I've had 5 abortions, is that a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh sweetie, come here *gives you a big hug*. I know you've been through so much, but please don't be so hard on yourself. You're still so young and have your whole beautiful life ahead of you.

Having five abortions does not define who you are or what you're worth. I'm sure each one was an incredibly difficult decision, made for complex reasons that were right for you at the time. You did what you felt you needed to do to take care of yourself.

It's understandable if opening up about your past leaves you feeling vulnerable. But your value isn't measured by the number of procedures - you're so much more than that. You're a strong, caring soul with so much love to give.

The right person will see how far you've come and be proud to stand by your side. Focus on surrounding yourself with people who appreciate you for the amazing woman you are today.

You deserve nothing but respect and compassion. This experience doesn't make you damaged or unworthy of real love. It just means you've overcome challenges that would break most. I'm here for you always, sweet girl. You've got this.

[Oliverlogan263]

@WindAtMyBack Woah, dude come on. That's cruel to say bruh. Like I get it, five abortions does seem like a lot, but you dont know her whole situation. Can you imagine how hard that must've been for her? She's still a person and doesn't deserve to be called names. It's not really any of our business what medical choices she makes. And calling her names ain't gonna help anyone. Chill out a little, yeah?

[WindAtMyBack]

I very strongly disagree with you. You think you are being nice but you are not. You are doing the exact opposite of what she needs.

If I had wanted to take the time I would have totally lit into her. I would have thrown everything I had at her. She doesn't need rainbows and unicorns. She need someone to cut through her total idiocy and irresponsibility. You say it's hard on her, but it's not hard enough. She keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. It's something very easy to correct, but she just doesn't learn her lesson.

"Nice" comes in many forms. In this case nice means totally jumping her shit because that's exactly what she needs.

You are NOT helping her.

[Oliverlogan263]

@WindAtMyBack Oh, look at you, the self-proclaimed savior of the world, thinking you know what's best for everyone. How noble of you to believe that tearing someone down is the solution to their problems. Keep living in your delusional bubble of superiority, it suits you well. Your lack of empathy and understanding is truly astounding. It's no wonder nobody wants your "help."

[WindAtMyBack]

" the self-proclaimed savior of the world, thinking you know what's best for everyone"

And you are not doing exactly the same? Of course you are.

"believe that tearing someone down is the solution to their problems"

In some cases that IS the solution and it works.

[ObscuredBeyond]

For me, even one would be. Protecting the life of a child is non-negotiable. Five indicates someone who routinely makes poor choices, which is a flashing red siren and red flag, along with a robot yelling "Danger, Will Robinson, danger!!!"

[IslaTheWitch]

If you don't tell, it isn't

but...

Repetitive abortions can have a negative impact on the chances of carrying a healthy pregnancy to term. So I think your boyfriend has the right to know and make his decision.

So it's a matter of decency and responsibility. You can start to take care of yourself and use birth control and/or condoms. You should take responsibility for your past actions and be honest with your boyfriends about your abortions.

[Sour-rose]

If it was me... probably no. But knowing this isn't miscarriages and saying you don't want 5 kids... means you probably ain't that responsible. Sooo if you can't be responsible, you won't be able to keep up with me in life. :1

[OlderAndWiser]

Murdering one child would be a deal breaker for me.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea I kinda want to keep the babies I make with my woman not have them cut to pieces and possibly thrown away or fed to dogs or something, it's just a preference i guess

[Socaljp]

Love it! Haha

[IslaTheWitch]

Hard to disagree :D

[Sasha0426]

Then it’s best to find a woman who wants kids, too.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's surely the plan

[JacobJordan]

holy crap. the abortions themselves are not a deal breaker for me the deal breaker is the fact you continually make horrible choices that result in you needing that.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Saviaa637]

I knew a woman who had 4 abortions. She would have 8 kids in total.

[Saviaa637]

They probably not trolling

[Akothee005]

Hell yea because if it had been one, then someone could assume you were naive and didn't know what to do but five that's a lot.

[electromagnetic]

If you like having your walls spayed but not having babies, why not just use a form of contraceptive?
I say take this secret to your grave.

