Girls would you ever date a guy 10 years older than you or would you not feel comfortable doing that?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Most younger girls’ like older guys , I have dated girls that were 10 to 15 years younger than me , so age doesn’t really matter to me , when it comes to meeting someone that is attractive that has great chemistry and connection with me. So when I hear other people talk about age in relationships like it’s a deciding factor , I laugh and shake my head because age really means shit , people that hold age as a deciding factor are just limiting themselves from possibly meeting someone that treats them amazingly , Some of
The younger girls I dated were way more mature
Than girls my age , so don’t let age stop you from meeting someone that treats you amazingly

[nastyb]

you can't grow old with someone who is already old.
saying age doesn't matter is like saying prison is just nothing but a room.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb it literally is just a room tho

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

Sure you can sit in your bedroom or a prison room. Both are rooms, which do you prefer?

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb doesn’t matter
Room is room.

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

Those are rooms but you are terribly afraid of going into one but not the other. Thats the point

[Finchie40]

Everyone has their own preferences on what they like and don’t like , I just choose not to hold age as a deciding factor , I don’t walk up to a beautiful girl and ask her age when I start up a conversation with her , if her and I connect well and we enjoy talking
To each other that’s all that matters , the chemistry and connection we share , if the topic of age comes up in the conversation and we both realize we have an age gap , me personally isn’t automatically going to not be interested in her anymore and tell her too bad , your age ruined it , to me that’s silly AF , now if she wasn’t of legal age then yes I draw the line there but I feel I am pretty wise when it comes to not hitting on girls’ that I am old enough to be their Dad so 10 to 15 years difference really doesn’t matter to me if her and I have a lot in common. , Most of these encounters i experienced with girls younger than me were mainly just sex only a few actually turned to more that just sex , it just comes down to whether we choose each other or just have fun with each other , we never truly know what someone’s true intentions are

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

The person you like right now will no longer be the same person you liked 20 years from now

Having a sustainable forever relationship takes much more than just temporarily "liking" the person. Take a look 20 years down the road with this person, will you still be happy? If not, you will only find yourself miserable or divorced later on

[nastyb]

10 to 15 yr difference may not negatively affect you but will negatively affect the younger party. They might end up regretting ever marry you in the first place

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb I didn’t know you were psychic

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb can I get those powerball numbers

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

Studies have proven large age gap relationships tend to divorce more and have lower marital satisfaction

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb and some people think cucumbers taste better pickled

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

Well some people think poop taste better than candy. But how many people would think that way?

[Finchie40]

I live for today , none of us know what the future brings , someone’s age isn’t going to determine whether we make it or not , if we end in divorce oh well shit happens

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

I dont know what kinda person genuinely looking for love would be ok with his precious relationship not lasting forever

It makes me question, are you truly looking for love or lust.

No person who is truly looking to fall in love will only go for a relationship that only last today but not forever.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb no woman would.

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

just the same way how many young people enjoy being married to grandpas at the elderly home?

[Finchie40]

No , I am looking for Love , but love only comes when 2 people choose each other , so her age isn’t going to determine that what so ever , the only thing that makes love grow , is if 2 people choose each other , so if she chooses me , like I choose her , and we both choose to stand by each others’ side , that’s where love grows , so age doesn’t determine that , what so ever. When I meet a beautiful girl that has a lot in common with me , that has great chemistry and connection with me , and we are both attracted to each other , that’s all that matters , if we both have the same intentions. My intentions when meeting a girl, is going for the long haul with her. I can’t read her mind on what she chooses to do , that is up to her , we can’t force someone to love us , Love usually doesn’t come until the infatuation period runs it’s course , sadly most people don’t truly know what they want , they sometimes think they want to be in a committed relationship and want to fall in love , but sadly sometimes they change their mind , so I only give my heart to a girl that is choosing to give me hers the same , if her and I are on the same page with things and we both choose each other , that’s where love grows

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

you're not looking for love. you're looking for lust. No man who is looking for true love would not be bothered by the fact that his relationship won't last forever

