Why is it so easy for women to get a date but harder for men to get a date?

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misogynistic_pig · Accepted Answer

It is important to note that generalizing about the dating experiences of men and women can be problematic.

Each person is unique and may have different dating experiences depending on their personality, situation, and context.

It's important not to generalize or assume that all women are more successful at dating than all men.

Additionally, it's important to consider that societal expectations and pressures can affect the way women and men seek out and experience dating.

Men are often expected to initiate and stick with dating, which can create more pressure and anxiety for men than women.

There may also be gender stereotypes and biases that affect how men and women are perceived in the dating world.

Instead of focusing on the differences between men and women in dating, it's important to work on building healthy, respectful relationships based on clear communication and mutual respect.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that each person has the right to set their own boundaries and expectations in relationships, and that gender equality and mutual respect are critical to maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Novacane · Accepted Answer

Men love idealistically and women love opportunistically. Men are the ones that have to go out and make the first move and they are taught to not judge a women so they typically have less standards for women because men are more likely try to find things that would qualify you. Vs Women are the selectors since they don’t have to make the first move they just say yes or no so are more likely to be picky and will judge you based in every merit because they are looking for things to disqualify you.

Adaeva · Accepted Answer

It is natural selection. During the 3 million year long Stone Age our male ancestors are men that produced the most descendants; i. e., impregnated the most women. There investment was maybe 15 minutes plus possibly some food. Therefore, they didn't need to be choosy as most any fertile young woman would do.

However, women had to invest 9 or 10 months plus 10 to 12 years caring for her child until it was old enough to care for itself. And, for her child to survive it needed to have the best genes. Therefore, to maximize her descendants, a women needed to be very choosy. The Stone Age ended about 5,000 years ago when the Bronze Age began. Since that is a blink of an eye in evolutionary terms, we still have our Stone Age brains. That means men are not choosy but women are.

AmyHew1tt · Accepted Answer

Well, I've never gotten a date, but that's my personal experience. However, what comes into it I think is that lots of guys will be willing to date a girl just because she's a girl, and not necessarily because he has feelings for her. Every single guy friend I know has admitted he's dated a girl who approached him for up to a few months without realizing he didn't actually like her and he was just going along because of ego reasons and liking feeling 'wanted.'

Girls are less likely to go on a date if the guy isn't someone she has a genuine interest in.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Getting a guy who wants to spend 5 weeks with you is different from getting a guy who wants to marry you and have kids with you. I believe men have an easier time finding wives then woman do of finding husbands which is why any guy that is a 7 out of 10 can find a wife but a girl has to be an 8 or 9 out of 10 to guarantee a husband. I also know gorgeous girls that could not find husbands til their 30s cause they had too much drama from past connections with bad men.

Guy13 · Answer

Because women have the prize, most men are boys, and we all want the prize.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I beg to disagree. I don’t get dates easy

Fabiloso · Answer

So I just direct people to the Whatever podcast now when this topic arrives. Yeah its dumb but there's reason. Women more often put out for a guy and more often offer much less in return. It's been a natural tumble of hookup culture warping many minds. There's a lot of good that came from the "old fashioned or trad ways" There was balance back then, however less understanding of physical sexual arousal for sure as well by both genders. So I hope we as gen z does seem to not be having sex near as much. I hope we can all come to a conclusion of how amazing sex and real tangible love is supposed to be when both endured and saught for equally.

Gibbons44 · Answer

It isn't. Women generally expext to get paid for being at home. So - any guy that offers something like that/something in that domain - she goes and tries. It's like a job to start at when offered, then see how she goes.

A man is an employer in that context so needs to always think whether she'd be worth it. Most of the time the answer is 'not'.

In fact, I'd argue that they fake in front of you how they can easily get a date - to convince you that you are somehow defficient unless you are paying a woman to be with you.

Whether there is any reason to do that - e. g. for childrearing - or whether even that should be a 50%/50% effort - I cannot quite tell right now. Even though I assume I'd be wearing some cost of it, I still struggle to find reason to pay a woman for pleasure.

