Why aren’t white men attracted to me?

[TattedQueen]

I’m a white women and yes I am built like a black women I have the curves hour glass figure big butt and all. From what I have been told a lot of white women are becoming like this. And most women in America are a size 12 or bigger I’m an 18. So if other women are like me why are they being hit on and not me (by white men)? Why don’t white men hit on me at all, unless it’s online! Like no white men hit on me in person! Every other race does but why not mine? Am I doing something wrong?

[ohshee]

It doesn't matter what color they are it's a moment in time that either somebody finds you attractive or they don't it's the bottom line doesn't matter their race it's who's there in that moment and if that person there in that moment looks at you different or find you more pushy more outspoken more curvy or skinny more funny it doesn't matter what it is who's ever standing in front of you at that moment if they like you they like you it doesn't matter what race they are you could put five different girls up in front of me all different races that's just because I pick one of them doesn't mean that I'm a white guy that doesn't like the other ones it means that I'm a one-woman guy and I pick that person because of who she is on the inside not who she is on the outside now if I have the option I'm picking all five of them if they're all beautiful on the inside I would pick them but if there was something that I didn't like on the inside I would not take them this the bottom line is that easy doesn't matter what color they are what race they are why does everybody have to use race it's bullshit

[DonkeyDan]

It's hard to say from the small amount of you that can be seen in your profile pic but there are a couple of things I notice that might make white men think that you are possibly gay. The hair the nose ring and the neck tattoo. I know it's a stereotype and don't shoot the messenger but that is the impression from the tiny photo. Personal I think you have a really cute face. If you put up a photo with more of you in it we could be more objective. I'm just trying to be honest with you and not trying to hurt your feelings or be nasty, I really would like to help you understand.

[Starrisunset]

It's not just you. Honestly, I'm white and your size and rarely get hit on by men of any race. I wouldn't think too much of it. I'm not sure women really get hit on in person all that often anyhow. Men online seem to be a little more forward than they are in person. I think being behind computer scene seems less intimidating. Unless you're frequenting bars or places like that, the chance of most women getting hit on out in public is slimmer than you think.

[Seinna]

I don't know if it's the same in the US... but I live in Europe.

And here, guys sometimes don't like women who've been with black men before. I don't know if it's a regular thing elsewhere but I heard that opinion.

Also I'm sorry but size 18 is very big, maybe not so much in America but to me it is. You let yourself go. Then there's the visible tattoos, at your age men are pretty invested in their careers so neck tattoos look unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Porn and some white women have made it clear that they want black guys.
That has caused some white men to self-reflect and realize that they're more attracted to women if color.
Basically porn and other white women have kinda fucked things up for you.
Lots of white guys are exploring their love for other races now.

[TattedQueen]

I dated black men for 9yrs now a couple white guys tossed in but never dated them but after my last ex I don’t want black men like my homeboy of 9yrs said (who’s also black) black men are broke and have nothing to offer me they are a headache and my last ex all he did was talk about everything being racist!

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm... It's a strange time these days.
You have some open-minded white men pursuing women of other races now.
You have some white guys who are hung up on white women and feel betrayed by you dating black guys. They won't date white women who dated black guys.
Then you have the popularity of dating apps. It's getting to where it's considered rude to even approach women in public now.
That might be why you don't get the attention in person now.

[rickjames20]

White men with any self respect would never date you after you've been with a black man.

[Aristomachos]

They just can't handle you love! Seriously now. I do not know you and I do not want to judge you. However, if one thing I know is that most men do not just want to have a pretty dame next to them. You need to make them feel happy around you and this will mostly come from your mouth, one way or the other. Band negativity and you will be a super magnet.

[FilmGuy93]

Maybe it's your vibe and personal energy? Men are vibe sensitive too.

[TattedQueen]

You’re probably right because I wondered that too because I’ve been hanging out with black guy since I was 19 so that’s the energy I’m used to rubbing off on

[Hulk30]

they're probably considerin me too also white men are much more familiar with ya which i think causes them to sexually appreciate ya much less as a result makin ya appear much less exotic and sexually attractive to a certain degree

[SleepyFlower]

Um you want white men, well you can try dating apps don't worry you'll find yourself a white man girl lol

[TattedQueen]

I am so beyond over dating apps!!! All the do is ghost you anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

[SleepyFlower]

True but the ones you pay for can be good

[TattedQueen]

False I paid for match 3yrs ago and then see the same guy on a free dating app so what was the point to pay I could just went and found him on the other app 🤷🏻‍♀️

[SleepyFlower]

I'm really sorry : (

[peacesncream]

Ok baby girl say she got that hourly glass shape if they aren't attracted there are plenty more people who are don't matter the color

[nicaddict]

its not that hard to clear your throat and say hi. would make things a lot easier for everyone involved.

[CantGetItUp]

Weight is a huge factor whether you ladies want to believe it or not. There’s plenty of white men that will want you but you have to put in the work.

[TattedQueen]

You mean put the work in so I can go and starve myself like my sister no thanks and that’s why I hate white men! WOMEN aren't MENT TO BE SKINNY WE aren't 12yr old boys! We are supposed to be thick and curves it also makes it better for having babies

[Hathor]

Thats probably why you can't get one

[CantGetItUp]

You do realize women put on 30lbs per kid they have. History and biology says you’re not supposed be obese or fat. So many women today confuse hourglass figure with being fat. If you hate white men don’t date them. No other race of man want fat women either.

