Can a guy be a player even if he brought you to meet his mom?

[Anonymous]

Have any of you guys brought a girl you weren't serious about to meet your mom?

[RoseySarah]

Lmao my brother in law did this!

Only settled cause he got my sister pregnant!

His mom would share stories about it. Laughing how she helped her son 🤣

Till it finally got him to be a nice guy and have a family. My sister brings home the money while he sits with Thier daughter watching sports.

[Asker]

Soo your saying he's a player?

[RoseySarah]

Yes and his mom goes along with it cause she won't accept her baby is a player just having a hard time getting a girlfriend.

Not that he just bangs and ends!

[kylee2437]

Yep it means absolutely nothing in reality. I had a guy flat out tell his parents about me (they were excited to meet me, you could tell from their reactions about me) and then ghosted me a month later. And has tried to message me on and off since. Some men just really don’t care

[Asker]

Wait so did you actually meet them? Or did he just told them about you?

[Asker]

Tell*

[kylee2437]

@asker I met them lol they were excited like he told them about me, but the whole interaction exchange meant nothing. Also that’s not the only time where a guy has introduced me to his mother and it meant nothing. That one just stands out because it had me fucked up for a while

[Asker]

Damn well that makes me even more confused 😅 one thing that was a little off putting was his mom didn't even seem phased to see me? She later apologized if she came off rude and said it was because she was doing something on the computer. But now I have thoughts like what if he's brought many girls around and that's why she didn't seem phased 😅😅

[kylee2437]

Haha I wouldn’t overthink it honestly. Just don’t put anything past anyone. I used to think meeting parents was a good sign but some men just use it as a way to make you feel special. The only way you will really know his intentions is as time passes.

[slatyb]

What do you mean by "player?" If you don't try to trade sex for love or commitment, you can't be played. Have sex if you want to, enjoy it if you can, don't regret it. No matter how long you wait, the relationship (or marriage) can still end the morning after.

[kylee2437]

Agreed with this.

[Asker]

What I'm trying to figure out is if he's really committed or if it's just strictly sex. I met his mom and he says he wants to get serious but I just want to know would you bring a girl you weren't serious about to meet his mom?

[BarryLiverstone]

Have had two gfs meet my mom. Didn’t marry either of them. What do you mean by serious?

[Asker]

I mean like committing to a relationship? Like would you have brought just any girl to meet your mom

[BarryLiverstone]

No I wouldn’t just bring any girl around. Both of them I was committed to in a relationship.

How long have you been dating the guy and who else has he introduced you to (family, friends..)

[Asker]

I've been dating him for only about 3 weeks and I just met his mom. He doesn't have a dad or siblings and his friends are out of state so yeah

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok so with that information I’d say it’s too soon to know his intentions and be a bit worried. Why doesn’t he have any friends close to him?

[Asker]

I dont know he's not from here but then again he's lived here for 9 years now and he told me he doesn't have friends down here cause he doesn't trust nobody 🤔🤔

[BarryLiverstone]

Right so that’s a red flag in my opinion. Been there for 9 years and hasn’t made friends locally and also doesn’t trust people around him. I’d say he doesn’t sound grounded and ready for a serious relationship. Much more likely he’s got other priorities and isn’t that stable when things get tough.

But who knows what you want in a guy. Whether you are grounded and wanting a future

[Asker]

Yeahh another thing is he somehow lost his trust in me because he said his "friend" found an old tinder account that I was using before him. Then it got me thinking he said he doesn't have friends down here locally yet somehow a "friend" found my old account? It doesn't make any sense. He stopped talking to me for a week because he was "mad" and needed "space" and then now is trying to talk things out and give me another chance? Now he wants to take me out of town 3 hours away to spend time with me and talk things out. I just dont know about this whole situation. Your honestly right

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ya. You have known him 3 weeks. Didn’t even talk a week. And he’s wanting to take you away 3 hrs from there? Too many alarm bells. I assume you have had Sex? He wants more sex

[Asker]

Yeah we have had sex already. So I'm assuming I'm being played huh? Cause I dont know he says he wants something serious with me and he really likes me but then again there seems to be red flags

[BarryLiverstone]

Likely you are. But if you like him, best advice is to take it slow. Don’t go away for a long trip, stop having sex, and suggest you all meet up for a walk in the park. You aren’t in a hurry and if he’s serious he will take his time

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you been played before?

[Asker]

Yes I have but not like this cause if he is playing me he forsure is a different type of player to be going to this extent 🤔

[Asker]

I know it's a bad idea but I'm probably going to go with him on the day trip 😬 I'm going to try and not get too connected to clearly see his intentions.

[BarryLiverstone]

Well you already have some feelings for him so it’s not going to be a clear decision. If I was your friend I would say reschedule the trip until after Thanksgiving., if he’s serious then he can wait until December

[Altheavas]

It means nothing, just a little manipulation tactics, keep playing girl, have fun!

[Daffotul]

yes he can it means nothing which is quite sad