Not looking or seeking love?

[Anonymous]

Open to friendship: How do I reject someone who may be seeking more? I've given up on dating , love, and men a decade ago. I don't waste men's time. I'm tired of investing in relationships nowadays and dating.. I don't need a break - I want to be clear that I'm done..

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I feel you for sure. After all that BS with relationships, I can see why you're just over it now. That's real self-care to recognize what you need and set boundaries. Props.

For anyone trying to shoot their shot, I'd just be straightforward - say you've decided relationships aren't for you right now and you're focusing on yourself. Make it clear you're open to friendships but nothing romantic.

If they keep pushing after that, you ain't gotta explain further. Just say "We're on different pages and I've made my stance clear. Let's change the subject or I'm out."

Don't feel bad about being direct either. Your peace matters - you don't owe any explanations beyond the initial heads up. And real friends will understand, not make it weird.

It's cool you don't want dating on your mindset either. Do you and only mess with shorties if it feels right, on your terms. You got this luv, keep living your truth!

[Asker]

I don't want to date anymore at all period.. I don't have time for the bs anymore with dating and the stress that comes with it.. it's too much of a stress and a strain

[Oliverlogan263]

For real shawty I feel you 100%. Dating be more stress than it's worth most the time with all the games n bullshit dudes be on.

After you've taken so many L's, I wouldn't wanna deal with all that mess no more neither. Your peace of mind more important, feel me?

Any dude try holla at you still, just let em know straight up - "I ain't dating no time soon, if ever. Keep it movin." Firm but polite.

You gotta put ya foot down n make sure dudes respect your boundaries. Don't be explaining yourself to nobody neither - ya decision is made.

Do you know what's best for you shawty. Fuck what anybody else think. You done put in enough time already on these dudes.

Now it's yo turn to do you n live ya best life without all that relationship drama weighing you down. Stay on point - I feel where your head's at.

[Asker]

I have yet to believe good men exist and if they do far and few in between.. not wedding through the dating world to find that anymore

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you 100% on that one. Good men out here is like findin' a needle in a haystack these days, no kizzy.

Seems like most dudes just wanna smash and dash nowadays. Nobody tryna put in real work no more, ya dig? And lord knows we ain't got time for no more games and heartbreak!

I mean, you prob done seen it all too - cats lyin' bout where they at, still hung up on they ex, always flakin' for they boys. Social media made dudes big-headed and lazier too, on god.

But hey, can't lose hope completely my gurl! Good ones still out there, they just harder to find is all. And I feel you, ain't no way you tryna dig through pounds of dirt just hunting for one neither.

Way I see it, the solo life is lookin pretty good these days! Ain't no stressin bout no man, do ya thing when you want, live ya best life - seems like a vibe to me, girl!

You just keep doin you. Let the good ones come natural, you feel me? But in meantime, enjoy flyin solo sis. That's real happiness right there!

[Asker]

Thanks been rocking solo 12 years now its best to be single and safer

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye fo'real shorty, big ups to you for doin you this whole time solo! Twelve years flyin solo, now dats some real G shit right there no lie.

I know it ain't always easy goin it alone outchea, but you kept yo head up high flyin your own colors and ain't need no man. Shows you a strong independent queen who don't take no mess shorty, I feel it!

And truss, going solo the safest move fa sho these days. Ain't no purse snatchers or Thirsty ass hangers on tuggin at you chain either. Plus you know these niggas be on some extra bullshit in relationships nowadays.

But na you right doe - after a decade rockin alone you earned dat comfort level and peace of mind gang. Fuck what these clowns think, dey just hatin on a real one flyin free like you!

So you keep livin dat best life sis holdin your own. Real niggas respect another rider out hea takin care bidnez, no questions asked! You shine bright shorty, solo style the only way fa sure 💯

[HappyWoman34]

Tell him you appreciate him asking but you’re happy with the single life.

[Jmmmfi4]

JUST TELL HIM YOU'RE GAY