Why can't women just prioritize looks when finding guys, like guys do in finding girls?

[Anonymous]

Here is the thing: women dont make sense at all, they want a guy who is funny, smart, easy to get along with, who has a good personality among about a million other things. But seriously none of these traits are even tangible at all. I mean if girls judged guys based on looks I could just look in the mirror and be like "Oh so thats why girls dont talk to me, because I am ugly, I have a big head or big ears" or whatever, but instead girls judge us based on all this other crap with "personality" being the thing every girl in the universe says. How do you look in the mirror and see the flaws with your personality? I mean if girls are going to descriminate against certain guys because of who that guy is, isn't that worse then discrimminating based on looks? At least in the case of looks the guy knows exactly why the girl doesn't like him, with personality you dont even know what she doesn't like. Is it the way you act? Or the way you carry yourself? Is it your sense of humor (or lack thereof), is it your temper she doesn't like? Or your lack of emotion? What is it? Its just so cruel to judge a guy based off of who he is as a person. They say beauty is subjective, and in a lot of ways it is, but almost all guys can agree on a good looking girl verses a bad looking girl, there might be some disagreement in the middle, but generally we can all agree if a girl is at least decent looking or not. Personality on the other hand, what makes a good personality? Being nice? Being a bad boy? Being charming? Who freaking knows. Things are easy when its just looks because you dont have to have a degree in rocket science to figure out the rest of it. Why can't women just be simple like guys and require the opposite gender to look good above all else? That would save a lot of people a lot of questions about understanding women.

[Anonymous]

"Its just so cruel to judge a guy based off of who he is as a person."

Really? Is it that bad?

I mean I know I am no supermodel, but I would hope that someone could see all of my good qualities vs. me not looking like a supermodel and say "yes, she is good! I want her!"

To me, wanting someone for who they actually are is very important. I don't want someone who says "attractive enough to have sex with". Attraction is important, but if that's the only thing a person is looking for the relationship gets old fast.

Also, guys are not simple!

I am about as accommodating, understanding and relaxed as it gets. I have a good job, a car, I have goals for the future which include a family and owning my own home. I went to school, graduated and am now working at my career.

If it was just as simple as being a good person, then I would have been snapped up years ago. But it's not. I'm told I'm attractive, but I'm still single. So I don't find guys to be simple either.

[hairydudesrock]

Looks don't matter to everyone, sometimes someone has that something that attracts you to him or her and if someone has a great personality and is just nice to be around then that can be more appealing than physical good looks. I find humour in a man attractive as does a man that shows kindness and compassion and who is comfortable in who he is. I'm not good looking in the slightest, in fact I'm downright ugly (a bull dog licking piss off a nettle is a good description of me ) but I have no problem with the opposite sex as I am easy to talk to and have a sense of humour. The best description of attraction I heard is " when someone sings a song that only you can hear" . Sometimes people connect on different levels and physical attraction doesn't always factor.

[AnnVdB]

You can just ask the girl why she doesn't like you.
Looks are just a minor thing, compatability is most important. Me and my boyfriend have a great relationship because we are very much alike in what we do and love and our sense of humor and everything... I fell in love with who he is not what he looks like.

Long term relationships are about personalities, not looks. Looks go down with time anyway, and if you spend all your time together, you will want to have fun together and be able to talk easily with each other and be like best friends. Just having someone that looks good... how boring is that

[multilevel]

But what if the guy is REALY hairy bodied?

[AnnVdB]

@multilevel I wouldn't care because I love him

[multilevel]

Is love soooo blind? And what about the icky and creepy feeling which his naked body will produce?

[AnnVdB]

@multilevel why would his naked body produce that? If you love each other you dont care about that shit

[multilevel]

If you know a guy is cursed with that, will you dare to know and like his heart and personality?

[AnnVdB]

@multilevel I dont see it as a curse

[multilevel]

Doesn't it look really really weird and creepy? Hence its aesthetic curse, LIFELONG

[AnnVdB]

@multilevel no

[multilevel]

So if you really like someone you can tolerate thick thatch of torso hair as well, without willing to change that?

[AnnVdB]

@multilevel yes ofcourse

[multilevel]

Tolerate, without wanting to remove that?
But why, why not speak up and get it removed as per your liking?

[AnnVdB]

@multilevel why remove it? Do you know how much that costs and it would probably hurt a lot

[multilevel]

Remove it for looking more clean, nice and sexually appealing for sake of girl?

[DeezNutz33]

This is really really really reallyx15 stupid dude if women did that u would never have sex again 😕

[Asker]

I didn't say they give up on other factors all together, just that they prioritize looks over everything else. I mean most guys do that right? Some guys only care about looks, and plenty of girls have sex am I right? I am merely saying that it is much simpler for them to discriminate based on looks rather then intangible factors that are impossible to decipher.

[DeezNutz33]

I don't know about u but when I look for a partner I look past how big their tits are and look for a real person underneath the fake breast implant u elderberry smellin mofo

[Girl_Scout]

"Its just so cruel to judge a guy based off of who he is as a person"

You can't be for real... seriously... this is ridiculous. You can't dictate what we are attracted to, that's just idiotic. Why would I want to fuck someone who I think is a stupid prick? Because he's pretty? That's so fucking shallow..

You aren't very bright are you?

[multilevel]

Bit why would you want to fuck someone who is downright gross and sexually repulsive as for example is very hairy bodied?

[Girl_Scout]

@multilevel I wouldn't fuck someone I don't find attractive, most normal humans want both: to find someone interesting and attractive. That's what the majority of people do...

[multilevel]

Overly hairy body is super unattractive, agree?

[Girl_Scout]

@multilevel can you stop talking to me about this please? I've already explained to you my feelings about it.

[Cmasterson]

I think that anyone wants the perfect person in their mind, not to say we settle but people change with time and yes due to their personality it can definitely make someone more attractive or less. A good personality to me is someone who is a good person, everything that makes them the funny person they are they caring person that they are etc. Having a guy who is devilishly hot and abusive or rude doesn't go hand in hand, it automatically makes him less attractive or should I say appealing.

[Elizabeth21__]

Umm. That's the most shallow thing I've ever read.

No wonder girls don't like you.

[Asker]

I never said girls dont like me, plenty of girls like me, but most of them dont interest me because of the way they look. I am a nice guy, I get along with almost everyone, and I recognize that every girl is beautiful on the inside when you get to know them, how can I discriminate based on that? I dont want to pick a girl because she acts a certain way, because thats just cruel, I can be friends with any girl and experience her personality through friendship, but the romantic element comes in when I am physically attracted to her, thats when I want to take it a step further. Looks are easier for everyone, and it is a lot better the selecting girls based off of their equally awesome personalities. And anyway the line you thought showed that girls hated me, was actually a line where I was just pointing out what I (representing all guys) could do if girls cared about looks more.

[Melpomene]

Looks fade.
Personality takes a bit longer.

[multilevel]

So does that mean that women will be tolerating excess male body hair as well for sake of great personality?

[Melpomene]

@multilevel If she likes hair then sure.
I dunno how much that stands up.
My fiance is hairy as a bear and I adore it.
Plus he's got a golden personality.

Regardless, looks and personality are a compromise,
and some girls have thresholds. A woman might fall hard for a
less-than-average guy because they share interest and have wonderful chemistry, but might turn her nose up at the hot guy with a vapid personality or mismatched interest.

[multilevel]

Oh you already have been in such a situation! So you were always accepting of male body hair? Or was it for his loves sake that you choose to tolerate it and now you don't even wish him to be waxed?

[Timguitarman]

Agree totally