He was from my neighbourhood growing up, he's a bit older than me and at one time I had a schoolgirl crush on him, and we only spoke a few times. He used to play sports and now he's a marine. I went to a coffee shop in my area and I met him there in uniform, he is now over 6 feet tall, muscular, and has a shaved head. He told me he is stationed at the base nearby. I haven't seen him for eleven years, he's 28 now and I'm 24, but we were informal and comfortable. He even put our arms around each other's waists. We arranged to meet up again after that. He offered me a ride home and he was protective of me, waited till I walked in the door before he drove off. He has a busy schedule, so we only got to meet for one hour. He wanted to meet up again, this time for a date. I agreed. He showed up in his four by four pickup to pick me up. I wore a jeans and a nice top, and he wore his jeans and a fitted t shirt. He hugged me when I came out, and opened the door for me. My schoolgirl crush made me catch feelings for him really fast. He took care of me and bought the coffee we got, and he asked me if I was okay, touching me gently as he asked. Then I went gone to use the bathroom and came back. My shirt rode up, he caught a group of four guys looking at my exposed waist and he moved and blocked their view and told me to fix my shirt. I didn't even realise that was happening. He turned to them and waved his finger at them and they bugged out. He told me and I said "Thank you so much", I never meant it more, and I felt so safe, protected, and cared for and like I was in the company of a REAL man. He took charge and took me behind the building and kissed me. He lifted my shirt and kissed my stomach and I didn't resist but said I didn't want to go further right now. I feel safe, protected, cared for, provided for and desired with him, but I don't want him to leave after sex, since he knew me growing up he might just want to satisfy his curiosity. I need to see.
3 mo
Girls, Is it a good idea to date someone you knew growing up or does too much familiarity breed contempt?
What Girls Said
Those school crushes are funny things. "Nostalgia is tinted through rose-colored glasses" or some such. Crushes are based on your fantasies, not the reality of the situation. So are nostalgic memories. It is dangerous to rush headlong based on what you THINK you remember. Try to think with a clear head and look at him objectively.
I know, but he's so manly. He makes me feel like he can protect me from anything lol. I didn't mind him seeing my stomach but I don't want to have sex yet.
Then don't. It's not something that should be rushed, and one should be very careful of letting fluttering hormones take over the situation. It has to be something you're really comfortable with and ready for with the right person.