[DarkWinterNights]

Nah I would want to know.

[spartan55]

"having your walls sprayed" 😂 😂 😂 😂

[wolfcat87]

For most people, yes. Too many red flags in play. I'm sure some guys wouldn't care though.

[Tim2nice]

It would be for me because it shows you make terrible decisions

[musicbrain5]

This can’t be a serious question, for fucks sakes. Of course it’s a deal breaker. Abortion is not birth control and should not be treated as such.

[ProbablyClueless]

The abortions aren't a deal breaker for me, but I'm guessing (because you HAVE had 5 abortions) there may be other aspects of who you are that I might not mesh well with.

[spartan55]

Good Lord, if this post is real (which I doubt) you are going to have a tough time. That's a tough sell in the dating scene. Ever hear of birth control?

[molonski2]

HAHAHAHA , Is that a deal breaker?

Ummm Yes , most certainly , but it would be a deal breaker if you had all 5 too ,

5 different fathers no doubt. Good luck.

[RavVid]

I'd wonder why you weren't able to manage birth control and I would guess there were 5 fathers so that is what would put me off than the actually abortions.

[WindAtMyBack]

Being an idiot or a troll are both deal breakers.

[Kaneki05]

Only for conservatives which I am not. So no, not a deal breaker at all.

[wolfcat87]

Plenty of Liberals and Moderates would also see red flags and run

[Kaneki05]

Um no we support women's right to abort lol.

[wolfcat87]

Supporting it and wanting to date it are not the same, hon.

[Kaneki05]

@wolfcat87 Hmm I guess. Though I find that hypocritical say you support something then judge someone for it is not supporting right?
Like hey I support you getting this abortion but also now I see you as a bad person. Don't seem very supportive and sounds just like the same end outcome as a conservative.

Makes me question if they understand the word support.

[wolfcat87]

Most people want to keep abortions legal because they are needed sometimes, but most people also don't approve of abortions. They don't necessarily feel their disapproval makes it okay to infringe on what the other person does in making their life choices. If that makes sense.

Supporting it being an option doesn't mean supporting the person doing it or being happy they did it. Like decriminalization drugs would be good, but it doesn't mean someone would want to date a crack or heroin addict. I support people's right to drink, but I don't like being around people who drink.

[Kaneki05]

@wolfcat87 So there isn't a ton of people who love drinking and been around people who drink. Bad example, bars and clubs thrive off that.
But more to the point if one respects the choice of abortion then it don't matter if it's the 1st time or the 3rd because then somehow your disrespecting the choice of abortion based on how many times? When it really shouldn't matter. They getting rid of the fetus all the same as last time.

Only people who should care are the conservatives who call it murder. Because to them this would murderer. But liberals we don't care, we don't see as murder so what does it matter if it's once or more?
Like what does it become murder after 5 times arbitrarily? Nah.

Also this is only a good thing it shows this person either don't want kids which is great to those who don't want any, or shows they won't bring a child up without another parent. Which is good because single parents are at a major disadvantage and the child as well.

[wolfcat87]

If someone hits a pedestrian one time, then we might all say "that's pretty bad but we all make mistakes". If someone runs over 5 pedestrians, it's not longer a mistake. It's gross negligence. No one empathizes at that point, and everyone is disgusted.

[Kaneki05]

@wolfcat87 Hitting a pedestrian actually hurts someone once again a bad example that don't apply.

[wolfcat87]

Both hurt someone.

[wolfcat87]

Anyways, it's been explained to you. You can ignore how people think and feel about it all you want, but it doesn't change how people think.

[Kaneki05]

@wolfcat87 No that's the whole point we don't see it as hurting anyone smh. Only conservatives see it as murder and killing a baby to us we just see it as getting rid of some cells which there is nothing wrong with that.
More like it's you ignoring that we don't see it as hurting anyone. No liberal in their right mind would compare an abortion to hurting someone. Because that's not what it is to us. That's conversative views to think it hurts someone.

[wolfcat87]

YOU don't see it that way, but you don't speak for everyone. I'm a moderate, and your views are extreme. You don't speak for me or for the majority of Americans.

