Why do people always bother black women on Social media? It's like they go out of their way to degrade them?

[Anonymous]

Its something I've noticed a lot. It comes from black men, white men, Hispanic men and women, white women, Asian women. Its like everyone unites to tear down black women.

It happens on here too. They'll be a question on here like "What kind of girls are you attracted to?' and someone will answer. "I like blondes, but not black women they're ugly af!"

I'm like... OK no one asked you all that. Its like people really go out of their way to somehow degrade black women for literally no reason when the topic isn't even black women. I notice it from everyone. From the black men literally ranting all day on Twitter and Youtube about how horrible black women are and why they're gonna date outside of their race now, to the white, Asian and Hispanic guys making blatant racist remarks on how not attracted they are to black women for whatever reason when no one even asked them if they were. To the white, Latina, and Asian girls who down black women constantly but then get lip injections, butt implants, appropriate our culture and hairstyles, love having sex with black men, but then in the next breathe shit talk black women every chance they can get.

It's really strange. Are black women victimizing people in some way or discriminating against them, for them to be this much on people's minds?

To the black guys on Youtube and Twitter, if you hate black women so much, leave them alone. They're not going to bother if you don't bother them. I find it strange how many of them say how happy they are with (insert race of non-black women), but will still be ranting all damn day about how black women ain't shit, etc.. I would imagine if they were really happy black women wouldn't even be on their minds.

To the non-black guys, no one cares that you not attracted to black girls. If a black girl ask you if you are then it's fine, but for you to randomly exclaim your distaste for black women is strange and creepy.

Non-black women, liking black dick doesn't make you less racist.

[EvilPimp]

There's plenty of black men and women tearing each other down on youtube and social media especially when it comes to the dating life. Both black men and women will generalize black men/women while putting other races, (especially and most of the time SOLELY white women/men ) on pedestals and how they're so much better than all black men or all black women And I can post links to prove that both black men and women do this.

[BlondeBlueEyes84]

Hm, I don't know about that. But speaking of black women. Have you ever seen Nikki, from the "Jamie and Nikki" YouTube channel? She is proof that dark-skinned women can be very beautiful.

[Asker]

I know she's beautiful. That wasn't what this question was about

[BlondeBlueEyes84]

Oh, I know it wasn't. Just wanted to contribute something positive.
Got no idea why people bother black women on social media, though.

[Ki_Wavy]

lmao the fact we need "proof"

[Anonymous]

Society: " I love (white/asian/hispanic) women. I think they are the most beautiful, intelligent, classy and feminine. I don't like black women because they are loud, obnoxious, ghetto, dirty, smelly, ugly and uneducated, but I'm not racist. It is just a preference."

Black women to each other: "black is beautiful"

Society: "Wrong!!! You are racist! All women are beautiful."

[oreodair]

I see this a lot too. I've seen people claim black women were the most undesirable women on the planet... we also get stereotyped and ridiculed for pretty much everything. It's honestly so stupid

[kittycat119]

I've never seen people on here say that about black women... or on any of the social network sites I go on... it's always the opposite actually so I don't know what u r talking about

[Asker]

i've seen it plenty

[kittycat119]

Can u show me proof then?

[Asker]

go on twitter, type in black women on the search. go on any major forum online, type in black women in the search. i don't have to prove shit. do it yourself

[kittycat119]

Ok yoir point? Most of the stuff was positive. And if you type in ither races of women you get the same. Half positive half negative. And the fact you decide to be rude and say "you don't have to prove shit" clearly means all u want is someone to argue with because I was never once rude ti u

[kittycat119]

I did look sweetie. It's how ik half was good and half was bad. Boo boo and yes I'm gonna call u that since u wanna act like a jerk. I'm not saying it doesn't happen because yes it does juat like people always have to say bad things about black men. It's because people are dicks but posting things like this sadly fuel idiot racist people to twist what u r trying to say and to make a point as something u r not trying to say. Yeah the racist things towards women happen but u r blowing something uo and making it a lot worse then it is. And by being rude to me u r again sadly making the pont u r trying to make more invalid

[Asker]

Yes please white woman who's never actually experienced misogynoir or racism. Tell me about my experience, and how i'm blowing things out of proportion.