JSmuve · Answer

It's because most men have to ask a woman out if they want to get snatch, which means that lots of guys are asking lots of women out. And with all of these options, women can afford to be pickier (they can't fuck them all). So they go for the best options, which means that there are lots of guys missing out and these guys have to lower their standards to get women. This, in turn, means that more women are getting more attention and can be even more selective. So in the end, you have an attention imbalance where women receive a surplus of attention and dates from all guys who are trying to get a girl while guys have a really difficult time getting a date.

This would end if guys raised their standards and stopped approaching women. Make them work for your attention instead of giving it away so freely. But guys being guys won't be able to do that because there will always be those that can't control themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

Because guys actually have to convince women they're worth giving a chance. And women are really judgmental so one wrong move, one wrong word and it dashes every inroad he's made. And the worst part is the judgement typically comes from every mistake SHE'S ever made.

Conversely a woman just has to be available. And a guy will give her a chance.

Because at the end of the day the vetting process between men and women is VERY different. Men interview many women by way of dating. Women conversely decide by dating whether they even want to interview a guy. So women reject many good men and choose select lesser men solely based on feelings. Feelings that are based on nothing really😆😆😆 And women wonder why they fail so much. But hey, you can't tell someone how to live thier life. Many women just simply have to learn through many many mistakes.

rienna888 · Answer

Because men have to initiate and court the girl. He has to ask her out, look decent, have confidence, have good hygiene etc. so if a guy lacks confidence, is shy af, or ugly, he’s gonna avoid asking a girl out or will get rejected. But even if a girl lacks confidence, shy af, the boy usually makes the move so she doesn’t have to worry too much unless she’s very repulsive and lacks hygiene

Pohjolan · Answer

Firstly women are more picky in general by nature as they would have been the one stuck with a kid before contraception and abortion.

Secondly supply and demand.

In younger age groups in US there is currently two single men for every single woman so around a third are bound to fail at dating by default.

exitseven · Answer

I think it about the same. Girls have to be subtle and try and attract a guy enough so that he will ask her on a date. It is not a straightforward process.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Because women tend to actually have standards.

Bricealan · Answer

The short answer is... for the most part, all things being equal, women date who they want, and men date who they CAN

katiesmuff · Answer

Guess it is just one of the few bonuses we get for being a woman!

DermalPunch · Answer

Easy to get a date but hard to get a comittment.

worldscolide · Answer

Simple answer, Women have to be more picky than men do when it comes to choosing a partner. This is why we as men get rejected more often.

Anonymous · Answer

Because most men are down bad and would have sex with anything that has a vagina. Sad truth. However I’ll say it’s more so that good looking people get more dates regardless of gender.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Supply and demand. Men pursue 99.99% of the time. Women that say they do are usually lying or did it differently than a man would.

OddBeMe · Answer

Not sure this is proven. I’d suspect, women have it easier getting initial attention, but then actual dating is equally hard.

Anonymous · Answer

Because men are supposed to take the first step. If they can’t, it’s hard to get a date.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Huh? All you have to do is ask a girl out. It's pretty easy.

TheFlak38 · Answer

because the sexual marketplace is rigged in their favour

Christoff92 · Answer

Well, look at women's roles in life. Look at men's.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Why do guys neeeeeed dates so badly? What’s the novelty?

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because men are the askers out and women the selectors

Anonymous · Answer

That's only true for men and women in their teens and 20s. After age 30 r so, it's actually the opposite.

Ihatethewill · Answer

It should be obvious. Men are thirstier than women.

InvisibleHovercraft · Answer

You guys need to stop chase these women and putting them on a pedestal, then they'll come around.

Sasha2004 · Answer

Simple, the majority of men chase women but women don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because men have always been expected to start an interaction

Anemone978 · Answer

Men are less picky...

Haha456 · Answer

Because men are more horny and desperate

4ngelic · Answer

men are a lot hornier

melanieeeB · Answer

Most guys are less picky

Pinz89 · Answer

Ah, look, Self pitty at its finest.

midnightcavern01 · Answer

Because most girls don't have high expectations

serious · Answer

Is that true? Is that a fact?

Unit1 · Answer

Supply and demand. Its that simple 😐

Anonymous · Answer

Men have lower standards.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Supply and demand

noohair · Answer

Women hold the keys to the kingdom.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we have to do the asking

Anonymous · Answer

cause men will fuck anything.

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