If you truly think someone 15 to 20 years younger would be happy to stay married to you by the time you hit your 60s , you're delusional

[Finchie40]

You’re delusional to think otherwise , Age doesn’t predict someone’s future together , your heart for each other decides that. I know a lot of couples that have huge age gaps , and they are still happily married and settled down that been together for a long ass time , so I’m sorry I am not listening to anything you say , because I experienced it and witnessed it a bunch of times. So if you only want to date guys’ close to your age , that’s your choice your preference and that’s fine and dandy , but don’t be a hypocrite about someone else’s relationship on what they choose to be in. Fuck statistics , statistics mean shit, if statistics were legit , then nobody would even consider marriage or relationships anymore , Statistics say Females are the main reason for divorce rates being so high , so does that mean us Guy’s should say fuck marriage all together because statistics show all girls’ destroy marriages and file for divorce more than guys do? The bottomline is , you fall in love with who you fall in love with , age isn’t going to stop me from falling in love with a girl that is in love with me as well that treats me like Gold that stands by my side , that is beautiful to my eyes , her age isn’t going to determine that what so ever , it’s who she is as a person , what she believes in , her
Morals , her personality , the connection we share together , the chemistry we have together , she can be older or younger than me , it doesn’t matter. I am only going to give the same way I want to receive , if she is 10 years younger than me and she treats me like Gold and she has a beautiful heart that’s all that matters to me , because I would so be treating her the same way , My intentions with her is to be with her for the long haul , the same way I hope she feels , we can’t read each others’ minds we can only treat someone the same way we want to be treated in return , I have dated girls my age that were so immature compared to girls I dated that had a gap in age

[Finchie40]

Love only grows when 2 people chooses each other , we can’t force someone to love us , we can only give what we want to receive in return

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

You can't grow old with someone who is already old. Its basic science. How would you feel if you were married to a 65 yr old grandma right now? No need to be in denial about basic science.

Plus... its not the first time I have heard of a much older man claiming he only cares about "living in the moment" and not caring about the future of his precious relationship.
This is a big red flag.
Truth is... if it does not bother you that your precious relationship will not last, you DO NOT VALUE your relationship.
Hence, you are looking for lust, not love.

Someone who truly values their precious relationship won't be able to stand the idea that his relationship won't last.

[nastyb]

Personality and chemistry is not going to sustain a forever marriage. If personality and chemistry were the only ingredients needed for a successful relationship, there wouldn't be so many divorces. I'm sure everyone got together because there IS chemistry

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb fuck chemistry
Arranged marriages are More successful anyways

Our society has just made marriage seem like some romantic happily ever after and removed all the responsibilities and duties that a Wife has

[Finchie40]

Choosing each other is the only way any relationship will survive period , Age isn’t going to determine whether someone chooses you or not , Love is unconditional No one stays beautiful forever , if you find someone that chooses you like you choose them , that accepts you for you and you both stand by each others side that’s where love comes into play , We can die tomorrow so all that matters , is if you have someone that chooses you like you choose them. If I was 60 years old in a relationship with a girl that was in her 40’s and I was lying on my death bed , is she automatically not going to love me anymore because I am dying? She would more than likely be standing by my side no matter what

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

you're an idiot. if "choosing each other" is the only thing that sustains a forever marriage, then why are there so many divorces? Every divorced couple has chosen each other at one point.

[If I was 60 years old in a relationship with a girl that was in her 40’s and I was lying on my death bed , is she automatically not going to love me anymore because I am dying? She would more than likely be standing by my side no matter what]

she will not be happy by your side. she can love you but she can also feel that she is wasting her life with you. she will feel more like a nurse than a wife. imagine being married to someone who can't keep up with you in any way shape or form. She doesn't have a strong man she can rely on or do things with anymore... she's literally just taking care of an old grandpa.

studies have shown that the larger the age gap, the higher the chances of divorce.

and just because someone stays married, it does not mean they are happy. Plenty of people stay in unhappy, less than satisfying marriages.

she can be 40, you may be 60. she might not have sex for the rest of her life being married to a senior citizen. she may be stuck to someone she is not sexually attracted to. Someone who can't even keep up with her in a walk in the park. While other married couples are going on vacations, traveling to different countries, she is stuck at home changing your diapers or making sure you don't fall when you walk.

