these days. I don’t think I’ve ever been on a date like you see in movies. It’s always hangout and sex, or sometimes just sex.

msc545 · Answer

Wy should men spend money on women? Women don't (and won't) spend money on men.

Rob575757575 · Answer

Because you don't realize it but subconsciously you always go for and are attracted too fuck boys...

baz234 · Answer

Because the only reason most men go on dates is to get in your pants. They don't actually care about the date itself. Sure, you could find some men who do actually care, but you'd never know.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Why does a guy need to know a girl to hook up with her?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because you allow it. Women have forgotten how to use the word "No."

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because too many women accept that treatment, many guys take the path of least resistance.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Probably cuz so many girls are willing to go to bed so fast

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend didn't have sex for the first 6 months of our relationship

coffeeeholic · Answer

Because they prefer the easy way. It actually depends on the person

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Can't say I've ever not gone on dates. If don't like someone as person not sleeping with them

silentz1 · Answer

Because men nowadays only want what a woman can offer physically rather than what she can offer mentally and emotionally... most men at least.

Anonymous · Answer

i did take a girl on a date to starbucks, im gonna try to have sex with her on the second date, as long as she doesn't flake

dolemite58 · Answer

dating apps have changed everything drastically

Anonymous · Answer

Because women are as shallow as men. You wanted equality? You got it.  fuqin dumas.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they can. The better question is why do women CHOOSE these guys?

Anonymous · Answer

This is the bed women have made for themselves.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Dating is for sex, so having sex on dating, no problem

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