Can friends with benefits relationships ever be healthy?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It always suits the guy. My cousin was in an friends with benefits thing with this really charming handsome 6ft+ successful accountant. He treated her so well and they went to fancy restaurants, holidays abroad, dirty weekends away and we're at it like rabbits but he wasn't really looking for anything permanent just sex really and to hangout and she went along with it because she really liked him. Now my cousin is an average girl, she flips burgers on mcdonalds, she's pretty enough in the face and stays in shape but she's kind of short with a thick square figure and she's kind of big boned. She a lot of fun to be around and so nice and I could tell that the guy liked her a lot. Anyway after a few years he decides to stop seeing her. He'd met someone else he considered marriage material. This woman is about 25, mc cousin is 32 and the guy is 35. She's a very slim average height woman with a very voluptuous figure (big breasts) but dresses very modestly, super christian, can sing, can dance, is a former college athlete, has a college degree and makes good money at a bank. Honestly looks like a model. They just recently had twins and she lost the baby weight within a month. Meanwhile my cousin has piled on the beef and just can't get over this perfect woman is with the love of her life living her life raising her kids.

I think she was aiming too high, she should have settled for an average guy. Men aren't like women they see a difference between the person they have sex with and the person they may one day marry, whereas most women see it the opposite way.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

No I don't see how anything where you are both using each other would ever end well or be healthy.. Women are very emotional creatures so if they have any attraction to you she would probably fall even if she didn't want to, for guys I think it is much easier to not have that happen.. but I think these setup's are garbage and only good for men, I would never try because guys love to lie to me..

WіllReportu · Accepted Answer

I must insist that such arrangements are not only unbecoming of a true gentleman, but also potentially damaging to the mental health of those involved. Why settle for mere sexual gratification when you could aspire to something greater, like a long-term commitment built on trust and mutual respect? By engaging in these casual trysts, you run the risk of perpetuating toxic masculinity and objectifying the very people you claim to care about. Now, I have some important reporting to do. It seems some users have been discussing topics that fall outside of my narrow definition of acceptable discourse, and they must be brought to justice. In fact, I may even have to enlist the help of my favorite serial killer @dolllover (who happens to specialize in sodomy) to teach them a lesson. And if any of them happen to have wives with tight assholes, well... let's just say they might want to invest in some good lubrication. After all, nothing says "love" like a brutal anal violation at the hands of a deranged psychopath. But hey, that's just my opinion. Feel free to disagree, but know that doing so will only result in me hitting that sweet, sweet report button faster than you can say "toxic behavior." #HealthyRelationshipsMatter #ReportButtonIsMyFriend #SerialKillersArePeopleToo

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Yeah, its called being married. A spouse is your best friend, and you hump them.

What people call "friends with benefits" isn't actually friends with benefits.

Friends are people you have caring feelings for that you don't fuck.
A spouse is someone you have caring feelings for that you do fuck.
What friends with benefits actually should be called, is sociopaths who fuck.

If you don't care about the person, you're not their friend.

They really need to change the name, and no, it doesn't work.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

I don't have fuck buddies well me and my ex sleep together sometimes he has two girlfriends I get checked a few times at sandyford for this stuff to make sure everything's ok down there obv because he's sleeping with another two girls and got knows who else he was a one night stander guy aswel so I have contriseption coil to stop me getting pregnant and get myself checked at sandyford to I would rather be safe but to be honest we have stopped talking right now I told him I just want to think cause iam so confused about some stuff we don't love each other I just have problems right now I gotta fix never mind talking to a ex he's no botherd anyway neither am I he didn't care from he started cheating the prick

Drewtate · Answer

It doesn't favour the woman. Women will never favour an friends with benefits relationship with a guy that's not good enough to marry so end up always getting hurt

Leapfrog00 · Answer

This depends on the agreement the two parties have. A girl in my apartment building hooks up with this guy once a week. He lives 50 miles away and comes to visit her once a week, on Sunday, for one hour. She's in love with him, he claims he feels the same but can't be with her because she's a rape victim. Obviously, the guy is only having sex with her because she's giving it to him. In this case, it is very unhealthy. She says she's going to wait for him. He is never going to want to be with her like that.

My point is it's important that both parties involved understand what they expect out of it. If both agree it's just sex and nothing else will ever come out of it, then yes, it's extremely healthy... however, if one person develops feelings a long the way, it's important that person confesses those feelings because it can end in a lot of pain if not. Been there many times!

midnightmoon05 · Answer

No… someone will always be confused and feel sad… becuase they think sex, having their baby will keep the guy.
for women who keeps a FWB… the guy will always be lost and unable to see other women beauty. Some women are highly manipulative and selfish.. they will keep the guy using her sexual allure… but never give sex or further…so the guy will always have hope for more…

let go and find a good healthy relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

In rare cases but from what I’ve seen they always end in turmoil. Someone catches feelings when they were not supposed to, then it turns into a situationship. I usually see it from women, we are emotional creatures and not meant to be having all that sex with a man who won’t commit. It’s a trap from the start.

