How do you find a life partner, if you have never been someone men have found attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm 37 years old and never had a serious relationship. I'm longing to find someone, but I have never been someone who men have approached or ever hit on. Guys don't even really talk to me either.

[Blueeyes81]

By being proactive. If no one comes to you go to them. Step outside your comfort zone. Try online dating. Try joining some clubs.

[Asker]

Online dating is where I ended up meeting guys who said they wanted a relationship, but it ended up them just wanting sex. Also right now I can't post photos anywhere online of myself, due to having certain family member who I had to press charges against.

What kind of clubs would you recommend?

Thank you for your help

[Blueeyes81]

Think of something you enjoy and search Facebook. I'm in a hiking club and they do singles hikes as well as just people looking for a hiking companion. If you live near a big city there will be countless groups and clubs you can join.

[Asker]

I'm on fb but I am finding so many group admin are rejecting my request to join because my account is not 6 months old. If I am lucky to be accepted into the group, I'm blocked from posting or leaving any comments until my account is 6 months or older.

I live about an hour from the city but travel there once a month or once every couple of months but I find most of the people who live or work around there are exercising with headphones on or they are in suits walking to get coffee with their work colleagues chatting away sometimes about work stuff and sometimes about their upcoming plans.

I haven't searched for the single club I'll try that one thank you for your help thank you

[boggboss]

By u approaching guys

[Asker]

What's the best way to approach him? Line what do you even say. This would be way out of my comfort zone. But I'll try if I have to

[Asker]

Thank you

[Ifitbtbtb]

Don’t chase men. You will end up with a loser which is worse than being alone.

[Asker]

I'm guilty of doing this, however I have since stopped as I know its not healthy or good. Thank you

[jahaims]

Approach guys

[Asker]

Thank you