How can I convince my daughter to date a white man?

[Anonymous]

So, my daughter claims she's a lesbian and is dating an Asian woman, and her father and I don't approve of this relationship at all. We're very proud of our Norwegian and Scottish heritage and have always wanted her to continue our bloodline, but that's not possible if she thinks she's in love with another female and add that's she's a completely different race.

[ShesRad80]

you don't have to approve to still love her. she is clearly happy as a mixed Asian myself why does race matter? you act like being Asian is like being from another planet-

but more then likely :

[glennos89]

As much as I understand that you guys aren't happy about it... Fact of the mather is that you can't force your children into dating what you prefer them to date. A good parent will support their children regardless of the choices they make.

Did you let your parents decide who to love and who not to love? 🤨

Support your children! Life itself is already hard enough don't make it more difficult for them then it needs to be!!!

[lightbulb27]

pretty tough. she'd have to go to therapy and try to figure out what is going on... and who says she wants to. Not saying that will work, but might. If there's trauma in her past, that needs corrected. But why would she do that if she doesn't hink there is a problem?

I'd say have another kid fast...

[EmmaMary]

Just how old is your daughter? And if of legal age what right do you have to interfere in her private life.

[Asker]

She's 22.

[Asker]

And I'm still her mother, so I still have a say in her life.

[EmmaMary]

In that case just be pleased and happy for her, and keep your thoughts and disappointment to yourself.

[EmmaMary]

Oh and for point of reference, you No Longer have any say whatsoever in her life.

[HelpfulWoman]

that daughter if she's even real will hopefully be cutting ties soon!

[EmmaMary]

@HelpfulWoman

If "she" hasn't already.

[EmmaMary]

I've come to the conclusion that this is now very worthy of me saying:

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Still-alive]

It's apparently her '1st question' probably a race troll smh

[Kingofkings1992]

@HelpfulWoman why would you hope a daughter cuts ties with her mother? You don’t have to agree with her, but that’s a terrible thing to say.

[HelpfulWoman]

@Kingofkings1992 because when parents are dickheads, its the best thing the daughter can do. its actually pretty simple of a concept when one braincell works :)

[HelpfulWoman]

@Kingofkings1992 it is. my life is great since i cut my abusive mother out of it ;) the idiot is the one who assumes, because they come out looking like an ass. perhap take that motto in life with you to take you further than your brain does. good luck. i feel you need it more :D

[Kingofkings1992]

Just so everyone knows. Helpfulwoman is a coward who blocked me before I could even say anything back. Lmao. Stupid and cowardly child.

[EmmaMary]

@Kingofkings1992

I note with interest that you have not put a post yourself containing all your expert advice on this subject.

And there's certainly no need whatsoever to be quite so offensive within your last comment.

[Kingofkings1992]

@EmmaMary you are correct, I have not. I was simply responding with the same energy she’s giving me. There was certainly no need for her to say that if you don’t think exactly like her you don’t have a single brain cell.

[EmmaMary]

@Kingofkings1992

Having re-read some of @HelpfulWoman posts, you do have a very valid reason for pointing out some of her highly derogatory comments.

Perhaps if she had first and foremost posted her own personal experiences, this would certainly have helped and put more clarity on what she was actually trying to say.

[Kingofkings1992]

@EmmaMary thank you ☺️. Yes, I agree. Make it known and be respectful. To insult people’s intelligence is very immature. Oh well. She’s still pretty young. She obviously still has some growing up to do

[EmmaMary]

@Kingofkings1992

You do realise that you're now doing precisely what she was doing!

Please just read your last sentence... Am I right or am I right?

[Kingofkings1992]

@EmmaMary by saying she has some growing up to do? 🥴

[EmmaMary]

@Kingofkings1992

Precisely... Food for thought perhaps?

[Kingofkings1992]

@EmmaMary okay I’ll chew on it. Thanks for the feedback and good night 😴

[EmmaMary]

@Kingofkings1992

Goodnight and pleasant dreams.

