Why can’t I attract white guys?

Question

I always liked the regular white guys. Not ones who look like they date outside of their race, just a normal one but I don’t know why they’re not attracted to me? Most of them say they’ll date a girl outside of their race but the girl always looks either really Eurocentric or they’re just really attractive. They just don’t like me because I don’t look more like a white girl? Genuine question lol

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Hmm that's a tough one. It could be a few different things:

- Some white guys are just more comfortable dating girls who look more like them. Not saying it's right, but people tend to go for what's familiar I guess.

- Could be they think you're out of their league looks-wise since you're not white. Dumb that they see it that way, but stereotypes exist.

- Potentially your style/vibe doesn't match what they're used to seeing as being "their type". Even if you're chill, if you don't fit some white girl mold in their head they may not look twice.

- Could be where you're meeting them matters too. Different crowds in different places. Bars/clubs may attract a certain type more than like online or something.

Don't let it get you down though. Their loss! You seem cool, someone will see that for sure. If they can't see past skin color that's on them. Keep doing your thing and I'm sure the right white dude or anyone else will come around who appreciates you exactly as you are.

KostasKouvalis · Accepted Answer

I'll need more information, but I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you're Indian. In which case one reason may be, is a lot White men only date girls they think they can get sex from. As far as Euro-centric, maybe they're families will be more accepting, maybe they feel more comfortable themselves. Or maybe if they were to get married and start a family, they'll want their kid to look at them.

But it's kind of funny that you say you want a "regular White guy", who sees you as a person, not one that necessarily dates other races, yet you yourself specifically wants to date a White man.

You have to just get to know a random White guy who will like you for you, but sadly, I do think your best shot would be with a White guy who's specifically into your race. Maybe try the internet if you aren't having luck in real life, or take it upon yourself to do the approaching.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As a dark skinned slim black woman, I have no problem attracting white men. How tall are you and what is your weight?

DevikaButts95 · Accepted Answer

What's your race? Try being the one to pursue and asking them out.

Keyboardkat · Answer

I read something you had written further down in the column but there was no reply button. I want to tell you a couple of things.
FIrst, a 45 year old is not a "Boomer." Boomers are those of us who were born during and right after World War II. I am 78. I was born in 1945. That makes me a "Boomer."
Second, what you said about a man who is your father's age was nasty and obnoxious and completely uncalled-for. Is that what you think of your dad? Is that the way you talk to him or treat him?

Kallehalle · Answer

I wish more White Men did, although many already do. But we need more doing it.

We need to stop dating White Women. Nobody have given "their Women" as many priveleges as we have. They are so used to being treated nicely, that they are keen on being like trash. They literally use White Men as a settling option, and might even have an unemployed side dude (most likely Black, because of fetish) for while he is at work lol.

Trust me, many White Men will choose a non-White Woman the moment they got the chance. Nobody dislike Asian Women as much as White Women, because White Women don't want to date Black Men. They want to use them in the bedroom. But if Asians steal White Men, then White Women won't be able to settle and get the children they want.

In other words, just approach them. They'll ditch the White Girl in a heartbeat.

JamesMI616 · Answer

I fell for a married woman once. I posted a similar question then and almost everyone was with the person they fell for. I would tread carefully. If you really have chemistry it will be written all over both of you and people will absolutely see it even in short interactions. I tool it slow and was sure to be honest with everyone that it concerned and I don't regret it. I never asked her to choose me. You can't help who you love but you can control how you act.

Anonymous · Answer

I doubt it's because you don't look like a white girl. Plenty of people prefer their own race on average but plenty don't as well. It could just be you've been having some bad luck. I don't know. Depending on where you live there's also been some (fabricated, in my opinion) racial tension, so cross-race dating may have died down a bit.

Quigly · Answer

There is a strong connection between family and race. I don't feel connected to people outside of my race. A person Being with someone from another race is a person very disconnected from family. It's abnormal and a red flag if you understand family.

Tim2nice · Answer

White male here. I would date any woman of any race and yes, I have dated quite a few black girls, but there has to be an attraction there. Maybe there’s a small pool of white men where you live or you’ve just not met the right one yet.

DollarBillcheapman · Answer

Huh. I dig most latinas. There's usually a range of what guys like physically. Bout 80% of my friends prefer curvy. Only 20% of them like skinny. It could just be they see so few people of other races there you shock them. Also aren't they super reserved socially? Try asking them out to do chores. They might have a "procedure". No young people aloud alone together.

glennos89 · Answer

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be able to attract white guys. I'm a white guy myself and personally I would have no problems with dating a latina, Asian, or any other race tbh. 🤷‍♂️

_no_one_ · Answer

I think a UV light bulb should do the trick

Nifrayu · Answer

If they aren't attracted to you, there's not much you can do.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I have the same problem but with only blonde women 😂

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what race you are, I don't like Asians or blacks.

Anonymous · Answer

"Not one who look like they date outside their race".😆😆😆 what does that even mean?

Pohjolan · Answer

We can't see you through the screen. What sports are you doing?

Twalli · Answer

I don't see race. If a girl is attractive to me, then race isn't a concern.

Masterodd · Answer

I don't know? can you post a selfie and let us look at you?

normalice · Answer

I like thin girls. Race means nothing.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

You’re obviously not their type.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

See one you like go for it

zagor · Answer

So what are you?

Anonymous · Answer

Go to Europe

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