[Finchie40]

Divorces and break ups occur because of immaturity and selfishness , you can’t expect someone to do for you , if you can’t do for them , a relationship needs to go both ways or it won’t work period. Sadly a lot of people have a hard time grasping this concept when it comes to committed relationships , they don’t grasp the concept that they are no longer single , it’s their way or no way. Most people have a hard time admitting they are wrong , it’s always someone else’s fault , usually the partner. We all have selfishness in us , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner don’t expect them to remove it for you. That’s one of the main reasons relationships and marriages fail, is because most people do not know how to remove selfishness for each other , Whatever is not ok for your partner to do to you , needs to be the same rules for you as well not the other way around , that’s why so many relationships fail because people don’t grasp this concept , boundaries should be set between the both of you and you both should be on the same page choosing each other but sadly most people tend to feel it’s their way or no way. When you have that type of mindset, that makes you a selfish person , that only cares about yourself , if you can’t wear your partners shoes the same way you expect them to wear yours that relationship probably won’t survive because one person is thinking they are right and automatically their partner is wrong l. It has nothing to do with age, Love only grows when 2 people choose each other over everyone else , your partner should be your top priority the same way you should be theirs. If your partner is not your top priority be prepared to be dumped or cheated on. Most people have a very hard time admitting they are wrong and that’s why relationships fail

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

you keep saying that relationships are supposed to be mutually beneficial in order to work.

how would a marriage be mutually beneficial if your spouse is married to someone, they need to be a nurse for?

there's nothing mutually beneficial about that. Its just your spouse losing at the end while you're the only one that is winning.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb this win , lose mindset you have is why most relationships don’t make it

Marriage is not some game where you keep score

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

You wouldn't be in a marriage where you lose. So why would you expect women to do it?

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb it’s not about winning or losing
That mindset is toxic for a healthy marriage

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

there is no such thing as a healthy marriage when one party's needs are never met.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb YES! A sexless marriage is unhealthy.

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

how about a marriage with an old grandma who can't keep up with you in any aspect of life?

[Finchie40]

Yes marriages should be mutually beneficial for each other but that isn’t the only thing that matters , when you love someone unconditionally for their heart and the way they treat you , that loves you no matter what , that stands by your side no matter what , that’s a girl I would consider marrying , I don’t care if she is 15 years younger or older
Than me her age isn’t what I am after it’s her heart and Personality that matters. It sounds to me you are only looking for a guy that you can benefit from , I’m sorry that isn’t love , that is using someone , I don’t want a user , I want a girl that is my team partner , her and I verse the world , my best friend , my lover and companion , someone that is there for me the same way I am there
For her , so to me you are looking at love the wrong way , you are picturing things in the far future , that honestly shouldn’t matter we can’t predict the future , and age isn’t going to determine someone’s future , it should t matter who ends up in the hospital first , that’s silly talk , who’s to say you won’t end up in the hospital first? you should be there for each other no matter what having each others’ backs , to me that’s love

[AnusNdaPainus]

I’m not saying you are wrong I actually agree with you @Finchie40

But love isn’t as important as roles and responsibilities because that 50/50 crap doesn’t work

Even if the woman works and makes more money she will still expect her husband to pay majority of the bills if a woman is a primary or only bread winner she will resent the husband and divorce

Women say 50/50 but here is what it really means ( The husband pays the bills and The wife keeps her own money for herself ) and the problem with this is that the wife won’t appreciate what the husband does because she can do it herself and when your husband feels unappreciated brace for impact because you are about to be cheated on

[Finchie40]

