Do some girls thrive off of the attention that guys provide them without being sensitive to the feelings of guys but just want to wallow in the attention they are getting even at the expense of a guy thinking that they may have a chance at some romantic interest from her when they don't?
Am I making any sense, or am I just rambling again? ... lol
Ms Lizzy has a song about getting off on the attention from fans and/or that others might provide... it is like the high that a drug gives you or maybe even an aphrodisiac.
LISTEN...
Why would anyone say we are seeking attention for heavens sake? ... lol
A. Yes Laurie, you are just a babbling babe again. I have no idea what you are talking about
B. Yes, I understand what you are saying and I do believe that some girls do thrive off of attention and Get Off on it, YES
C. No, I don't know any girls who do that, I think covid syndrome is getting to you and you are imagining things again
D. OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Getting Off On You Getting Off On Me" survey
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Do girls Get Off on the attention they get from guys?
i think it's a mixed bag about getting attention from men... yes i'd like to be looked at by a man as special... yes i do like to be looked at when wearing a mini skirt and i do wear those... and it could be about attention and it's also about i can wear a mini skirt... it's part of being a girl... although 34 my age isn't exactly a girl anymore... but we can't all live in a defined box... traditionally it is girls/women who wear make up wear high heels wear short skirts and dresses... in theory we could all wear sweats and tee shirts... or bibs and jeans with sneakers... not have long hair but short... i'm sure guys must like it when a girl or a woman is wearing a mini skirt not necessary for him but for the whole world to see... i always thought if you have great legs why not wear one... i feel pretty comfortable wearing one never felt ashamed and never minded if guys looked at my legs or me
This is a really sad but true occurrence and I have heard such tales of deception from quite a few of the gentlemen on this site. It really does hurt them. I wish I could help every one of them who have asked me for advice quietly in DM. I wish girls wouldn't do that. It just makes for bitter men.
Yes, thank you, you understand what I am saying totally... it is not fare to absorb all the positive energy from the guys while leading them to believe that they will receive some in return and then they are left with nothing.
Imma say this here: I don't believe people should victim blame or objectify, which are also not exclusive to sexual assault.
Here's my take. I think people may do things instinctively without intentionally looking for things, such as attention. One thing that annoys me is when people believe the solution to fighting against those who commit assault is to "teach them not to." I understand that phrase when it comes to "doing it by accident" ("I though she was playing Hard-2-Get"; no, if she is, pretend she isn't and leave her be; if you like it when women play Hard-2-Get, you're possibly supporting something that makes it hard for women to be taken seriously when they deny men.), however people who choose to do evil don't care if you "don't want them to."
You cannot control how people react to you, only what they react to. It's one thing to choose to do something without intentionally looking for attention, even wearing clothes because "It's cute/pretty/nothing-that-implies-sexuality." However, if you wear something you think or know is "sexy," well... the word "sex" is in it. Men who are taught how to approach women in a way you don't desire (you know, following cultural "norms") may think what you wear is communicating something different from what you intend. It's like wearing a band shirt, but not knowing the band. People will think you're a fan when you just thought it was a name-brand or a "cool ass quote." I love some things of Japanese culture, and the manji symbol looks cool. Angle the symbol, guess what? It's a swastika now! Maybe you're a Euro-Japanese person who moved to America, never learned about Nazis, and thought that "angled manji symbol" looks cool. People will react to that based on their assumptions of you, regardless of your intentions. Men and women deal with it all the time. Women wear sexy clothes = slut; men approach women = potential rapist. Neither side wins.
In other words, be careful what you choose to present to the world. It's deeper than "women wanting to dress sexy" or anything. It's people in general doing things without care of the message they are presenting to others. We all like to say we shouldn't care what others think, but we have to by some extent. What others think mean how others treat you, how they make assumptions of you. Like why I don't wear red or blue t-shirts when visiting family in poor areas (I'm black, to give y'all a clue), or why people of Japanese or Indian people should avoid their original symbols of peace that looked slanted, or why women should be aware of the attention they could get, people should try to be responsible for the messages they present to others. If you choose to do so, as is your right, be careful. Teaching somebody to do right doesn't mean they won't want to do wrong.
I will be totally honest and say yes I like getting attention from guys, but most the time its not because i want to date them, its just because i like showing off and hearing and seeing how excited that makes guys. I do that in situations where its clear im not trying to pick up the guys im showing off for. For example I've been in some strip contests and wet tshirt contests where I've got completely naked for a big audience of guys. It's a thrill to have them all cheer for me being the sexiest :)
MOST women are like this. At least, in First World countries. That's also why most women are attracted to guys who couldn't care less about them. The more a guy ignores or dismisses a hot woman, the more she is attracted to him. If any guy, even a decent attractive guy, shows attention towards an attractive woman, she is usually not attracted to him.
Women love and even CRAVE attention, but they don't want it from potential love or sex interests, ironically enough. I guess that separates "the simps from the Chads" in the world.
Men and women both love attention and to be and feel like everyone wants them. It's a good feeling for your ego to have so many people looking at you and saying or thinking nice things. We feel validated.
