Why in general is dating harder for men but easier for women?

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hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Uh, probably because a man has to prove a lot about himself to get maximum trust/respect from a woman. Women often get a free pass. As long as she looks good, most guys will cut her a lot of slack.

This doesn't work as easily for her as she gets older... not only because her looks might fade but most of the guys she runs into at that point are wiser AND have built themselves up and have more confidence & resources.

So a woman starts life like a race car.. and the typical guy starts life as a bicycle. But at some point this flips and he's like a spaceship... and she's a rowboat.

TheUniqueOne96 · Accepted Answer

Because we have to approach and make the effort, standing out above the rest.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Nobody knows the troubles I've seen! Of course, I don't know what troubles others have but I know ALL about my own troubles, so I will just assume that they are worse than those experienced by anyone else.

Whatever you may think about the relative buden experienced by the two sexes in the dating sphrere, why does it matter. If girls have it easier, are you going to sign up for a sex change surgery?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The reason dating is harder for men is because pregnancy, child birth, and post pregnancy weight loss is harder for women. Both genders sacrifice for the relationship but they don’t sacrifice themselves at the same time.

MCheetah · Answer

Modem women in general have shallow, entitled, super-high arrogant standards, along with an entitled "the man should provide everything for me" attitude, formerly due to pregnancy in the past, but nowadays due to narcissism and egotism (since these same women don't even want kids anymore, but have kept the same attitudes as if they're going to be providing for future children when they're not).

And modern men in general let women get away with this sh*tty entitled behavior instead of putting their foot down, having some standards, and not "putting pussy on a pedestal." Thus, you get a culture of Tinder, OnlyFans, Simps, and sh*tty, ugly 3s and 2s thinking their 9s and 10s, regardless of how ugly, fat, old they are, or how many children they have.

The funny thing is, I'm very much a romantic type. I'm just also the type not to get pushed around, used, exploited, or hurt. Not anymore. And a lot of men have become like me recently, as well. While women are currently the gatekeepers to sex and always have been, men have now become the gatekeepers to relationships, and only recently have become this.

While both genders still have their major issues in the 2020s, women are still the ones who need to be "impressed" and men are still the ones tasked to doing all the "impressing," while now, also getting sh*t on and losing their time, youth, and sometimes, their finances, in the process. Until more women decide to be better and drop the egos, and more men decide to smarten up and stop being pathetic simps, things are only going to continue to get worse from here.

TL;DR: Women think no men are "good enough" for them nowadays, and more and more men currently aren't putting up with their sh*t anymore. Thus, everyone's single in an overpopulated, always-online world.

shaysh87 · Answer

I will explain why dating is harder for men. Its because men have higher standards when it comes to physical beauty. You will find a lot of 45 yr old men who are unwilling to date women around their own age but seek women who are at least 10 years younger.
But the reality is, women under 35 years old typically have plenty of options, they don't need to settle for an ugly old guy in his 40s. So these 40 something yr old guys remain frustrated. They find themselves hitting on all these young women but very few of them seem to be reciprocating interest. But women around their own age would be more open to dating them than young women.

So you have young men in their 20s, 30s, 40s who are chasing women in their 20s to early 30s. There simply aren't enough young women for so many guys at all various ages. This is why men complain about not getting any replies.

I have a lot of experience interacting with men. They have high standards and are unwilling to settle. Its what they deserve.

dragoblack · Answer

Because wemon have plenty of options with guys flooding their inbox on social media sites like Facebook and same applies to dating apps... granted most of the messages are dick pics, creepy dudes asking for fetish shit, and guys asking for hookup sex.
Guys on the other hand have to "play the game" which works, if you are good at it.. buuut i always thought "the game" is a bit toxic because you have to manipulate people's feelings & emotions through wordplay, hints,& deception, with little to no honesty.
The other issue is there's very little communication between genders, so many look to a toxic sexualized society for answers.
People just need to be honest with eachother, stop expecting the usual dating norms to be mandatory (it honestly gets rid of any romantic feelings behind the actions), stop focusing on sex, self-reflect on insecurities & find ways to fix them, ask the opposite gender's point of view, stop walking away from every little bit of awkwardness & inconvenience (everyone is weird & awkward, but if you look past it, you see more), and start viewing relationships like "best friends with romantic benefits."

little_bird1 · Answer

Because it's super easy for attractive people, and women happen to be "the better half". Men find most women attractive, but women find most men unattractive. Also it depends on what the person is looking for; if a woman is looking for sex then it's easy, but if she is looking for a relationship then it's hard as fuck - maybe it's easy scoring a date, but the struggle then starts after that.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I disagree with the premise of the question! I don’t believe dating is easier for women than it is for men! I would acknowledge that GETTING a date is easier for a stunningly beautiful woman than it is for an average to below average man. But GETTING a date is easier for a stunningly beautiful man, than it is for an average to below average woman! Bottom line, dating, or at least GETTING a date is easier when a person is stunningly beautiful, versus their average to below average looking counterparts! But “dating” is nerve racking, and confusing for everyone, regardless of the quality of their looks!

lrina · Answer

for a woman to get a date, all she has to do is be relatively pretty. so if she has that, then she should have plenty of options to choose from. more is generally expected of guys, so yeah. that's just my opinion though

DaveJord · Answer

I do not believe dating is easy for anyone... but if you're only interest in sex then I think women would have a much easier time. I mean a average looking women could walk down the street asking every guy if he would be interested in hooking up and get a positive response from complete strangers 10 times the number of takers then guy would get.