You’re right 50/50 doesn’t work , each partner should be giving 100 percent to each other no matter what , The only way a relationship can survive is if both partners are giving each other 100 percent , by choosing each other over everyone else , making each other your top priority , it won’t always be perfect because none of us are perfect people, we all come from different paths in life, so we aren’t always going to agree with each other , so for love to grow between you both , you both have to choose each other 100 percent whether you agree or disagree with your partner, it’s both your responsibility to fix what is broken between you both , it’s both of yours relationship period , no one else’s We can easily point fingers at someone else instead of pointing fingers at ourselves first , The only time a partner should walk away is if they are being cheated on , physically abused , and controlled and forced to do something they don’t want to do , other Than that you should stand by your partner the same way they should be standing by you. We all have selfishness in us , they key to having a healthy happy
Relationship is to learn how to remove selfishness from inside yourself , wear your partners shoes the same way you want them wearing yours , sadly a lot
Of people have a hard time grasping this concept , you can’t expect someone to do for you if you can’t do for them period , Me personally will not get into a committed relationship or stay in a committed relationship with a girl that doesn’t know what commitment means, it needs to go both ways or it is just a waste of time

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Finchie40 you are the first person here I’ve met who has actually given me legitimate relationship advice

[Finchie40]

I am glad I can help man , trust me , I lived it and experienced a lot of shit lol I wouldn’t say I am smart , just wise mainly from what I experienced , Most Relationships are not easy , marriage is not easy , sadly I learned it the hard way , but my experiences is what I feel molded me to who I am today , I pretty
Much been on both sides of the spectrum , to a point it was definitely a learning experience for me. I had a choice , I could continue having failed relationships and think to myself I am never wrong , or be in a relationship with someone that I can admit I was wrong and change for the better , and for the both of us , remember you have a choice, you can choose to be selfish or choose your partner , if you want to experience love you are best to choose your partner , choosing selfishness will just have you starting all over again

[AnusNdaPainus]

I’m taking this to heart and I appreciate it
A lot of my generation thinks they know better than those who have been around longer than them and for that fact alone I highly value any life lessons from my elders

[Finchie40]

Yea i honestly feel bad for your generation lol I am not going to lie , I am pretty lost myself when it comes to your generation , I been blown away by experiencing and witnessing a lot of it and I just shake my head lol I am not saying my generation is any better , my generation just was in a time where we weren’t glued to our cell phones , Most homes shared 1 or 2 phones. , we didn't really have access into people’s lives like we do today with all this social media crap , when you met someone , you valued that person more , you weren’t bombarded by a bunch of options or people from your past , We didn’t give 2 shits about what someone was eating , or where they were going Wednesday really didn’t know what was happening on other countries all we cared about was being safe and happy and content , I feel technology played a big part on damaging the foundations of relationships , people are allowing themselves to be brainwashed by shit they see or read or hear about on social media etc. social media is part of the reason my marriage ended , My ex got addicted to Facebook , her face was constantly glued to her phone , Her and I use to be inseparable , I never once thought my ex would betray me , but little did I realize she was getting hit on by a co worker that wanted to bend her over , secretly talking to this guy behind my back , I had no clue she was doing it until my gut instincts knew something was off , on the way she was distancing herself from me all of a sudden , not wanting to kiss me anymore , not wanting to sleep in bed with me anymore , I was like wTF did I do? Why is she treating me this way , it wasn’t until I walked by her cell phone and saw a message from her co worker saying he can’t wait to see her Friday night , so I picked up her phone and read all the
Messages , she was meeting him Friday at a hotel so they could fuck , I played my cool and acted like I didn’t know anything , I tried pulling her aside to talk to her but she just yelled

[Finchie40]

At me and blew me off , So right then and then I contacted a divorce attorney cuz cheating is a big no no to me , you cheat it’s over , So make a long story short I followed her ass to the hotel and confronted them both , He ran like a little bitch to his car and sped off , I then called her a cheating fucking whore and just told her I will see her in court , I also put all her shit out on the front lawn and locked all the doors , I also called his wife and told her the truth , As much as this all felt good getting great revenge , I was devastated inside , my heart was shattered , she begged and begged for me back , and I just laughed and said Good bye. After my divorce I started to try to date again , and the girls’ I was meeting just blew me away on how selfish these girls’ were , let’s just say I became the other guy without knowing I was , most of these girls were already in relationships or married cheating on their partners with me like it was a common thing to do , sadly this is how this world is today cuz it happens all the time

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

if love was really unconditional, you wouldn't be fighting to date women 20 years younger. You would be dating women 20 years older.

