Guys, Is 6’4 way too tall for a female? Why won’t guys give me a chance?

[AmazonChick171]

So I’ve been struggling with dating a lot and I’m so frustrated with my dating life. I’ve been rejected, hurt and have a date with a guy. We’ll it wasn’t much of a date because he said he had to use the ‘bathroom’, but 10-15 minutes later, he never came back. I’m 6’4 barefoot and yes I am a young woman. I was born a female and NOT transgender. One time a guy asked that I was boiling mad inside. When I wear my heels (for example my four inch heels) I am about 6’8” and people look at me like a freak. When my friends that are 5’9 and under wear heels nobody gives them funny looks, well they do to my 5’9” friend sometimes but that’s nothing compared to me.
I’ve went on dates, but I never had a second date until I met my ex boyfriend. I had a boyfriend that I dated for two months and he was into me a lot. He was 5’7” but he didn’t care about my height and we were in LOVE, until things went downhill. He started being distant towards me, cold, uncaring and insulting my height. He even told me not to wear heels and I’m trying to emasculate him and it was embarrassing. Then he started telling people that I’m his “friends” and later flat out dumped me.
i took myself out of dating for a while. He dumped me earlier this year. I do want to date a guy that’s taller than me but the taller guys seem to prefer women under 5’7”. Mostly shorter men hit on me but once in a while. I’m not shallow I’ve went on dates with shorter guys and my ex is shorter me. I mean hello! There’s some taller guys that showed interest in me, but don’t wanna be in love, they just saw me as a breeder and once said I could breed a basketball team. Anyways, for once I want to meet a man that will accept me for who I am and doesn’t wanna be with me just because of my height.

[aceleon]

Girl sorry but you are too tall even for male standarts it is of course emasculating and i get why guys only aproaches you out of horniness since with that height it is a whole another genre and i am not sure i can give you any advice or say anything to console you if you are as King about the dating thing but if you ask about self esteem and things like that i would say confidently accept it, embrace it, let it be what makes you different and special, Bask in the glory of it since what you have is having more of something not lacking it you have one of the things that is considered good don't let your gender ly expectations ruin it for you, i for a fact would kill to be your height 2-3 years ago (now i kinda get used to my height even though since i can get used to your height too i think i might still want your height lol) but i am not even reaching 6ft, i won't say forget about guys but i kinda think what you need to do is that cuz dating is a drag even for People with unremarkable features let alone someone with unorthodox features.

[AmazonChick171]

We’ll I’m sick and tired of some guys only interested in me because I would breed “basketball” players and they don’t wanna be in a relationship or in love but you can’t make someone like or love you. Least you’re honest which is good. Its been so hard to find a date but for my brothers it’s easier for them because they’re guys. Both their girlfriends are under 5’6”. One is about 5’1” and the other is 5’4. They themselves don’t dig women over 5’7”.

[aceleon]

Tall guys don't prefer tall girls most of the time actually generally short guys are more warm to the idea of a tall girl at the beginning until they start to feel inferior which is kind of inevadeable.

[AmazonChick171]

Why don’t y’all guys like tall women. Even a guy who was 6’7 said I was too tall and has a 5’4 girlfriend

[aceleon]

well kind of the same thing a 5'3 girl wanting a 6'3 guy, it is about masculinity and feminity
tall looks masculine
short looks feminine
the guy is a rare height he sure as hell could want to feel the extra manliness by dating a midget compared to him male sexuality is all about stroking ego sooner you learn it the better.

[AmazonChick171]

Man this is so unfair. I wish I wasn’t 6’4”. Some basketball players at my college looked at me and passed me up. They looked freaked out to see a woman over 6ft. Some mostly like average height, petite women. Even a 6’9” guy says I’m way too tall and wide for him and I’m intimidating. He said he prefers women under 5’10”. How can he say I’m too tall? Even my brother don’t dig tall women and they’re ladies are under 5’6”. My brothers are about 6’8 and 6’7

[aceleon]

girl your height is even rare for mans let alone womans also we can'tblame them for wanting something i don't know if it will encourage you but there are guys with tall girl fantasies out there, they tend to be submissive so not real mans but they are still options also try shorter males since most of them already made peace with the whole height thing so they have a better chance of not caring about your height and get actually hopefull if your future kids would have a chance to be tall just like you.

[JustMeQ2]

You are true to your name then.


I’m 6’5, and have gotten the same harsh treatment from women with whom I have a large height difference and I also understand how this limits our dating pool.


Tall people should date tall people, we are to few already.


Hang in there. You are special and desirable. Don't get down just because people can't see that far.

[JustMeQ2]

Can you follow me back? 😃

[AmazonChick171]

Sure

[Avicenna]

No, there are plenty of guys who would be happy to date you and get to know you as a a person.