But when it comes to actual dating girls might get twice to three times the offers, but it probably 10 times as hard for her to find the right guy.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I wish it was not. It is just that many guys tend to be easy aka just want sex instead of the having intentions of dating. So it is exhausting to find out whether a guy only wants to have sex with you or he is serious. This is actually what destroys the meaning of dating. Dating actually means to getting to know your potential wife/husband or your longterm partner without having sex. So you get to know a lot of people (without having sex) and choose one of them. This actually bad for many good nice guys too.

JSmuve · Answer

Because men make it easy for women. They have so many options because hordes of guys simp after women who look somewhat passable. If guys upped their standards instead of being desperate, then women wouldn't have so many options. Guys need to date more like women.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know if this is necessarily the case. If a woman attracts a guy, she has to also determine what his intentions are. He might be super attractive, but just looking for a bit of fun. Or he might be super needy and clingy. If she is trying to attract one guy, she may get the attention of everybody around the one guy who she was hoping to get to know.

This is all in the traditional sense, so I am just making the point that this doesn't necessarily benefit the woman who is taking that role in dating.

I would say that the ones who have it the easiest in the dating game are the guys who want to play the field, have no problems attracting women, have no morals when it comes to using somebody. But they aren't going to be the ones with the best life overall, so you can win at that game and end up losing at life.

TheorionMage · Answer

In the majority of cases, Western society casts the female in the role of passing judgement as to whether future contact will occur and on what terms. (... You shall NOT pass!!!) ; )

NEVER think that 'dating' is ANYTHING OTHER THAN an initial 'interview' toward the potential of intimate interactions, during which modern innuendo and flirting is engaged~

AndrésC64 · Answer

Because it's almost always the guy that has to make the first move and ask, and all the girl has to wait for the guys and then decide if she wants to go out. Girls are the gatekeepers.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

It’s so hard for women. My account on here is basically me crying about my dating life every day.

In general of course it’s easier to get attention as a woman. But finding a high value partner who likes you for who you are and isn’t just trying to sleep with you is hard. Also gotta find someone who doesn’t tick any of the obvious dealbreakers - lazy/disrespectful/cheater etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Supply and demand my friend.
Men want women.
Women don't want men.
And besides the women get creepy direct messages from weird guys on the regular like "hey" or "wow u r beautiful", which suffices the attention they need from the opposite sex to feel desirable and attractive.

sheikalana · Answer

I guess women have more options and a lot of women and men believe that men should be the ones making the first move and that makes things easier for women.

Realbanger87 · Answer

Because my standards are high to just settle for anything. I also date for marriage purposes, so it's difficult  I have no problem in getting short term dates and getting laid, I just choose not to.

aficionado · Answer

Yes, 'dating' is easy for women, but 'relationships' are easier for men, so it kinda cancels out.  Just the law of nature I suppose.

Subarugirl · Answer

It's not. There is a big difference between a bunch of guys just trying to get laid vs a man who is ready for and actually want's a relationship.

annabananna · Answer

Women will have herds of guy drooling for sex but not necessarily a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Women has more SMV than men which gives them a competitive advantage over men. But this advantage is only valid for a limited period. After a woman hits 35 this advantage starts to disappear no matter how good genes she possesses.

A 20 year old pretty woman holds more power than a multi - billionaire man in his 40s.

Anonymous · Answer

Women hold the cards, men hold nothing  I view splitting up the genders for a couple of decades will work wonders but that doesn't fit the feministic ideal of killing all the men

MountAverage · Answer

I assume you mean finding dates? Because most men have no standards, while women can afford to be picky. But other than that, men don't have it harder in dating.

JohnHaley114 · Answer

Because men can't figure what's going in women's mind.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Because men are hunters. They seek out women while us ladies don't chase men. It's not in our nature

Sneha007 · Answer

I wouldn't say that dating is harder for a specific gender... it varies from person to person based on their personality and their looks...

Justneedtokno · Answer

At this point I think it’s hard all around because nobody trust anyone.

DWornock · Answer

Because men will date up, equals, or down while will only date up or occasionally equals.

moviedude714 · Answer

As always it's going to depend on the perspective or mindset of the person

jasco · Answer

Men only look with their eyes and women with their heart

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Men make harder for themselves. They used to supply now they all they do is demand at all costs which made their suppliers fussy

noohair · Answer

It is the nature of things in my view, some women might disagree.

barn_stormer · Answer

it's easy for hot people and hard for ugly people of either gender

Yuuibtony · Answer

Because women are inherently gay and bisexual so everybody including women who straight can get q girlfriend or boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

More in demand and men are the aggressor that does the asking so women don’t need to do anything much

Anonymous · Answer

Because fewer men are successful. But the upside is their success is pretty good if it works out.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Look around you, dick is free 😗

awkward_author · Answer

Women have higher standards.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Are you sure that that is the case?

Cubus · Answer

Women set out rules in dating

SecretGardenBlood65 · Answer

Bc men loves women Women love money

Anonymous · Answer

Because females are living on recruit difficulty.

driven159 · Answer

because women have what guys want men not so much

Papabubbles · Answer

Woman who they want men date who they can.

Anonymous · Answer

Because pussy

andylakes9 · Answer

Not sure i agree..

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