There is no such thing as unconditional love.

There will always be a give or take in marriage.

If you won't settle in marriage, what makes you think you can expect women to settle in marriage?

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

marrying someone 15-20 years older is a good way to make sure your marriage will be sexless. if not sexless, definitely not good sex.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb why are you convinced that a marriage will fail if every detail isn’t perfect?

You don’t need good sex get your husband off and buy a vibrator

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

just like you said a "sexless" marriage is unhealthy.

vibrator will never be as good as the real deal sex.

plus... lack of sex is a lack of intimacy.

lack of physical attraction also leads to lack of intimacy.

why fuck an old man when you can just get a younger, hotter one that you can do things with?

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

there is a difference between staying married versus enjoying a marriage.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb because sex isn’t all that matters in a healthy relationship

Marriage is like most things Adults deal with a RESPONSIBILITY you have a role and duties

It is a rite of passage for a young man to take on a bride and offspring in order to provide and protect them a rite many young men today are being denied because they don’t earn enough or they’re inexperienced or less confident

But it’s necessary for the path to manhood

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

you just said this:

[YES! A sexless marriage is unhealthy.]

you can stay in an unhealthy marriage but you aren't going to be happy. Just because you are married, it does not mean you are happy.

You wouldn't stay in an unhappy marriage, so why would you expect a woman to stay in an unhappy marriage?

[It is a rite of passage for a young man to take on a bride and offspring in order to provide and protect them a rite many young men today are being denied because they don’t earn enough or they’re inexperienced or less confident]

Most women aren't biologically attracted to older men. Older men tend to have less healthy children which through thousands of years of evolution had DIED OFF. Most young women want to have children with young men because young men tend to have healthier children- which are more likely to thrive and survive.

Don't blame women, blame evolution.

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

Very few young women want to marry someone they're not attracted to.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@nastyb
Marriage is not about love, or BEING HAPPY

That’s the last time im gonna say this

[nastyb]

@AnusNdaPainus

[Marriage is not about love, or BEING HAPPY]

really? marriage is not about love or being happy?

ask this on GAG, lets see how many people would agree with you.

[Drumlin2001]

I know this is aimed at women, but I think by my age, a women 10 years younger would be early 30's, it dosent matter so much than if she were late teens and I were late 20's.
At my age it's more about understanding each others lifestyles and goals. More easily aligned when you're older

[AngelLily]

I personally would not Because if I dated a guy who was 33 years old he would be apart of a whole different generation/stage in his life. Men in there 30s are going through a more mature/kinda older stage in there life not like a 40 year old but getting close too there. Me/Those in my 20s are just pretty much starting out in legal adulthood not even fully mentally developed yet but trying to get the gist of it. When I turn middle 30s I’ll date someone 10 year older then.

[jennifer_bloom]

The bigger the age range, the lower the chance I would date him but at 10 years older, he still has a chance, cause I do not consider somebody too old for me at that age.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wouldn’t refuse dating someone because of his age, as long as we match personality wise.

[Avicenna]

It’s no big deal for a woman to do that

[Anonymous]

I am 28. I really wouldn't go more than 10 years older. Anything more than 10 years older will cause problems down the road.

its quite delusional how these old people brag about having partners 15 -20 years younger. Realize that just because things might work out now when at 25 and 45, it does not mean things will work out when they are 40 and you are 60.

Understand that you can't grow old with someone who is already old. At some point, all the fun will be gone and you will regret it.