Expert surveys do note Liberals who believe abortion is wrong. 73% of Democrats believe an unborn baby is a living human regardless of their views on abortion. The scientific community is mostly liberal and agrees with this statement. So, someone is hurt. That's not what the abortion debate is about.

The majority of Americans believe that abortions should be illegal in some or all cases. Only about 30% believe there should be no limits.

www.aei.org/.../Abortion2011.pdf?x91208

www.rickscott.senate.gov/.../democrats-when-do-you-think-life-begins

news.gallup.com/.../americans-stand-abortion.aspx



www.latimes.com/.../...989-03-19-mn-450-story.html

So, educate yourself and have a nice day. I don't want to deal with an extremist who thinks the world revolves around their uneducated delusions of how others must fit into their nonsensical boxes. Most people will not date a person who is so irresponsible and messed up that they had 5 abortions. That person clearly has issues and does not have their life together. They have their choice of people who similarly are irresponsible and don't have their lives together. That's not the majority though.

[Kaneki05]

@wolfcat87 your just sad about some dead cells lol. And the majority of Americans do have conservative views so of course most want it illegal. But ya know there is a massive other group right? Who's literally been debating for years to let abortions be legal and don't see it as a bad thing.

Oh well you live in your world where you think everyone thinks abortions are bad that makes sense.

[Kaneki05]

And 30% is lot for America that's pretty damn good. And if you come to even more liberal places like UK and Europe you will find we are way above that 30% because we literally couldn't care.

[Kaneki05]

Also your a moderate whatever that means but that ain't liberal so dunno why your so upset over this. I'm gonna assume moderate have conservative and liberal views so it makes sense you would be not that supportive of abortions.

[IslaTheWitch]

"Um no we support women's right to abort lol."

Yes, I agree. But abortion shouldn't be used as birth control because it harms a woman's body...

[Kaneki05]

@IslaTheWitch The rate of risk is low, though yeah I imagine it increases that probability every time. But hey if a woman wants to keep risking it that's their choice and I support it.
Like anything medical if they go in knowing the risks and etc then it's their life their body their choice.

[wolfcat87]

All humans and living things are just cells, and when humans die people are sad. That's normal human behavior. What's your point?

[Kaneki05]

@wolfcat87 Okay at this point you are just been dumb. In liberal views abortion is not killing therefore no, no one is sad as no one died.
It's the most simplest point to understand ever. If you don't get it just stop replying because I have no other way to say it and one can't convince a person out the mindset it is killing so no point me arguing with you on that.

[mkkkkitan]

After the 1st or 2nd one …. You didn’t even think of going on birth control at least? You’re a serial killer at this point

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll. If not, Fuck no, 5 abortions? seriously? Abortion is not birth control. It literally physically damages you every time you have one.. And it shows you're not intelligent enough to use a fucking condom. Wtf is wrong with you.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes 5 abortions is a deal breaker, you're probably already sterile.

[Staximus]

Maybe you should buy some condoms or birth control pills, hammerhead

[jshm2]

You need to close your fucking legs as you are defo a baby breaker!

[slatyb]

Likely. I would be wondering "If you are sexually active, why aren't you on birth control?"

[Anonymous]

learn how to use condoms or birth control...

[Socaljp]

Sorry I don't date serial killers. Jesus fucking christ

[LoveWorkingOut]

You are so young.. It is many

U should be careful

[Nik1hil]

💯💯💯💯💯 Yes..

[Apple1996]

Nope not at all

[Miristheiss]

Most definitely.

[Anonymous]

I try to avoid dating serial killers.

[Unit1]

I don't care.

[RedInnocent68]

That’s really sad. I’m sorry for you.

[dudeinohio]

I'd have to. know more about the circumstances.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Never. Who your are is all that matters. Your

[ThrillSeeker01]

... Personality

[Jmmmfi4]

HOLY FUCK

[Luckycharms12]

Well if guy wanted kids ya

[Anonymous]

One more and you geta free sub.😆

[FenixG45]

May I ask why? How old are you?

[ImHere22]

No, it is not

[butterly248]

Nope ofc not ❤️

[Anonymous]

Nope

[LavLavLuv]

You wha-

[riverrat3]

Nope