If you were 19, would you date a guy that is 29?

[Anonymous]

I like this girl at work, but she is 19 and I am 29. I prefer younger women anyways.

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[PBandJ_Nerd]

When I was 19, I thought about dating people who were 18-21 years. old. But I personally think it'd be better to date people around your own age, like maybe 25-30 yr. olds.

[Asker]

But I seek a woman that has never had a boyfriend. You will not find any averagely attractive girls 25 or older that have never had a boyfriend.

[ShesRad80]

would depend to be honest--dont base it off age but how you two get along and things in common, how you feel with each other and it really depends what you and her expect or are looking for.

[Drumlin2001]

The age gap wouldn't bother me. But a 29 yr old that hides behind anon would be a red flag

[zagor]

I'm not gay so I wouldn't. But I was interested in a 20 y. o. when I was 29.

[BonnieBoo]

I’d date a guy 10yr older than me, as long as he made me happy nothing else matters. Age is just a number 😊

[Asker]

So that age difference is not a big deal for a woman who is 19 or 20ish?

[FunkyMonkee]

No, I'm not interested in guys. Besides, I identify as a lesbian.

[hIopinionated_]

No I wouldn’t date him, that’s creepy. I’ll think he was a pedophile

[zagor]

A 19 year old is not a child. Even a 90 year old interested in 19 year olds isn't a pedophile. A pedophile is interested in pre-pubescent children.

[hIopinionated_]

@zagor A nineteen year old is a TEEN. And even if she was 20, it’s been proven a person’s brain isn’t fully developed until after 25 so what would a 90 or 30 year old want with a 20 or 23 year old? That mentality isn’t healthy at all. There’s not enough life experiences and sound decisions made on behalf of the teen or young woman to date or marry a middle age or old man. A pedo is interested in innocence, lack of experiences, child like personalities and looks, etc. Let’s not pretend there aren’t more factors that goes into pedophilia

[Asker]

Well I am socially and emotionally delayed due to being on the spectrum, so those age groups are fine for me.

[zagor]

A pedophile is sexually interested in children. What you are describing as far as looking for an innocent, naive young person may be predatory but it is not pedophilia.

[hIopinionated_]

@zagor Same difference. There are characteristics to a pedophile and it isn’t just wanting children. History literally proves it. Same with the idea that girls mature faster than boys to make the idea ok that an older man dating a much younger woman is normal. The whole ideal have been normalized for centuries and everything pertaining to that. It’s still a culture under patriarchy. So much goes into that and leads to many issues for teen girls and women

[hIopinionated_]

@Asker Most adult males are socially and emotionally delayed but that’s due to societal spoiling of the male population. Patriarchy gives men an edge of laziness which helps (with immature upbringing) but also hurts them. The power dynamics between men and women is extremely wide. Women can’t afford to not take on that emotional baggage, the patriarchy refuses. Even before puberty, little girls already have the world on their shoulders with gender roles and after puberty, that opens up many many more societal issues

[zagor]

They DO mature faster. I tower over the girls who were much taller than me in 6th grade.

[hIopinionated_]

@zagor The same men from centuries ago who said women have no place in politics or thought in our minds are the same men who said girls, teen girls, and women mature faster than boys, teen boys, and men. It’s sexist bs. The brain doesn’t fully develops until after age 25 and that applies to both women and men. That sexist ideology was created to justify old men marrying and starting families with teen girls and young women. It’s sickening

[zagor]

It is absurd to compare a 29 y. o. dating a 19 y. o. to cultures where 11 y. o. girls are betrothed to 45 y. o. men.

[hIopinionated_]

@zagor It wasn’t just 11 year old girls sold to 45 year old men, it was also teen girls and young women sold to 30+ year old men as wives. A girl was also considered damaged goods if she weren’t married, barefoot, and pregnant by as young as 13 or even 10 and as old as 19 years old. And it was even worse for enslaved girls and women. Men created this system

[Apple1996]

Nope at 19 I was already married and would never go older even if I was single

[Clarked]

@Apple1996 you are in the minority

[Asker]

@Clarked Exactly. Not everyone is lucky enough to meet the love of their life when they are young like that.

[Apple1996]

@Clarked maybe but everyone in the town that I'm from gets married young

[Asker]

Sounds like a small southern redneck town

[Apple1996]

Nah not really. Actually a lot of city lol

[BarryLiverstone]

By describing it as a red neck town, are you intending to complement?

[Asker]

Well I am from Knoxville and it is a dating dead zone here

[Apple1996]

Ah okay I'm orginally from Ohio. Not gonna give out the town name tho for personal reasons

[In_Trance]

The age difference is fine.
Don't fuck your coworkers because it never works out the way you think it will

[Anonymous]

I found myself thinking guys 25-30 were the hottest ever since I was 15

[rachel776]

i'm 19 and my boyfriend is 33

[TiaNour]

Personally I wouldn’t

[shades777]

no because im straight

[BarryLiverstone]

Where do you work?

[Asker]

Why do you ask?

[BarryLiverstone]

Usually not a good idea to date someone you work with

[Asker]

I work at a gym

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya better to just be friends and find someone else to date.

[Apple1996]

I thought the same thing. Never date someone you work with

[JosyJosy]

Nooe