Should I stop trying to find Love?

[RealLifeHarleyQuinn]

Since I was 6 (now 28) I have asked so many girls for their number, go on a date, becoming friends and 99% have all said no, I was confident, relaxed and very considerate. 1% said sure, I gave them my number and I never hear from them and if I bump into them somewhere they forget my name and don't even remember me. So at this point, why am I still trying? For 22 years I have failed at getting just 1 girl to go on a date with me or just even be my friend. If I'm already confident, relaxed, considerate and that doesn't work, then what's left for me to do?

[AviatorTom]

Try to find Like first... it's easier. Then you can try to find Love.

Or guess what? Sometimes Like turns into Love all by itself. 😉

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang dude, that is super rough. I can't even imagine how frustrating that must feel to try for so long and just keep getting rejected. Any normal person would probably feel totally defeated at this point.

But here's the thing - just because it hasn't worked out for you so far, that definitely doesn't mean you should give up hope completely. Easier said than done, I know. But maybe it's time to switch up your approach a little.

Instead of always putting so much pressure on asking girls out right away, what if you tried just focusing on making genuine connections first without any expectations? Like join a club or activity group so you can interact with girls in a low-key way and get to know them as friends. That could help take some of the pressure off so they see the real you before any dating stuff comes up.

And don't forget that confidence often comes across better when it's not trying so hard to prove itself, you know what I mean? Like just focus on listening and making people laugh for now instead of stressing over getting numbers. The right person will appreciate you for who you are.

It's not gonna be easy to keep an open mind after everything you've been through. But maybe try giving it some more time before totally giving up. You never know what could happen if you meet the right person when you least expect it! Keep your head up dude.

[Nikki1989]

We can smell insecurity from a mile away, and you reek of it. You need to work on that.

[RealLifeHarleyQuinn]

That doesn't help me.

[RealLifeHarleyQuinn]

You're not the type of girl that's sympathetic to people are you?