As a different race, why is it hard for me to find a white man to love me enough to marry him?

[Anonymous]

And yet I see other minorities and other races are able to get with a white/caucasian man. I feel like it's a game to me lol. Like a conquest.

How are they able to get with them but not me? I used to have better luck lol.

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+1 y

Had to go anonymous on this one because I'm pretty well known here lol.

It's not like I haven't dated guys my same race/ethnicity but I just found I was more comfortable with whites? Maybe I am also being discriminatory with that lol.

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+1 y

I think what didn't help my case in having a preference for white men/caucasian men was because many years ago, an Asian man physically hurt me.

Honestly, though, one of my other white exe's have hurt me too so hm..

[Anonymous]

You’re focused too much on the race rather than the man himself. Getting a man in general regardless of race is easy, finding someone who actually aligns with what you need in a partner is way different and there no step by step gamebook on how to find what YOU need specifically.

[Asker]

Thanks. I think you're right. But I do have to be physically attracted to the man though too.

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely, but if you were to say you’re only physically attracted to white men then hey that’s your preference but you’re limiting yourself. Even if you’re in an area that’s predominantly white, you can still be open to other races.

[7Phoenix7]

I think you asked something similar already? Maybe not, you should try to focus on the personality traits that you are looking for instead race. Don't even pay attention attention to that. Also work on your self esteem.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do white guys have bigger love than black guys?

[Asker]

I dont know. Never been with a black dude like that.

[dudeinohio]

Each person is different. I'm sure you will find someone. Patience and persistence...

[Asker]

Thank you. I hope so!

[RebelinSteel]

Possibly you do not have many white guys living near you. You need a decent pool of guys to get the one that likes you, if you have a small pool of people, then it’s far harder.

[JacobJordan]

Are you being feminine with these men? Are you being argumentative? There are several possible reasons from your side that could cause it there are several from the man's side.

[Asker]

I'm just being myself. I don't think that should be a turn off, at least in general. I would classify myself as smart/educated, kind (usually, unless you do me wrong lol 😉), I THINK I am sexy enough (I can pass the lingerie and women's panties/underwear test!), and I do NOT have any children from previous relationships! I have a car... I treat people (usually) how I would like to be treated, etc. The only thing I think is that I don't have is financial wealth lol, I still need to work on that haha. ... And I think I am still young enough to have a baby or two despite me about to enter my 40's (late pregnancy runs in my Asian Filipina family. My aunt had twins in 2012 at the age of 49 using IVF).

[JacobJordan]

Money doesn't matter to men. You could be broke and he would still marry you. Based on what you have said really the only thing I could source as a potential issue for guys might be the educated as their is a spreading silliness that college educated women are not worth the risk. Which while true for a fair number of American women does not apply outside the USA. So I don't really know seems more than likely you are doing everything right or at least most. And just not attracting the right kinda guys. Maybe it is the venue you attract guys at that is causing the trouble. But realistically I think it is more than likely just a them issue

[Asker]

" But realistically I think it is more than likely just a them issue"

Thank you. I mean I know I am not perfect, but exactly. Unfortunately, it takes two to tango and well sometimes, one has to lean on luck too, even though that's not really always possible to do.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Most people have an in group bias when dating. But really, if you’re persistent and just keep trying, eventually you’ll find one.

[Asker]

Thanks. I never got that in group bias thing. I've always found what's different to be more attractive to be honest.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Well, not everyone is the same.

[Asker]

To be honest with you, think a lot of people want to either marry on their same level or above them. If they're even ready to be married at all. At least that's what I've experienced. It doesn't matter the race though. At the end of it all, we all bleed red and we can all reproduce with each other, so I really will never get that type of discrimination. I think it's more out of fear of what their family will think if that is the case.

I know that Europeans/whites tend to have the most variation in colors but still, I think just being with someone of a different hair and eye color is already sexy and interesting! 🙂

[lorenzomichael]

Can you get any man of any other race to like you? Or are you saying that white men don't like you? I don't understand the question.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know. What are your faults?

[Asker]

Why should that matter? Other women are faulty/not perfect either and yet they still have successful marriages, relationships, supportive/loving significant others.

[FunkyMonkee]

Maybe there's just something about you that detracts them.
I nearly married an Induah until she went goofy on me

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think skin colour has anything to do with getting hurt. I'm white and she (the Induah) hurt me pretty badly!!

[Tim2nice]

I’m white and available