What does it mean when women laugh when they look at me?

[Tomisworthless]

guy friends say its cause they like you but in my experience its like im being laughed at

[overthinkergirl]

maybe they’re bullying u because of how u look or sth? bit if they just walk buy u and laugh maybe they’ve also had funny convos?

[Tomisworthless]

Must be how I look

[bededazzle]

that's a tough one man. i'd say it's more about whether you like it or not. whatever the intent, some people don't like being laughed at

[Tomisworthless]

heck no I dont like it im tired of being treated poorly and seen as less than. I want respect

[bededazzle]

then avoid. do your best to let it pass you like wind. fuck em

[Tomisworthless]

avoid people in public this is my lot in life happens any and everywhere thats why I hate going into stores restaurants

[bededazzle]

women always laugh at you wherever you go?

[Tomisworthless]

Well not always laugh but it does happen mostly I just get called gross, disgusting,, fag, queer or gay

[bededazzle]

i don't get it man. i know people can be cruel, but this is crazy! i'm curious, if you don't mind, just to understand the insults--are you gay? i am at a loss--it sounds like terrible luck or something. but dude, you gotta grow some seriously thick skin. people who say this shit are seriously disordered. don't let their warped sense of reality affect yours

[Tomisworthless]

I only know hatred its all i get from people I guess i bring out the worst in others just for being alive lol. People also uncomfortable and avoid me and aren't happy to see me or if i try talking to them they look annoyed with me. When I asked my coworkers if this is because im gay they say no its cause im anti social

[bededazzle]

It's hard to know how to help, because either you are extremely unlucky and around only cruel people, or, and I don't mean to judge, you may be perceiving many things based on a low self worth. Do you live in like a small town or an area that is intolerant of homosexuality? Have you been to therapy before?

[bededazzle]

Well look I'm not gonna keep hassling you unless you feel like talking, but I wanna give a final 2 cents. If you live in a area that is generally intolerant to LGBTQ or different people whatever, you ought to get the hell out of there. Also, I think your view of things sounds really distorted. Not saying bad stuff doesn't happen, but it sounds like has seeped into you like a poison. You need to raise your self esteem or you are in danger of growing mental health issues. Please seek a therapist to help you. You need some support. Feeling different is hard, but you come across as a nice guy and it's a shame that you're down.

[Tomisworthless]

Yes i live in a small town but people seem to be. okay and dont care if someones gay, im the only person in any room im in being gossiped about i never overhear anyone being treated badly

[Tomisworthless]

im not a nice guy im just a weak coward. And I dont think low self esteem distorted anything I've always been this way its who i am. These things actually happen and its not a figment of my imagination or some auditory hallucinations

[bededazzle]

i don't know what to say man. i've never heard of a person being picked on by everybody. tbh, I think a lot of it must be in your head. you need to figure out a way to increase your self worth. unless you are treated other people really badly, which is not the impression i get, there's simply no reason everyone will like hate you or something. is there more you're not telling? do you harm people in some way? if not, then I think you may have a psychological issue. you should really talk to a therapist for help

[bededazzle]

in case that sounds harsh, let me add that there’s no shame. i have some issues myself and have sought help

[Tomisworthless]

Its not everybody literally but it happens at least once a day and with my coworkers they just avoid me nobody talks to me unless im being given a new task

[Tomisworthless]

Therapist won't help they won't believe me either

[bededazzle]

that’s not true. look i’m not saying i don’t believe you, but it sounds like you’re probably really sensitive. if you want to feel better you should get help

[Tomisworthless]

Really sensitive?

[bededazzle]

it sounds like you interpret gestures negatively that could possibly be neutral. you also over exaggerate. lots of people do. but if you say it “happens everywhere” for instance you will start to believe yourself. even if it happens sometimes. i don’t really know you, but this is my impression.

[Tomisworthless]

It happens far to often and regular than it to be a once in a blue moon thing.

[bededazzle]

ok then at this point it’s rude not to believe you. it sounds like you have it sorted out so i wish you luck.

[Tomisworthless]

Hows being called gross or a faagot in public settings interpreting things negatively or when a group of girls look at me in traffic and burst out laughing and drive off fast or someone talking shit to me in the car next to me then when i look over they laugh and turn to their friend? Must just be all in my head im sure self esteem or confidence would make this stop but who could ever be confident when your constantly shown you are worth contempt and scorn

[bededazzle]

well think about whether everyone does this to you everywhere, every day, or whether it some shit people you shouldn’t care about. i sympathize with you, but you won’t find your worth always from other people. how can you find it yourself?

[bededazzle]

for instance why do you imagine i am talking to you? do i seem to think you are worthless?

[Tomisworthless]

Its the internet

[Tomisworthless]

There is none within me, I believe the way you're treated is a reflection of your perceived value. That in turn increases your confidence knowing you can be liked loved and accepted.

[bededazzle]

yes. it is a reflection of your perceived value. not your value. these are your own words. notice the difference. if you don’t help yourself, who will? you may want to really think about the things you are telling yourself. if you want to destroy yourself, you are on the right path. if you want to find peace, you better challenge that voice in your head

[Tomisworthless]

There is no voice in my head

[Billlewis]

What do you think it means?

[Tomisworthless]

that im ugly or gay and they laugh at the way i look

[ThrillSeeker01]

Not enough context here

[Tomisworthless]

no need for context just in general