[kittycat119]

Sweetie yes I did. My family was the only white family in are neighborhood and everyday all I ever got called was a cracker and a snowflake. When you're five u don't fully understand what that means u just know it can't b good. I was beaten up a lot and even had my finger broken. And if that wasn't enough on my sixth birthday I got a white kitten and after about a month I found out one of thw boys n my neighborhood killed it and when I found out all he could say was that's what I deserved for being a white girl. So don't tell me I've never experienced racism because I have I've just learned to not give a damn if someone didn't like me for that reason

[kittycat119]

Wow you have so many issues it's amazing. You can't just accept that other people not just you have Selby with racism as well. And I never cared if people call me that it's a damn word I don't give a fuck just like you wanting to call me a bitch because you wanna be ignorant. And how on earth do you think balance people don't make the Sam amount of money? It's called minimum wage sweetie everyone makes the same unless they get a better job that they earned. And boo boo u need to look up the word racism because honey u r sadly wrong on what it means

[kittycat119]

Boo boo my name isn't Katie lets get that right cause we both you don't want me making up a rude racist name for you. So boo boo if racism means another race thinks they're better than you it's racist which is what the people in my neighborhood thought. Even though we where equals just like everyone should be. And yes women can be sexiest against guys it has nothing to do with if you have more power. It's if you few someone as less of a person then you and you treat them as such

[kittycat119]

Wow. I'm not even going to bother. I'm gonna go to sleep now with aw wait for it my black boyfriend 😍 you would probably have a problem with. Gotta love how things turn out. Maybe if you actually acted like a civil person boo boo someone would like you. But don't worry boo I still like you. Night 😙

[Asker]

Oh sweetie. Go and fetishize your black boyfriend and suck as much black dick as you want. We all know the real reason he's with you, and that doesn't make you any less stupid and racist.

[kittycat119]

Baby girl he's not a fetish a grown man. Learn the difference, and he's with me because unlike you I actually act like a good person and care about my boyfriend as he does me

[Asker]

Sure Sarah. Of course. He must value you for your intelligence. As we both saw you're one of the sharpest tools in the shed. Because it's sure not your face.

[kittycat119]

At least I'm confident enough to actually show my face and not go anonymous like you boo boo

[Asker]

Confidence is great boo, but at least do better. Try surgery

[kittycat119]

Aw I'm your boo now yay. 😄 and no thanks I'll pass on plastic surgery. My boyfriend thinks I'm pretty as I am. by the way though I'm actually not white, I'm actually Hispanic and a Latina I'm just super pale looking because of my disease sadly

[Lauren2019]

@kittycat119 you sound like one of those Latina women who is secretly jealous of black women because you have a fetish for black men, and to most black men, you will never compare to a beautiful black woman.

[kittycat119]

@Lauren2019 actually I prefer Hispanic men. Just ended up falling for a black guy. I could honestly care less what every other dude besides him thinks of me

[BigJake]

Everyone tears down everyone else. Black women aren't special in this regard, you just believe you are.

[Asker]

no way. everyone partakes in misogynoir

[BigJake]

Nah, most people have never even heard of misogynoiugfchjhhff. You're just paranoid.

[Asker]

just because you've never heard of it doesn't mean people don't partake in it

[BigJake]

And just because you tell me it's real doesn't mean that it is. It's a two-way street.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

Okay... I'm a black women here, Don't believe in "misogynoir" or whatever that crt is, but I have to agree with the op - black women especially have it harder than the average person in the U. S. . This isn't to say that other people from other races don't feel left out or don't struggle in other ways, shapes or forms - but it's the intensity that makes the difference, and its one that personally I think many for one reason or another fail to acknowledge sometimes. This isn't to be anecdotal, but personally it's something I can only really describe as a probelm of human nature and not someones character. Not only that but It's one you can only fully understand thorough acknowlodging and trying to understand our experiences. It's the understanding that if you wear you're natural hair/or in a bonnet (something good for your hair) to an interview rather than a wig/or straightened hair (which you will also be judge for, as people see that as fake), the most likely white or other race manger is going to be less likely to relate to you, and therefore less likey to give you a job for lack of looking "professional"/not fitting with the culture of the work place.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

To my understanding many try to say that other races of women straighten there hair too for the job and that it's something we all go through equally - but this isn't the case. 4c hair, the hair type we have is very fragile and dry - it's more prone to breakage and heat damage than if someone with looser curls were to straigthen it. Our hair naturally stays up and it's hard to retain moisture so while someone with loser hair would maybe have to spend just a little time with a blow dryer, we have to spend hundreds of dollars and hours at the salon, getting chemicals put in our hair, weaves, wigs, braids. etc. just so that are hair can appear straighter/longer, making us more relatable the the majority white population, and giving us more oppurtunites/lessening the burden of judgement.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

