28F, yes I’m straight or if any other sexuality I’d be asexual. I download tinder 2 weeks ago & have been speaking to someone on it since. I took a chance & decided to not videochat/call him beforehand, lord I should’ve. He didn’t catfish me but I just got the vibe he is gay. He didn’t dress flamboyant, it was just the way he spoke. He seemed nice & after about 15 min I came to the realization that it’s tinder and I don’t owe him anything. The drinks took forever to come, I just told him I had a long day and something felt kinda off, it was nice to meet him, didn’t want him to waste his money on me & I dipped out. He was about to follow me out, I told him to stay put to make sure the waiter didn’t charge him but truthfully I didn’t want him to follow me to my car/look at my plate. He msged me after saying he wasn’t sure what happened & hoped I got home safe, I just deleted the app. Lesson learnt: moving fwd I’ll ALWAYS do a phone screening before meeting.
Was I too quick to judge this guy from dating app on first meet up?
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Well, it's quite common after a first date to realize you don't want to pursue things with someone
Well that’s what the first dates are really. If you don’t like him that’s fine. If your not comfortable with anything then maybe you shouldn’t see him again. I feel you with the voice thing. As long as you knew what he looked like before, I don’t think it’s a big deal. You don’t have to talk to him if you don’t want to.
It's possible he tried to install the Grinder app and downloaded Tinder by accident.