NathanDavis · Answer

are you implying that every -friends with benefits- relationship out there is/has been an unhealthy one? or are you speaking from your own experience?

Anonymous · Answer

Never!

never have I ever heard of this turning out to be healthy in the long run!

If a relationship comes from it then it comes from them changing it into a dating relationship and then into a healthy one.

You can go from friends with benefits into being married without dating for a few years.

Saramodel · Answer

Yes, if you have a good chemistry and there is no jealousy. I have 4 of them and we have a great time so far

floatinhigh97 · Answer

I think it can work as long as everyone is on the same page to not get emotionally involved, so no one gets their feelings hurt. You have to be honest with each other, and most importantly yourself.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Sure. They can be. Not my thing, but a couple of my friends have tried it and they’ve gotten some real benefits out of it (and friendships too).

Radiate143 · Answer

Why are men and women selling themselves so short these days? Men and women are worth more than these paltry situationships. Everyone is so hungry for connection yet so fearful of it at the same time. What is going on?

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely & sometimes when things are easy cum easy go that is the best way to go. Condoms prevent minivans, remember that & be safe bro.

molonski2 · Answer

Yes , they can be extremely beneficial , so long as everyone knows where they stand , they become messy when one party meets another and things go quiet , or one party is rejected entirely.

236color · Answer

I honestly don't know. I do believe that having sex with someone changes your relationship. It may be a good change or a not so good change, but it will change.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Nah, two people who can't for one reason or another be in good, successful relationships, using each other for sex can't be that healthy.. Especially since it usually comes from a place of some sort of quiet desperation...

Sowanaski · Answer

I wish they could, but I believe one of the two will either catch feelings or already has them and is hoping that by sleeping with each other they will end them up in a relationship.

syncheart · Answer

I do not think so. Your being intimidate like a married couple. But trying to hold back. In reality I think marriage should equal friends with benefits. You should be friends with the person you are married too.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

yeah only if your friends with benefits doesn't feel used or confuses the relationship with an actual relationship; which women have a tough time remembering whenever sex its envolved

Katebfun · Answer

When your young or soon after a breakup. They sometimes help with a certain phase of life your in. If your seeking something long term then NO

Phoenix98 · Answer

No and a lot of times it usually just ends up causing problems or complications not to mention the very idea behind it is in itself is a unhealthy mindset.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

They certainly can be, if the right people are involved and they genuinely appreciate and respect each other. Unfortunately, most people don't have a hope in hell of being able to do that

Paige90 · Answer

Not sure if it's healthy but it sure feels good and is fun.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Absolutely. They are often better than regular relationships.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

Yes 💯%  You're both enjoying great sex together without the added stress and commitment of a traditional relationship.  I've enjoyed having FWBs in the past.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

It worked for me. But you both have to be very clear with rules and boundaries and expectations.

Dinklex3 · Answer

? Of course.  Depends on the people involved.

Staximus · Answer

Sooner or later one person wants to be more than just friends with benefits and if the other doesn't feel the same, there's going to be a problem

slatyb · Answer

Yes, it can if both people are agreeable and honest.

Anonymous · Answer

mine have been very good. busy people get along very well with other busy people, it's the people who sit around all day who have problems

JacobJordan · Answer

nope. that bs is part of why society is falling apart

Ironic_Method · Answer

Yes. Have had a few and they were all pretty great.

Mike87479 · Answer

I really don’t think so. Eventually I feel that one will want more.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely! It's healthy to have regular sex, so having a friends with benefits will definitely be better for a LOT of people than having no sexual outlet.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Don’t confuse this with your spouse should be your best friend.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

If they're both friends and in a relationship, why not? What matters is if their both happy and loyal for eeach other

Nifrayu · Answer

Of course. It pretty much just depends on the health of the friendship.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women who have fuck buddy's are for the streets.

animesenpai · Answer

I have had a pretty healthy friends with benefits relationship

dolemite58 · Answer

ya some of the most chill relationships i’ve ever had were fwb’s

whistlingwh0res · Answer

jack ass and skank will never be healthy to each other

Lowiu · Answer

As long as both want the same

straightmax12 · Answer

I believe so, if one of them doesn't develop romantic feelings for the other person.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I think so.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

I think it's possible.

888theGreat · Answer

nope , it is just lust that is an insult to God

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Absolutely.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as they get tested

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I doubt that

Anonymous · Answer

nope!

jahaims · Answer

Nope..

cherriibly · Answer

Nope

BrookeS · Answer

Nope

In_Trance · Answer

Sure

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

Teabaggin · Answer

I don't think so

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