Girls, would you propose to your boyfriend?

[Simslover92]

And guys, would you accept the proposal?

[IslaTheWitch]

I did and he agreed. He is an introvert, so I could wait until today for him to propose :D

There are no rules you have to follow. If you feel it's time, just talk to him or officially propose- whatever you feel more comfortable with. Just remember: It doesn't mean he has to agree. If a guy proposes to his girlfriend, she is not obliged to say "yes" if she doesn't feel that way.

[Simslover92]

That's great that you proposed and he agreed but I'm not sure if I could propose to my boyfriend. I feel like it's the man's job to propose. I would just feel so awkward doing it and me and my boyfriend already had this discussion and he wouldn't accept because he feels the same way.

[IslaTheWitch]

Splitting responsibilities between genders is not how it works. People are different. Some men like to take control or do it because they feel they should. Some just stay in place, waiting for a miracle to happen. With women, it is the same, we are taught by movies and books and examples of our family that women should wait, not initiate, and not express.

But the relationship is not about norms. It's about two people who have feelings for each other. If you feel unsure to do something, talk with your boyfriend. Say you read an article or question on quora/reddit, and you are curious about what he thinks. Remember that his general opinion can be different than this related to your person. Because what he doesn't like in general, he can love about you.

[Simslover92]

That's true. Thank you.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, I'd like that to stay a tradition where he does it.

[Kaneki05]

Complicated. Would 100% want to say yes, but I have negative views towards marriage.
Though if she's my girlfriend she would already know this about me, and if she was proposing we would both know that we are on the same page about how we want it so yes?

[Simslover92]

Ok. Got it!

[Mansearching]

Of course I would. I'd do anything for her

[Simslover92]

Aww that's so sweet!

[Mansearching]

I'm made of surgar... lol

[Simslover92]

Lol.

[IslaTheWitch]

That's an attitude. Why do I find it only in people our age?

[Mansearching]

@IslaTheWitch Well we've been together for 13yrs. I proposed after 6 months. She was still separated but not fully divorced. So she said no at that time.

[IslaTheWitch]

@mansearching But finally, she agreed. And you are happy. It's the most important outcome.

[Mansearching]

@IslaTheWitch. No she still hasn't said yes. She decided to not get married again. We're together. Ofc, we've had our ups and downs just like ev1 else. But if she changed her mind, ofc I'd say yes.

[IslaTheWitch]

Having the paper or saying the vows is not important. What is important is that she is with you, she said yes. And you are with her. And ups and downs are required to appreciate what you both have.

[Mansearching]

@IslaTheWitch I do wish we lived together tho.

[IslaTheWitch]

@mansearching Uhhh... it's tough, then.

[Mansearching]

@IslaTheWitch we live in same town tho.

[Simslover92]

@Mansearching if only we lived in the same town 😔

[Mansearching]

Lol... um be arm and arm?😇

[Billlewis]

Are you kidding? I'd accept any proposal you make to me, no matter what it is;)

[Simslover92]

Aww thanks 😊

[MustafaAl]

Please i hope the girls that a like would do this, I am too shy to do anything in that regards, I will accept it

[Pyrofox]

I'd accept but immediately start scanning the area for the snooping family members in on this. XD. Peripherally. XD.

[exitseven]

Yes, I would. I never really proposed. After a couple of months we both just knew we were going to get married.

[Simslover92]

Oh ok. Nice!

[exitseven]

@Simslover92 Truthfully, now that I am older I wish I had made a bigger deal about it.

[Simslover92]

Oh but at least you got to marry the person you wanted to marry. Big deal or not, that's the most important thing.

[exitseven]

My wife said the same thing but i know that it is a big deal for girls.

[Nifrayu]

If I was in love with her, then yes. I likely would.

[msc545]

I certainly would not. I know better than to walk into that trap. I already did that once to my great regret.

[Simslover92]

Oh so you had a girl propose to you? Yikes. Sorry.

[IslaTheWitch]

@msc545 Sorry you had to experience it. Was it a hard marriage or a hard divorce?

[msc545]

Both

[IslaTheWitch]

@msc545 Sorry again. It's fully understandable you don't want to repeat it.

[msc545]

Thank you for understanding

[BigDog1989]

No, it's not that I'm turning HER down. I want to be with her. It's just, I do NOT WANT TO MARRY, or have kids

[OddBeMe]

My wife says she would have proposed but I don’t believe her.

[SomeRandomFrenchGirl]

I don't want to get married so probably not

[Simslover92]

Oh ok.

[SunnyRS]

If I love them then I definitely would.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If I had a girlfriend, I'd accept it.