Was I wrong to say I want to have a hot girl summer to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Working on my body for the summer and it will be the first time I would have a hot girl summer in a long time but I'm in a relationship so it's like can I really have a hot girl summer with a boyfriend?

[Kokoroho]

Well yes and no. Context matters. Nothing wrong with prioritizing your happiness. But to leave it vauge or up for interpretation on what you mean can cause trouble. Some say it means racking up body count, others to say have fun without judgment, others is to be more physically non sexually active with friends. Either way. Include him in your so called hot girl summer phase.

[Asker]

Oh I definitely will includr him but I want to also party it up with my best friend. We haven't been to a beach since 2019.

[Kokoroho]

Ah, then it's best to approach it without coming off as " your not invited" 😂 rather get him to understand and trust you on your plans. Me, I feel better once she tell me in advance, and assure me with photos, updates or check in with me to see everything is cool. You don't have to but the thought of it builds so much trust.

[Asker]

Ok I will do that. Thanks!

[Kokoroho]

You're welcome 😊

[Roudyrebel8]

No not at all

[KrakenAttackin]

So you want to get run through by a bunch of guys?

[Asker]

No ofc not. I just want to party it up with the girls.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... which inevitably leads to getting run through by a bunch of guys.

[Asker]

That's not going to happen. I was never like that before my boyfriend. I don't believe in having ons. Plus I love my boyfriend. I would never do something like that.

[KrakenAttackin]

People in committed relationships don't go clubbing to party "with the girls". I guarantee you will end up getting your back blown out by a rando.

[Asker]

And I guarantee you I won't. Girls can party it up single or not and not end up getting their backs blown out.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... No good man should tolerate this.

[Asker]

You act as if I am going out to purposefully cheat on my boyfriend. I am just going out to have a good time. He always goes to bars and I don't say anything. I should be able to have my fun as well.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... neither of you should be doing this. Inevitably one of you will cheat.

[Asker]

I don't really doubt that.

[Asker]

I really doubt that.

[KrakenAttackin]

Freudian slip.

[Asker]

Nope just called typing too fast 😏

[JacobJordan]

That is not what a hot girl summer is last I checkedm

[Asker]

Oh ok.

[JacobJordan]

To clarify a "hot girl summer" is basically code for 'I'm going to do everything that makes me happy including sleeping around, dressing revealing, going to clubs, parties etc' so by the most common outcome of that term you would end up single. However I would hope that was not your intention so I would advise you to sit down with your boyfriend and explain that what you meant was "I want to be fit and in shape and looking sexy for this summer" that will likely be far better received than "hot girl summer"

[Asker]

Yes I did explain that to him and he understood.

[spartan55]

Your boyfriend must be so proud.

[Asker]

Yes he is.

[spartan55]

Yeah I'm sure 🙄

[spartan55]

You would throw a total fit if he said something like that to you.

[Asker]

Probably at first until he explained himself. I explained myself and that I only meant that I want to party with the girls. That's all it means. Not going out and cheating on him with randos.

[spartan55]

Okay, did you explain what you meant to him?

[Asker]

Yes ofc.

[Danny_dan92]

You do know what that means right?

[Asker]

Partying it up with the girls.

[Danny_dan92]

More than that, way more

[Asker]

Not to me. I'm not trying to have sex with random dudes. I don't do ons even if I was single.

[Danny_dan92]

Ok well.

Us men, know that hot girl summer comes with…

Thirst traps (thirst traps are posted mainly for attention but also to see what guys are attracted to them)

[Asker]

Well I won't be out here thirst trapping anyone. I'm just trying to have a good time with the girls. That's my definition of a hot girl summer.

[Danny_dan92]

Then just say you want to have a fun summer and go out and spend time with your friends more.

Us guys know by now what “hot girl summer” is. It’s the behavior of a single woman putting herself out there during the summertime to see if she can find a boyfriend. Given you already have one, naturally he will lose his shit

[Asker]

True. I guess I should have just said have a fun summer with the girls. He did kind of take offense when I said it lol

[Danny_dan92]

Don’t blame him

[InspireGlow678]

What's a hot girl summer

[Asker]

Partying it up with the girls on a beach

[InspireGlow678]

Would your boyfriend be able to behave?

[Asker]

He can have a hot boy summer idc as long as he's not having sex with other girls.

[InspireGlow678]

Oh I see your boyfriend wouldn't be spending the summer with you as much?

[InspireGlow678]

And your girlfriends

[Asker]

No we would still spend time together but I would spend a lot of time partying with the girls

[InspireGlow678]

Gotcha, so yeah, go for it! 🙂

[Asker]

I definitely will! 🙂

[InspireGlow678]

What's your idea of a good time?

[Asker]

Just going dancing, drinking, going to the beach for a nice swim stuff like that.

[InspireGlow678]

Sounds awesome, enjoy. 🙂

[InspireGlow678]

Just watch out, if you're in a racy bathing suit some guys will probably hit on you and your friends

[Asker]

I will be. I know how to handle that if that happens.

[InspireGlow678]

What kind of bathing suits you dig?

[Asker]

Bikini is probably what I will wear. But I'm not sure because I don't want to be too racy and I have a boyfriend.

[InspireGlow678]

Right, I totally get that. Some girls wear extreme or thongs and there's no way they don't get attention (but then I imagine that's the point, maybe).

[InspireGlow678]

But maybe not, honestly I think a girl should wear whatever she wants

[Asker]

I do too but because I have a boyfriend I just wouldn't want to be too racy. So I may just stick to a one piece.

[InspireGlow678]

You're right, I totally get that.

[InspireGlow678]

Guys will be a lot more likely to behave.

[Anonymous]

No, absolutely not.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome.😊