I’m a 38yr old man (UK) I’ve not been in a relationship for over a decade. I don’t know how to talk to women. How can I get my bottle back?

[Gail_lvsjizz]

[_Maya_]

I don't know what the term get your bottle back means. Not something said where I live. So are ya having trouble breaking the ice or maintaining conversation? You obviously were in a relationship before just a while ago. How did ya do it then? I mean you talked to the last one before you dated. I'm sure whatever worked then still does. I'd be happy to give some pointers if you tell me what part you're having trouble with. The getting started or the what to talk about part. Maybe it's both.

[Gail_lvsjizz]

Losing your bottle means losing all confidence in the UK. Yes I’ve been in multiple relationships but my last one was the longest and it devastated me when it ended. It took me a long time to get over her and I have a daughter with her so it took even longer because I obviously had to keep seeing her. I am now well and truly over her but I have zero confidence in talking to any woman I find attractive. I never believe they’ll be interested and I “bottle” it. I’m fine just talking in general but I just can’t bring myself to say anything about finding them attractive. I’m not ashamed to admit I’m lonely. My name is Moz not Gail.

[Gail_lvsjizz]

I replied to you but it’s not worked for some reason. Look at my reply below this reply

[BourbonAndBacon]

Just start talking to them about ordinary things and it will get easy. When I was single and I saw someone attractive in a grocery store, I've asked them to pick out a good watermelon for me, or when I've gone to a home decorating store I asked them to help me pick out towels that match my kitchen or bathroom or pillows for my couch. Just have a simple conversation and walk away. The bonus was that my bachelor house had a female decorating touch. More often than not, they would bump into me again in the store and start chatting. Then you can decide if you want their number.

[HiveBee]

I just talk to people all the time. So any time a woman pops up you can guarantee I'm talking to her.

That's pretty much how you have to do it. You have to be all sociable with any kind of person.

Even so, after I developed the skill to talk to anyone, I still lacked the skills to get a date or a one night stand.

That is a whole new set of skills you have to learn after you learn to talk to people in general and how to talk to any woman at any time in general.

The dating and sexual stuff becomes a bit easier after that but it's still a big hurdle.

[Avicenna]

First of all, what are you looking for in a woman?

[Truthatanycost]

Take them down from the pedestal you have them on. They are only human.

[Phoenix98]

By talking to them, nothing beats experience.

[driven159]

just get out there and if you fall down get back up you not getting younger don't wait too long.