How to get out of this situation?

[Lilphil123]

I got myself in to a situation. A guy hit on me at the gym. At first I was excited. Someone different that I normally go for. He has been texting me and yesterday called in the middle of the day. I said I am working and it’s a busy day so won’t be able to chat. He just calls again. Now I’m getting turned off. I’m not in to aggressive guys like that really and I’m not really a phone call person. Work all day and then have my 5 year old so I’m tired and would rather relax after.

He had asked me out for dinner but haven’t planned yet. Now I’m hesitant. Do I even bother? Just getting a bad vibe now. And how do I handle the phone issue?

[mandyfire98]

If you told him you were really busy and couldn't talk and he still kept calling anyway? That's definitely a red flag.

[Still-alive]

yes its super needy.

[mandyfire98]

If I had to bet there's also some trust issues already with him. It's far too insecure.

[Still-alive]

I dunno if you know about attachment theory but he’s definitely the anxious attachment type.

[Lilphil123]

@Still-alive so am I lolllll. But I try to hide it at least!!!

[Lilphil123]

Yess I could see that. Good point. Ugh I had already agreed to meet for dinner. He just sent a fast food restaurant lol. I need to end this.

[Still-alive]

just tell him you are no longer interested and if he keeps bothering you, you'll have to block him on everything.