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah right

[Avicenna]

Some men prefer tall women

[AmazonChick171]

Yeah short guys

[Avicenna]

LOL, is a guy 187 cm short?

[RingOfFire]

At 6'4" you are in the 99th percentile in height for American women.

Comparing this to a man who is shorter than average he would have to be about 5'2" to be in the 1 percentile range for male height.

I think men of that height will experience similar problems meeting women that you are experiencing meeting men.

People are not used to men that short or women as tall as you are and it may make them uncomfortable until they get to know you better. After all, even without such differences it's hard to meet people of the opposite sex and have relationships.

I'm sorry some men have treated you so callously. There is no reason for that. I can understand your frustration. A lot of people are very shallow. But it doesn't matter because that's not the guy for you anyway.

But remember that people of average height also experience lots of relationship issues and difficulty meeting and forming deep relationships. Maybe try to focus less on your height yourself (I know that must be difficult) and focus more on taking things slow and not assuming that you will be rejected just because you are tall. After a while it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and you may be sabotaging yourself by dwelling on it even if you don't realize that you are.

You sound to me like you have a lot to offer. Keep the focus on the positive and sooner or later it will lead to success.

[lightbulb27]

I hope you can find someone serious. There are guys shorter than you that would date you.

It's not easy for many people, and we all have our reasons. So just accept the lumps like all of us. It sounds like good advice to not wear heels for now.

[exitseven]

okay- I am very married but I would have no issue dating somebody taller than me. I am 6 feet tall and dated somebody that was my height. She was big all over and very strong. She was a collegiate swimmer. I thought she was beautiful.
I bet you have a great sense of humor and you would be an amazing girlfriend. I know this sounds trite but someday you will find somebody that will be just right for you.

[Starrrboy]

Let's be real , your height is super rare for a girl.. you need a very tall guy or a shorter guy who's cool with it.. although I wouldn't recommend it because he probably won't be genuine.. it's gonna be harder for you to find someone , it's just what it is.. but good news is there's a lot of really tall guys 6'4 and up.. maybe give dating apps a try..

[AmazonChick171]

I’ll try but I don’t know how good dating apps will do. I tried it when I was 18 and not one single guy hit me up or message me. Some said damn I’m huge. One said he would date me if I was shorter. Face it, guys don’t like women over 5’7.

[Berethor]

Yea, it's very masculine height, a lot of guys are looking weak next to you.

https://www.worlddata.info/average-bodyheight.php

[AmazonChick171]

Well what else do you want me to do, get surgery and make myself shorter? I wish I could. If guys look weak next to me then I’m sorry to say that they’re not man enough to handle it.

[DryGermanGuy]

You posted this already. I repeat what I wrote then. If you’re trying to add high heels to your 6‘4 you are sabotaging yourself. Wear flat shoes and go after the tall guys.
Do you have a picture showing your proportions?

[Nifrayu]

Why go after tall guys?

[DryGermanGuy]

Because she already has bad experiences with smaller guys and let’s face it, a lot of American men seem to carry an inferiority complex around regarding their height. One infamous ex-member here made every posting about his height.

[Nifrayu]

Hmm. It wouldn't bother me if I was short.

[AmazonChick171]

When have I ever asked this? Most guys seen to have a problem with my height? Who says taller women can’t wear heels?

[AmazonChick171]

@Nifrayu because I’m sick of having bad experiences with guys I went out with! What do you want tall women like me to do, go for only shorter men.

[Nifrayu]

@AmazonChick171 all I know is if I was short, it wouldn't change the fact that I am attracted to tall women.

[AmazonChick171]

@Nifrayu that’s great. I just wish that guys could give us tall ladies a chance. I’ve given shorter guys a chance. Even a guy that was 6’5” was terrified of me and refuses to stand next to me.

[Nifrayu]

Yeah, I never understood that. I remember a long time ago when discovered that most men don't like tall women, I was surprised and confused because I've always thought it was a desirable trait.

[Nifrayu]

@nigaga99111 180 is barely tall in my opinion. It's shorter than me.

[msc545]

My ex was 6'5" and I am shorter than that. I didn't care nor did she. We broke up over things unrelated to her height or mine, and we are still good friends.

It is possible to find a man who won't care and who will love you for who you are.

[Surely]

I am six two plus a fraction. If we were near the same age and lived near each other. I wouldn’t have a problem with spending time to get to know you and possibly dating.
I was raised in an old farmhouse and had to watch my head going from room to room. Plus the cellar was really low. When I built my house. I made sure that I wouldn’t have to watch bumping my head! I feel for you. Good luck in finding a guy to appreciate you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I dated a woman who was 6'3" she frequently wore 6" heels when we went out... another inch makes no difference. Sorry you're having a shite time meeting guys, but they're out there.