Is it normal to have fun on a first date?

[mayaJames]

Do you think the relationship will last?

[caring__1]

Biologically, the purpose of the male of the species is to diversify the species, whereas the female's purpose is to care for the offspring. Because of this information planted in our DNA, it is very common for males and females to react differently to intimacy before a relationship is established. Though the guy won't have problems getting an erection and ejaculating, once he does so, the strongest thought in his mind is to disconnect from the female. He's done his duty and now it is time to move forward. On the other hand, when a woman is penetrated, there is a possibility of a life forming, so she often feels more connected to the man, as he will be the potential provider and protector. Having sex on a first date (or before an enduring connection is created) will lessen the probability of this developing into a long-term commitment. I'm not saying everyone will react this way, but it tends to be common enough to not want to gamble if you truly want something to last.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats made up bs, and its the result of trying to apply logical forethought on a multigenerational scale, which doesn't work.

You have no idea how anyone 500 or 10,000 years from now is going to act, think, or feel about anything. Organisms don't have purposes outside of their own individual desires, and there is no thoughtful governance to biological evolution.

People have drastically different personalities, views, understandings, goals, and enjoyment preferences per individual.

[caring__1]

@TheSpaceGnome I never claimed this is true of all people, but it's common enough to question whether we want to take the gamble.

[TheSpaceGnome]

What gamble? The only thing going through most people's minds during sex is horniness and love. Sex is not done because of procreation, sex allows procreation, but its done because cumming and affection feels good.

No one is analyzing genetic variation strats or parenting plans while pumping away, most species don't even know genes exist, they just want to feed a chemical craving or receive comfort.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Sexual selection and reproduction are far more in the moment and much less goal oriented.

[caring__1]

@TheSpaceGnome Every time we have sex, we are gambling with disease and pregnancy. Not everyone's word can be trusted, and even responsible people have ended up pregnant. If both people are only looking for a fun time, then be clear with each other from the start. Never imply a possibility of a relationship if all you're looking for is a one-night-stand.

[boobliker]

That is all down to how you get on and if your randyor not, the first thing I asked in my younger day was Do you fu## on first dates and it got me a slap or two but I pritty much got laid. lots and enjoyed them all and even noe in my head. So you do what feek good ,,,,.

[Samantha36]

All depends. I met my boyfriend on tinder. It was just a hook up so we were having sex 20 mins after meeting. Then we became friends with benefits for a month and then a full blown couple. That was 2 years ago so it can work

[petitedollbabee]

You should be having fun on a first date! No one wants a boring date. It’s not always a sure sign of whether the relationship will lasts though.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

First dates are about getting to know a another individual. What the two of you decide to do is up to both of you. The choices you will make may define the relationship if it moves forward.

[OfMiceandMen]

I've never taken it that far on a first date. I usually slow things down if they start to get a little heavy.

[ManofHistory]

As long as the date up to that point is going well, and both sides are down, then it should be a wild ride all night.

[Guanfei]

Usually I'd say you should avoid it for at least a month, to make sure there's something else behind just sex.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No normal is lamentations and revolt. What kind of question is this?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

That is normal to have fun on the first date, make sure you tell the guy exactly what you are looking for in a relationship.

[slatyb]

It's normal that people are interested in a second date if they enjoyed the first.

[tzdc21]

I'm sorry, I'm just laughing at that picture.

[Drumlin2001]

Why would you not have fun? Surely if there was no fun you wouldn't go back for a second date?

[goaded]

Isn't that the whole point of a date, to have fun?

[Luckycharms12]

If both want it. I guess who can say what is normal for one isn't for someone else just do you

[Alex8736]

Just be yourself and enjoy the moment. Life's too short to stress

[Ava1993]

Yes if a dare not fun and talking til you close the the restaurant it’s not worth it.

[Apple1996]

Awhh the pic is so cute

[scooogy]

God knows what oral would look like 🤨

[mayaJames]

For real

[HelpfulWoman]

is that... not the point?

[Jkgordon]

It should be if not cut them off don’t wait

[exitseven]

Yes, even if there is no sex involved.

[Phoenix98]

Isn't that kind of the idea?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Fun? Yes. Sex? No.

[LiamJHayden]

That should be a goal.

[Wise4myage]

Sure, why wouldn’t it be?

[Sparkie460]

I'd say it was a good date if you did

[OddBeMe]

Funnily enough mine did, 20 years ago.

[Pterodon]

Of course it’s normal

[LunarEclipse433]

Yes. I would expect to have fun

[TiaNour]

I would assume so

[shortster]

Depends on the type of fun.

[Jerre]

For me, fairly common to have fun.

[riverrat3]

Have all the fun you want

[mayaJames]

Really thanks

[Anonymous]

Insinuate without insinuating. 🙄

[sheikalana]

You mean sex?

[smilelots]

hell yes

[MisterTee]

Definitely!

[mayaJames]

For real

[Guardian45]

Yes and Yes!

[Guardian45]

Love the pic!

[Charliefretz329]

Hope it’s enjoyable!

[krin_m]

Of course!

[Erron_Black]

normal