I don’t understand this as you see men get married and live with girl daily or a boyfriend seeing girlfriend daily. How they do that if men aren’t clingy and will hate having a girl with him daily? Don’t they get tired of the girl or hate having her next to him?
im 26 and never had a boyfriend seeing me daily or meeting family or spending holidays with me all year round, I never had a guy drive me to work or pick me up daily, nothing.
only one guy I dated wasn’t clingy and we would meet one time every 2 wks. Rarely one time a week. We never went on vacation or spent holidays together.
I would be confused as I would see boys daily with his girlfriend and I would be alone.
I guess maybe I never had a real boyfriend to know what a relationship is like. I’m 26 and have 0 experience. I don't know what togetherness is like with a guy.
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There's more to relationships than just what you see on the surface. Sure, men might value their independence, but that doesn't mean spending time together is a bad thing when it's with the right person.
When a guy really cares about a girl, being together daily isn't a chore - it's something he looks forward to. Little things like driving her to work or cooking dinner can be ways he feels close to her and wants to take care of her. Holidays and vacations are special opportunities to make memories.
Not every guy needs constant togetherness, but finding the right balance is important. Maybe the guys you dated before just weren't ready to fully commit yet. Don't lose hope - the fact that you want that loving connection shows you'll make a great girlfriend someday.
Keep putting yourself out there and don't settle for less than you deserve. When you meet someone who's crazy about you too, spending time together will feel as natural as breathing. The right guy will treasure any moment he gets to be by your side.
No guy wants be my boyfriend and be daily with me and spend vacations with me. It feels like a fantasy. I’m 26 and my dream don’t come true to hav a boyfriend.
I get why you'd feel that way. It sucks feeling like something you want is just a fantasy. But you're still super young, 26 is nothing! There's definitely guys out there who would love to be with you.
A few things that may help - Try putting yourself out there more. Join some clubs or activity groups so you meet new people with similar interests. Maybe try some dating apps too if you're comfortable with that. It's harder to find someone when you don't put yourself in social situations.
Also don't be so hard on yourself. Try focusing on doing things you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself. Confident, happy people attract others naturally. I know it's cliche, but be patient too. Comparing yourself to others only brings you down. Your person is out there, you just gotta be open to meeting them!
And who knows, maybe someone you already know could turn out to be boyfriend material if you give them a chance. But don't stress - just live your life and it'll happen when the time is right. Keep your head up, it'll work out! Try not to dwell on what you don't have.
I want my crush to be my boyfriend but I’m still stresed. Feels like a fantasy to have a boyfriend , impossible to get a boyfriend , like a dream only that neevr comes true
I feel you. Pining over a crush from afar is rough - been there many times myself. But don't lose hope yet!
It sounds like you really like this guy. So here's what you gotta do - start small. Slide into his DMs with a casual "hey, how's it going?" Strike up a convo, find an excuse to link up one on one. Ask him to grab lunch or coffee and just chat.
Keep it light and fun at first - laugh together, share some interests, let him see the cool dude you are! Gauge his responses - is he engaging back? Flirty? That's a good sign he might be feeling you too.
From there, maybe suggest a low-key date night - just the two of you catching a movie or gaming or something chill. See how the vibes feel in person. During the date, subtly brush his arm when you laugh or find excuses to touch his hand. Let him know you're interested!
Stay positive. Even if he's not into it at first, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. And who knows, putting yourself out there might lead somewhere awesome. You got this luv!
Cool girl I meant
He’s not a crush from afar. We already met and we’re talking hanging out together at job 3 times for his break time at work 2 wks ago.
Oh aight, my bad for assuming then! So this dude is already on ya jab?
In that case girl you DEF gotta shoot ya shot. He already into you if he makin time on his breaks to kick it. Three times? Bruh is tryna wifey you up forreal!
Next time y'all link say something cute like "you know, I really been enjoyin your company..". See how he responds! If he feelin shy too, then double down with some light flirtin - touch his arm when you laugh, linger with eye contact.
Play it cool but show interest, feel it out. If he reciprocates then you golden! Ask for his number and start texting, see where things go from there.
I ain't trying to get ya hopes up but it kinda sound like this could be it sis! Be confident - you got this in the bag. Just make the first move, what's the worst that could happen right? He either feenin for you too or he ain't. You'll know!
Go getcha man! I'm rootin for ya 😤
Now I have big problem, I can’t give him my number as after Christmas work got slow so my day shfit needs leave early at 4pm and not 6pm as we usually leave at and crush arrives to the nite shift at 5;30pm. So I haven’t been able to see him all week. Now I fear if he got fired after the holidays. I would need wait for him next wk til he arrives to see if I see him to give him my number. IF he’s not fired tho.
I’m depresed 😞
Ah man that really sucks, I can see why you'd be worried and depressed about it. Not being able to see your crush and give him your number because of the changed work schedule is really unfortunate timing.
But don't lose hope yet! Here are a few things I would try:
- See if any of your coworkers on the night shift can pass your number along to him if they see him. Explain the situation and hopefully one of them will help you out.
- Leave your number written on a piece of paper somewhere he might see after his shift, like taped to the locker room or break room door. With a note saying to text you.
- Wait until next week like you said, and check in with the night shift supervisor or manager to ask if he's still working there before your shift ends. Worth a shot!
- Try looking him up on social media too, a lot of people have Facebook or Instagram these days. Shoot him a message there if you can find him.
I know it sucks to have to wait and see, but don't lose hope yet! You never know what might happen. He sounds interested so far, so keep optimistic. You got this! Let me know what happens next week.
I plan next Wk wait in the cafteria of work ends early for me to see if he arrives as he always goes there to put his drink in the fridge. I just pray and hope he isn’t fired. That’s my only wish
Ah man, waiting in the cafeteria is a good idea! Fingers crossed so hard that he's still working there next week. I really hope your plan works out and you get to see him.
It must be so stressful not knowing if he got fired or not. But try to stay positive - lots of people don't get let go after the holidays, so chances are good he's still around. Even if he did, at least you'll know for sure instead of always wondering.
Just be cool when you see him, but also make your move! Smile big, tell him how you miss seeing him on your break and was hoping to catch him. Then casual ask for his number "so we can hang out sometime." You've got this dude, I believe in you!
Keep me posted on what happens. I'll be rooting for you next week. Try not to stress too much until then - it'll all work out, I can feel it!
Those men are not suited for marriage.
Why not?
You mean the ones that are with girl daily?