[CantGetItUp]

Also what’s your height and weight?

[TattedQueen]

@Hathor hold on let me starve myself So I can look like a boy with no boobs or butt so a man will want me

[TattedQueen]

Not fat thick! I am 200 at 5’6

[Hathor]

your lazy and dont believe it takes work to land a quality man

[CantGetItUp]

I just looked up your BMI, congratulations you’re in the obesity range. You weight more than what a man is supposed to weight at 6 ‘1.

[TattedQueen]

@Hathor listen lady you are a terrible person just because you are skinny with long hair that doesn’t make you a good person you look down at people if they aren’t like you it’s not physical appearance that matters when you get old it’s your personality and you ma’am are dull as a nail good luck to you

[CantGetItUp]

You need therapy based off some of your comments no joke. Watch Kevin Samuels on YouTube. He deals with fat entitled black women just like you. Men don’t want women with masculine traits.

[TattedQueen]

Thank you 🙏 I love being an American 😘

[TattedQueen]

Also those are inaccurate BMI of any kind is ridiculous to go by

[TattedQueen]

I cannot stand Kevin samuels or steph is cold my ex was obsessed with them losers

[Jersey2]

Find a white guy online then and date him. You only need one.

[TattedQueen]

People are shitty online their fake and they ghost a lot!

[Jersey2]

That sucks. I wouldn’t know though.

[Jersey2]

White guys may not know you are interested in them. Make it clear as we are dense at times.

[TattedQueen]

I think do think because of my shape they assume I want black men

[Jersey2]

Tons of young white guys in here like that shape from what I have seen. They are out there for sure.

[Anonymous]

It's because white men belong to Asian girls.

Okay, a good number of us belong to Latinas too.

[TattedQueen]

Sounds like my cousins. My male cousin married a ti chick and my female cousin married a South American

[Opinion Owner]

Once a white dude fucks an Asian girl, he loses interest in white girls.

[TattedQueen]

Dumbest shit ever heard but I guess I dated black men for 9yrs 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

And you'll come back to date them for the next 40 years. You cannot compete with Asian Goddesses, sorry.

[TattedQueen]

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[slatyb]

Are you overweight? Most young white men prefer women who are not overweight. Would ou be interesting Ed in dating an overweight man?

[TattedQueen]

I’m overweight to bullshit BMI and to white men but to other races I’m thick so 🤷🏻‍♀️To American standards I’m not that bad I would date a thick but not huge man stocky but doesn’t look pregnant like no beer belly type shit

[Hathor]

Could be the haircut. Men like long feminine hair

[TattedQueen]

So their pussies and don’t like strong confident women 🤣👍🏻

[Hathor]

Iol enjoy your mediocre black cock

[TattedQueen]

@hathor you can enjoy little tiny white peeper little cock big Rick ass they say! Black men actually move their hips better so nothing is mediocre 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

[Hathor]

K if you say so

[Browneye57]

For sure. It's your attitude and your personality. They both suck.
Quit making things about race. It's just not relevant.

[TattedQueen]

No I have an amazing personality and I’m funny and I make everybody laugh and I’m goofy and I’m bubbly and then I’m gonna asshole and I mean just like everybody else so you can go suck it with your tiny little penis

[Browneye57]

Well, you just proved my point. And you're a racist too. A total failure.

[Jamie05rhs]

Different people have different tastes.

[IncognitoBandito]

Can't say, you look pretty cute to me.

[Anonymous]

As a white guy I want someone who is more feminine than myself. Short hair and tattoos are not attractive to me. Also I don't like curvy women. I prefer petite women. But I don't think that last thing is as common among other white guys today.

[TattedQueen]

Y’all crack me up with this tattoo stuff 😂 talking about maybe guys don’t like you because your tattoos are you kidding I’m a millennial we are the generation of tattoos Gen Z is covered in tattoos so you’re telling me white guys aren’t going to be attracted to most people these days because there’s more people with tattoos then without and tattoos are feminine when they’re a big rose on your neck

[Opinion Owner]

I just said what I like and what I don't like. I may be in the minority; but it is what I like. And there is nothing feminine about a neck tattoo. The most feminine placement of a tattoo is the ankle.

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm White, and don't find myself attracted to the type of body you describe, nor the tattoo...

[malwins]

Suze may be the issue

[karaspara]

They are trust me

[Nick473]

Id need more pics but maby its the short hair

[Anonymous]

Most white men like slim women

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Having a giant neck tattoo is unappealing. 🤷‍♂️

[dolemite89]

growing your hair out would help 🤷‍♂️

[Nachowedgie]

Cuz we want slim women, not whales

[Fuentes]

Lol maybe its the tatts

[TattedQueen]

This is so stupid to meet everybody almost these days have tattoos especially the millennials my generation so why do people keep saying tattoos that’s so dumb

[Fuentes]

You asked a question and it is true but most people don't have visible tatts such as to many tatts on certain women can make them look trashy im not saying you're trashy im just saying maybe those dudes see it as that like i would not wife a chick who has face tatts or neck tatts

[TattedQueen]

Yes I did ask a question and I get there’s people that don’t like tattoos personally I think I men and women neck tattoos are sexy but that’s me. I have a tattoo in my ear to my thing that I don’t understand about people if they cannot like tattoos but good luck more and more people are having tattoos and more and more people are having more tattoos

[Fuentes]

Then maybe society will change but you can't fault people for not liking something, just like many women don't like short men when their are alotta short men. Im not short but im just saying people have preference