Why can I not talk to women?

[Anonymous]

I always get self conscious and nervous around women, especially if i find them attractive.

The issue is to the point where, if a woman walks from the opposite towards me and i walk the other side, i can not look straight ahead and always look down until i pass her. When i was in college a girl from my class noticed that i get nervous and would always look at me when passing me by, because she knew i didn't have the confidence to look straight ahead when we always walked by in the past. She has also asked me why i get nervous. I told her “i dont know” And somehow she read me like a book and said “you get nervous because you have never talked to girls” in a smiling way.

i think the reason for this is because i feel like i will be bothering women if i try to talk to them, and that they will judge me. and that they also judge me for being ugly. Tbh no girl has ever said that I’m ugly.

At the gym when a woman is near i always try to move away while im resting for my sets.

A few women have showed interest in me by touching me (while talking, not on dates) but i never had the guts to take it further.

[Anonymous]

It's common to feel nervous or self-conscious around people we're attracted to or interested in, and it's understandable that you might struggle with talking to women as a result. However, it's important to remember that women are just people, and they're likely to be just as nervous or self-conscious as you are in certain situations.

It's also important to recognize that it's okay to be rejected or to have awkward interactions with people. Everyone experiences rejection and awkwardness at some point in their lives, and it's a natural part of the process of learning and growing. It's important to try to reframe these experiences as opportunities for growth and learning, rather than as failures or sources of shame.

If you're struggling with confidence or self-esteem issues, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings and develop strategies for building confidence and self-assurance. Additionally, it may be helpful to practice talking to women in low-pressure situations, such as through online dating apps or in social settings where you don't necessarily have to make a move or ask someone out.

Remember that building confidence and improving social skills takes time and effort, but it's worth it in the long run for the potential connections and relationships you can build with others.

[EpicSnail]

I am the same. Super relatable post. I feel for you, dude. I think the only solution is practise, unfortunately.

[EpicSnail]

Also, in my experience, responses vary if you do try to talk to women. Some will be brief with you or polite, but others will look genuinely flattered by the attention. It just varies, depending on whether they are attracted to you and whether it suits them to be hit on at that moment in their life.

[Asker]

If thats you in the pic, you look pretty nice. You dont need to worry about women thinking u are ugly.

[Asker]

have u ever dated?

[EpicSnail]

Thanks buddy, appreciate it. I'm not that confident with my looks, but I also have lots of other problems I am self-conscious about, several of which would probably be dealbreakers for many if not most women.

If it is any consolation, although women do care about looks, they tend to care about it in ways you can influence, I think. Like, are you fit and healthy and well-dressed. Lots of quite ugly men date very attractive women. It's about the whole package you bring to the table.

[Asker]

I see, and yea i feel like many guys underestimate how much looks matter to a woman. They say you just need status and game.

I just wish i was more confident with the girls who initiated stuff with me. Its nice that they made the first move but it sucks that i didn't pursue it further. Thats what i regret.

[EpicSnail]

I have the same regrets. I mean, at the end of the day, if we never make any moves, we're pretty much guaranteed to be forever alone. If we do, at least we tried.

[ZombieInLove]

Please search redpill on the internet

[Asker]

I have. I dont believe any of it tbh. I am pretty blackpilled (looks are what matter the most in dating)

[ZombieInLove]

Blackpill is not a resolve. It is just acceptence of failure thoughts. My English level couldn't explain it to you, but please watch videos of Rollo Tomassi and Richard Cooper.