Do girls that get a lot of attention scare off other guys?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Usually yes , mainly because most guys in general are territorial over a girl that he values and likes a lot , if she is getting a bunch of attention from other guys’ he might assume she can’t be trusted and think she is. an attention seeker that only wants things her way. No relationship will survive , if you don’t have trust in the relationship with each other So it comes down to how she handles those other guys’. If he notices she is acceptive of it and she is constantly flirting back with all those guys’ he might lose interest in her , mainly for that reason , most people do not want to be compared when they get into a relationship with someone , being compared is disrespectful. So he might feel she can’t be trusted , it pretty much is the same for girls as well, when she notices a guy getting a lot of attention from other girls’ she might assume the same thing , that he can’t be trusted that he is a player

[rigmarole]

Guys watch you and how you react to that attention. Your behavior is what matters, not the fact that other guys pay attention to you. You can't control how other guys look at you, but your personal character will determine how you respond to it. It exposes who you are for better or worse.

[Asker]

What is the best response

[rigmarole]

Well obviously if you bath in the attention it’s going to come off as you being an attention seeker that needs a lot of external validation, recognition, and attention so people will likely think you have very low self esteem, that you’re very needy, and desperate. This is generally a strong indicator of Daddy issues. Your father never paid attention to you, so you seek love and validation from every guy… Village bicycle vibes… If a guy wants a free ride on the village bicycle he might line up for that sort of thing for a one and done… If he wants a stable woman for a relationship, he’s going to walk away from her and look elsewhere. This would likely be amplified if you are touching all over other men while talking to them and giving off flirty body language.

[rigmarole]

In contrast if you are cold and combative against the attention and act like a bitch toward people, then it’s going to come off as indirect aggression, you overreacting, and being a drama queen. This might stimulate thoughts of self-destructive behavior, commitment issues, fear of relationships, passive aggression, manipulation, etc. all which give off crazy vibes… You might just be a passionate person, but do onlookers want to deal with that level of passion… You might start throwing dishes or smash up their car with a baseball bat in the middle of the night. As a general rule men know not to stick their dick in crazy

[rigmarole]

Somewhere in the middle with a healthy but moderately humble response to positive attention and complements generally makes you look mentally based and healthy. Self-confident people can deal with compliments and positive attention quickly and sort of apathetically. You know you’re hot, you get a lot of attention, but you can still show no interest or willingness to take action while still being polite and reasonable with people. Guys like to see that sort of behavior. They know you can handle yourself. If you were dating them you can stay loyal, but still look like a lady with manners in public.

[bededazzle]

i wouldn't say scare off but more cause to lose interest

[Asker]

Why?

[bededazzle]

well, it's not going to sound good, but i'm just being honest. girls who attract a lot of attention come across to me as being a bit snooty and wanting the attention. meanwhile, there are breathtaking, intelligent, and interesting women who get only quiet attention, because their vibe tells people not to be noisy with them. but what do I know? i'm just sitting there watching and doing nothing lol

[bededazzle]

so i guess it's actually the second type who are truly intimidating to me

[Asker]

I mean a girl lots of guys like.

[bededazzle]

that's what i mean too

[Asker]

Could be the quiet girl too

[bededazzle]

yeah but who would know? you have to wait for her to choose. this is also just my personal worldview lol

[Mrmgtow]

For me yes I mean someone who gets a lot of attention all the time means basically if you would get into a relationship with you that person then you may have to fight for the attention from that person fighting off other men so it's a yes for me

[Asker]

I think if she chose you she would give you all of her attention

[Mrmgtow]

Way to hard to find a woman like that unfortunately

[Miristheiss]

I wouldn't have pursued a girl who kept lots of orbiting men around in her life. Lots of guy friends and alone time and coffees and dinners and endless texts with guy friends.

Nope. 4 billion women. I can definitely find and better situation than that. No need to settle.

[CaptainOverthink]

I would say so. If your aim is more than friendship (not saying it can't develop into more but if the aim is aim about her is already set then yes, you could seem intimidating, out of reach or just plain hard work if you seem to have too many options).

[NathanDavis]

nope, that just happens sometimes...

not something to be scared about

[Asker]

Men seem intimidated

[NathanDavis]

some guys might be yes... but they might be young, or not experienced, or both

or they're just not as confident as many other men are

[Asker]

😁 yes I think so

[NathanDavis]

that's usually what I saw around... lol

[ColHathi]

It can. I would say that I'm shy and lack self-esteem, and I can be very socially awkward, so if there's competition, I'm just not gonna try. I really don't want to deal with that. And if she's the type to get a lot of attention, I'm also going to assume that she probably wouldn't be interested in me anyway.

[DarkWinterNights]

Male attraction is based on [Physical Attraction + Personality - Attention from Other Men]. He will then emotionally categorize you into three possible categories if he still is attracted to you. And only one is a relationship.

[AaronKrieger]

For me, I just assume they're already with someone or about to be, so I might lose interest. If she shows me signs she might be interested, then I don't give a shit.

[Joshydavid25]

Not scare off.. I mean if she likes me, that'll be nice.. But I wouldn't pursue a girl that gets a lot of attention.. Simply cause many times it seems a waste..

[exitseven]

There is an urban legend that guys do not approach really hot girls because the assume they are already in relationships and would just turn them down. As a result many of them are alone

[BoopBoopBeep]

No, but girls that seek it out are too needy.

[Lisia]

I'm not sure lol.

[Asker]

Same

[ProbablyClueless]

It's not the attention, but how they react to it that scares us.

[Sharkstealth]

I kind of see her as a waste of time. What's referred to as an attention whore.

[KrakenAttackin]

Not necessarily, but she gets put in a different bucket.

[Anonymous]

If they're getting a lot of attention it doesn't really matter.

[Worst]

Yes..

[Asker]

Why?

[Anonymous]

Only the insecure ones I think