[Pyrofox]

I think what they are saying is you both are being incredibly toxic about not being understanding. ultimately its not your happiness that matters its your daughters. And knowing you don't approve isn't gonna stop her. if anything its just gonna make your daughter wanna prove you and your husband wrong and push her further away and probably just make her like you even less. As well be very embarrassed about having her girlfriend around you or your husband. Especially if she thinks her father is gonna be openly racist.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[ZFazal84]

Actually, no you don't. She's 22, that makes her a legal adult. So she can marry whoever she wants. and you can't do shit about it. What are you going to do force her to marry a white man? You're not in third world country where there are no laws, Forced marriages are illegal. Your daughter does not need help. You do. The views you hold are outdated, toxic, and wrong. People who are obsessed with race and this "bloodline" nonsense, are always people who have achieved very little in their lives, and have no sense of self. You're mediocre in every way i suspect. and to deal with your mediocrity, you convince yourself you are better then other races because you were born better. It's a very child-like view of the world. Get help see a therapist.

[Still-alive]

@ZFazal84 hmm nice 'new' account you got there...

[EmmaMary]

@Still-alive

Really? What's this I don't know about?

[Still-alive]

just a hunch i got lol. im very suspicious of xper 1 accounts on here

[EmmaMary]

@Still-alive

Aren't we all!

[HelpfulWoman]

You be a decent fucking parent and support her regardless.
Stop being a homophobic and racist troll, you're 36-45 for fucks sake.

[HelpfulWoman]

@Greegree honestly i'm calling troll on this post anyway, just some typical dipshit troll language used

[Curmudgeon]

@Greegree Eh, it's fun to play with trolls.

[Sour-rose]

And the fire has been set.

[love_conquers_lust]

Bingo

[Curmudgeon]

How odd. In my corner of the world, White men have turned to the comforts of Asian women all too often, because all too many of the White women around here have been indoctrinated to become man-hating lesbian communist witches.

[Asker]

Funny because your description sounds like her little girlfriend.

[Curmudgeon]

Oh, so she and the girlfriend are both leftist man haters? Sad, but given the fever swamps of what passes for academia today, I guess the Asian women who are marinated in it too long might end up that way too.

Ok, I hate to ask you where did you and your husband go wrong, but hey, where did you and your husband go wrong?

If all else fails, this might just be a fad, and she will eventually straighten up (pun intended). This is often the case with college women:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbian_until_graduation
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexual_chic

And if she did fall for an Asian *boy*, would that REALLY be so bad? A professional guy with a good career, kind, hard working, and scholastic. He would likely treat your daughter so well, like a Queen. I had and have so many friends like this. Seriously, enter the 21st Century.

That all said, with respect to dating Asian girls, a funny line from a punk rock song of my youth comes to mind: "Every night would be so great - I'd take you home to meet Mom and Dad. And they'll be so glad - they won't think their boy's a fag - then we'll go upstairs, and go to bed..."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYTjFNvFvW4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYTjFNvFvW4

[Curmudgeon]

@Greegree Sadly yes. In the 1980s and 1990s and even 2000s in the Greater San Francsico area, it was still a good rule that "If she is Asian, she is Straight..." Sigh. (Apologies to Muses like @laurieluvsit)

[noohair]

Sounds like you follow Nazi ideology with the bloodline comment. Your daughter is not a breeding animal, she is a human. And she was born gay and developed her sexually at puberty just like you did, but she was attracted to women. And finally, there is only one race, human. You are using 19th century pseudoscience just like a good European white superior assho! e!

[Unknown8264]

No one is born gay
You are born either male or female and if u end up liking the same sex then you have a mental issue which needs to be treated because this is opposite of the correct way of nature

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Unknown8264 Actually all sexual preferences are developed during embryonic development. So gay people ARE born gay, and straight people are born straight, and bi people are born bi, and asexual people are born asexual.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Technically, all preferences (not just sexual) are developed during that time, so its predetermined how a person will respond to any stimuli they are exposed to in life. Everything fromwhat foods youlike the taste of, towhat arouses you, to what disguste you, to you're idea of whats fun or boring. It's all in the DNA.