I just don't think it's only women, but women are more obvious about it when dressing up and flaunting their behavior and doing lots of giggling and attention seeking stuff. Guys do some of these things too, but they have to be a little more careful because too much over the top and they are seen as weak, boasting, bragging, showing off, etc.
Women also tend to do these things in groups, where men are usually rolling solo or more in competition with each other. I suppose there is a pecking order for girls as well, but you don't always see it as a guy, it's probably subtle for both genders and difficult to see from the other side.
Definitely yes it happens. I have a friend who got super extra confident and self centered when she got co-workers who were complimenting everything about her all day everyday. When those co-workers switched jobs and she ended up with new ones who couldn't care less about her and found her attention seeking attitude weird... Let's just say that really took a toll on her mental health. She used to go out everyday and expect everyone to either flirt with her or jealous her, now her body image changed a lot but she still just hates the idea of being average, she needs to feel better than most.
Obviously some do. But also some don't... I don't like just being friendly or respectful and then it gets misinterpreted. Which don't get how, because some women are upfront from the get go, just some people don't hear what you're saying over what THEY want...
Things are different too when you have to wear a mask all the time as we are still having to do in California because no one can see whether there is a smile, a frown or just a friendly gaze behind it... I hate it :(
This some honest post I mean it's hard to accept things like that but more or less it's true..
Women need attention and care to grow I consider it as rose plant it needs nurture to yield beautiful flowers girls are same way they wil bloom more when they have the attention but the line becomes thin when that becomes an advantage they won't let go of the guy who is providing them attention even if they know they have romantic interests they will not acknowledge his feelings ignore him them when he becomes silent they show some concern then the cycje repeats unfortunate but true i guess..
Nopes, the attention we're talking about here is attention as partners. Doubt you need sexual validation from your parents because that's the sort of attention that's being talked about here.
I spoke in general terms, I think you need to read the context I guess again attention is attention lol be it any kind of attention so if you did think I spoke in terms of romanticism then how it's still different from what I said lol sexual validation is kinda attention seeking parents? Where did they come from lol?
Not gonna argue but they're different kind of attention. Sometimes they just wanna see if they're attractive enough so it's validation, not sure why you don't get it but okay.
That's fine I want to understand what are you saying lol where is the mention of parents lol? Why you brought that up while this is clearly related to couples
First, all human beings like attention. "Attention Seeking Behaviour" is a term in psychology because that is what we do. On the specific case of girls enjoying attention from guys (with the implication, appearance driven), then I can only observe that guys are forced to conclude that they do. Girls dress in ways obviously designed to be eye catching; revealing cleavage, thighs, etc. It seems the only thing worse than getting unwelcome attention is getting no attention. Most guys have had the experience of their politely declining to look eliciting responses like leg crossing, neckline adjustment, etc. Girls aren't happy until they know you have paid attention. Then, of course, they complain about the way guys look at them... 😒
I think for some girls, they do get off to the attention. It might be because they haven’t had someone who’s payed attention to them in the past and they want the guy they’re with or whatever the status is to be that person. She may be craving the need for a guy to pay attention to her so she feels important or needed.
There are also girls who get off on the attention who simply just want attention cause they like the guy.
I would say there are people put there who crave attention, whether they are male or female, there are definitely those who crave attention from the other sex in order to gain validation. It is all about what someone values, and how people value their own worth...
Not every woman is that way, but I'd bet it was a majority (over 50%) of women who desperately need and desire male attention in order to be happy, and some of them definitely get off on it when they get it, especially if they're getting it from hot guys (even if the hot guys only want her for sex).
I'm going to say it's a mix. Sometimes they do but I'd say most of the time they just want guys to stop staring at them and give them some peace. I'm not going to say that girls don't like the feeling of control but I think the overwhelming attention is more annoying to them. This is all assumptions here of course and I'm curious to see what the actual result is
Humans are social creatures so post people in general like attention guy or girl but in current society women are supposed to be pretty while men are succsesfull and so women like to dress up nice or whatever while men tend to get fancy cars or whatever to get attention.
Yes, i think some women get off on this but some men do as well. I do not think it is a gender based trait, more of a mentality. I think those that are attention seekers lacked good attention from either their parents or role models as children, whether that is true or just the way they felt, and it makes them crave attention in a similar way to addiction. No proof or scientific evidence to site to backup my theory, just my opinion.
You are one of the hottest girls on here, I would think you might know the answer to that from a personal perspective. I could gaze at your photo all day, does that empower you at all? I'm sure I'm not the only guy on here who feels that way.
Some do , but roughly equal numbers utterly hate male attention too. There are some women that dress to attract attention... then launch a tirade at any males that even glance at them. I have taught my 14 year old daughter NOT to fish for attention & have self respect... most of the attention will be unwanted !!
I do. I love most of my life not getting the time of day from either sex. But when I’m a girl I love how men want to fuck me and how women tell me I’m lovely. Sadly I wish it was the other way around but I’ll take what I can get. 💋 it’s me.
I think Captain Obvious wrote this question. This forum is flush with plenty of examples of females having a nearly pathological need for male attention.
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