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on who he is as a person. Age doesn’t matter to me to a certain extent, but I wouldn’t date someone with more than 10 years age difference. There’s a 9 year age difference between me and my partner.

[Asker]

Ok so you care more about personality than age !!

[petitedollbabee]

Absolutely, but I still have my boundaries with age - I wouldn’t date older than 10 years difference.

[Asker]

Ok so 10 would be the official limit!!

[petitedollbabee]

Yes.

[Asker]

So if you happen to meet a guy 10 years older and you liked his personality!! The age would not be an issue

[petitedollbabee]

No, would not be an issue as he’d be right at the age limit. But if he were 11 years older, then it would be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Lately I get attention from exclusively younger women, probably 18-23. All the women my age are abrasive and hostile. You can even smile at one in public without getting a dirty look. I am definitely more inclined to date younger, though I would prefer to stick with a 10 year age gap at the most.

[DaisyM23]

depends on my age, right now i'm 20, dating a 30 year old seems crazy to me because we'd be at completely different points in life, if i'm 25+ it'd maybe be less weird for me

[monorprise]

It's weird because of the difference in life experience best measured in % not years. As a 10 and 20 year old have less in common than a 40 and 50 year old.

Generally best @DaisyM23 to follow the 30% rule which at your age would be don't date a guy older than 26. but if you were 40 you could go up to 52 and you would still have soo much in common that it would not be that weird or difficult.

[mentallybroken0420]

Yea kinda did already when I was 18 but it didn't work because I guess the age difference made him feel superior and he thought run and try to change my like to his exceptions

[Drooogie4]

No, I've never been into older guys, though I know it's a semi common thing. More than 5 years feels kinda icky. Can they be attractive? Absolutely. But I wouldn't get involved.

[DizzyDesii]

I prefer not to do so again. I dated one dude who was 9 years older when i was 22 and he was 31. He looked my age but i just prefer someone closer in age.

[KatherineJ]

My husband is 12 years older. So that’s my answer.

[Asker]

So it's never been an issue

[KatherineJ]

Nope, other than in his own mind

[Asker]

Yeah so as long as the two of you are happy

[Boomchakalaca]

Sure. Older men r attractive and already established themselves in the workforce too

[Bricealan]

Well, they should draw the line, when the guy is using a 'walker' or cane or maybe in a wheel chair? 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

IN MY OPINION:

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮I’m not f—ing a corpse…. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢10 years older? PREDATOR.

[IslaTheWitch]

As long as he has brains and quick wit (on top of other qualities), we can negotiate :D

[Sour-rose]

It depends... does he have money so we can eat somewhere good? Yeah? then lessgoooooo

[Bricealan]

@sour-rose Now you're talkin' ... Rose!!!

[msc545]

Finally an honest woman! It is always about money.

[caitycat21]

If a 27 year old tried to date me I’d just call the cops

[monorprise]

At your age @caitycat21 below legally there are issues which would keep a man from dating you. Otherwise in general the 30% rule of shared life experience. That means you really shouldn't date a man older than 22.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s a little old for my comfort zone but maybe someday I’ll feel differently

[haana]

i would, and dating someone older doesn’t mean they are mature, it simply means they are older.

[Asker]

Hmm that's one way to look at it, sometimes you got 30 year olds act 15.

[zagor]

Probably depends heavily on whether she is 14 or 44.

[Asker]

Let's say over 18

[Dinklex3]

Nah, no more than 3 years older.

[416chick]

Yeah I would, and have in the past

[Tharithi]

I wouldn’t. Most women wouldn’t

[Drewtate]

Girls generally prefer older men.

[Altheavas]

I would 15 years older is the cap.

[Apple1996]

Nope I would never date older

[rienna888]

No unless I was attracted to him

[ThrillSeeker01]

I've known those who have.

[rosemilk]

no thanks...

[Jazzy54]

Sure. 😊

[sheikalana]

Sure.

[Anonymous]

I would, yes

[Kelly6]

Yes I would

[Anonymous]

It's common