It's the knowledge of knowing that humans in general are attracted too and tend to want to be around/give favoritism to those who look like them, meaning you as the minority will not receive that benefit of the doubt if you make mistakes, you may even be judged harsher because your different, or assumed that you have inherently bad intentions - and while i'm not trying to invalidate other races experiences with this in one - i can say for certain it's nowhere near the pressure that is constantly put on black woman to blend in a away that would make you acceptable to the rest of the population, just so that you can get the same opportunities that most others could get with less or no effort. Personally first time I realized this difference is when I was a kid in the 4th grade,

[RiverUndertheSkY]

I had a white women as my teacher (this isn't to aim at white women, but this is an example of how it's a different level of judgement). When I was nine or ten, we had a group project where we had to work together on doing a space project, a lighter skin girl in my group kept deleting my work and when I told her to stop (multiple times) she started crying and told the teacher that I was being mean to her (I wasn't but most people take calm from a black women as aggressive, maybe its because we're muscular but that's beside the points). Anyway, instead of trying to sort things out, the teacher automatically assumed that I was in the wrong and apologized on my behalf to the lighter skin girl. That day she took it upon herself to punish me by holding me in for half of recess to lecutre me about being a bully, even though in my mind I knew I did nothing wrong and that it was overkill.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

Now you may be saying - well that could have been for any other reason, maybe you were agressive, she was having a bad day, etc - but I assure you that wasn't the case, because even when the truth had came out she still blamed me and put me at fault for not being more gentle/open - this women had geniunely thought that I had bad intentions even though I had done nothing in the past or at the time to warrant that response. Another incident happened when I lost my key to my house, and gladly that day the teacher got the class to help me look for it - it turned out that I left it at home (my mistake, my bad), but the teacher was not happy she took it upon herself to let me know that I was a liar (again with the assuming I have bad intentions) who wasted everyones time and furrowed her brows at me - the only time that teacher was ever nice to me was when I ended up transfering because she wouldn't do anything about the fact that I was being bullied in class - which really messed up my mental health, something she obviously did not care about.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

From then on you notice it in other ways, when you're at a seminar and the lighter skin speaker keeps picking on the light skin students even though your hands been rasied for ten mintues straight. when your in the store just trying to do some shopping and there's a clerk behind the counter who auto-assumes that you are there to steal something and is following you like hawk or asking you if you need something in an unsure voice, when your'e walking down the street in dc and all the white people have trained their dogs to bark at you like you're the enemy. Heck I even went to help a friends deliever sodas toi a mexican negihboor and she left us standing out there for hours, my friend had to translate for me that she didn;t open the door because of the color of my skin.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

You get the message pretty clearly from the outside, but then on the inside you're also wondering at a young age "why are these people being unfair to me" and while their are many reasons to point out... the main one is "because I don't look like them". Some black people take this personally, they may feel the need to over achieve in order to compenstate for this disavantage - which is sad. no one should have to be forced to be someone they aren't, but for reality it's a choice for black people you either fit in as best you can, and in a way give up a part of yourself, or you be yourself and get rejected by society. As I said before, I don't attrubute this mistreatment to someones individual character - personally I believed that this hate is part of everyone unconcouis mind, seeing that as even in the black community their is a lot of judgement and mistrust among eachother and not just the outside, to do more that their light counterparts.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

Now with all this being said, the intensity of high expectatations placed on black women, and even black men is not okay. Even if it is wired in stone, what I do hold accountable to someones character is what they choose to do with that knowlegde. From what I understand most people react in differnent ways; some deny that this is a phenomom to being with and that black people are making it up = even those this treatment very crealy affects our health, others find someone to blame usaually black people or white people, ot try to fix the problem - personally im very opposed to this as you can not fix human nature. But there are people who i think are smart about it - they are the ones who admit there's a problem without taking it personally, and work to reconigize when they are engaging in the same behavoir - something very hard i assume for people who are grounded in there ego.

But hey what do I know, Im just some kid on the internet - thanks for reading. I know its long lol

[Anonymous]

This is fucking bullshit. Stupid accusations, Especially that thing about gag.. "Ugly af"

[Asker]

i've seen it plenty of times on here.

[Ki_Wavy]

I've never seen it either, but at the same time it's not hard to believe if you're black.

[Fibbett]

Never seen or heard of this.

[Tarnygosh]

So true, you have to have a thick smin

[reixun]

You spend too much time on the internet.

[bradlazer]

Never seen this, but if it happens to you sorry