[Unknown8264]

I agree some things are related to DNA and genetics but sexual preference it’s not
It’s a mental illness that people are normalizing
This is the truth and you are an ignorant for not thinking properly

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Unknown8264 Yes it is, sexual preferences are definitely related to DNA and genetics, and you ARE born with them.

It is impossible to change a person's sexual preferences. Trying to do so is both ignorant and futile.

[noohair]

@Unknown8264 Well the science is different than what you think.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No it isn't.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@noohair disregard that last thing i commented, I thought @Unknown8264 was replying to me.

[Kayla45]

Leave her alone and let her have the free will to choose whoever she wants to date. You have no right controlling who she finds romantic interests in. Sorry but that's the truth, and that's as blunt as I can put it.

[scentoflavender]

Later in in life when you're looking at your phone randomly on a Thursday, thinking " I havnt talked to my daughter in a while", remember back to this moment. Just love her. That's it. Don't provide judgement, just support.

[daisygreenlove]

I think depending on your daughter's age... i wouldn't worry.
But, you may have to swallow your irritation. The more you bug her on that subject, i bet she'll just pull away more. Just let he see for herself.

[RingOfFire]

I always feel like I need to use a spreadsheet to decipher these gender bender questions. A lesbian woman who thinks she's a man but only has sex with transsexual men. I'm already lost. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Astarlessnightsky]

DON'T!

Just let her be happy how she is.

Otherwise you may loose her entirely, as she turns her back on her abusive parents and moves to a different part of the country.

[Sour-rose]

You can convince her by letting her do as she wants. If she goes with a white mofo, she will of her own choice

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to dictate someone else’s life and sexuality.

[Lokiion]

Leave her alone it’s her choice weather she wants to continue the bloodline or not you just sound selfish and sounds like you only got a child just to carry out your will of continuing a bloodline

[Bricealan]

You can't change her sexual preference, not more than I can change my brother's sexual preference.

[Babykitten5]

Who she fucks is absolutely none of your business. So stay out of it

[Radiate143]

continue our bloodline

Who thinks like this?

I would just want her with a man of any colour if lesbian was the other option.

[OddBeMe]

Well, you can abduct her and take her to your lair of other occultist KKK members and recite the chant of White Supremacy. It doesn’t have a good affect on our youngins today unfort. Damn you God!!!

[RavVid]

How old is she? I think this can be a political act more than anything.

[love_conquers_lust]

Why would race preclude continuing a bloodline? You’re post is so die hard troll you can’t keep your story straight.

[RedInnocent68]

Don’t. Anything you do will make it worse. She may come around, she may not. Let her become who she’s gonna be.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Don't be an ass, let your daughter be happy with her girlfriend and stop pestering her.

[Kingofkings1992]

Well your daughter is a grown woman and can live her life any way she wants to live it. You can have a preference on what you’d rather she be doing, but you cannot make decisions for her anymore.

[Starrrboy]

Would you be okay if your parents dictated and judged your personal life? of course not.. so , let people live!..

[Unknown8264]

Take her to a church indirectly or ask someone she trusts to talk to her

[Twalli]

So you care more about your heritage than your daughter?

[LiamJHayden]

You don't try. Any actions you take will probably be met with resentment.

[Anonymous]

Tell her she can get her credit score all the way up to 700.😆

[Anonymous]

Your only concern should be your daughter finding someone who treats her well. Fix it and be better before she cuts you off.

[riverrat3]

Love and support your daughter, try and change her she will leave

[jahaims]

Hopefully she just cuts you off

[zionsxxnaaa]

This is so shitty

[pierre7i]

Troll !!!

[In_Trance]

Good luck with that