Should I not talk to this guy?

[CAPLOVE]

yesterday I started talking to this guy that I haven't talked to for a long time. He dmed me on insta and said "nice new post". I responded and said "thanks". Then I said "hey, I was wondering what is going on because you already ghosted me twice and I'm apprehensive to talk to you again becuse of this". He message back and said "I just wanted to say nice new post, It didn't go anywhere before that's why (which is his fault), and he said I'm not a good guy so if I were you I probably wouldn't talk to me". I asked what he meant by that and he said "I'm just not a good guy".

I don't know what to do becuse I think I like him but I'm scared he'll ghost me again. I also was a little scared when he told me he's not a good guy. What should I do? My friend said she's never herd anything about him and she thinks I should go out with him to get an idea what he's like.

[Oliverlogan263]

I dunno, that guy is giving me weird vibes. Saying he's "not a good guy" is a red flag, and then ghosting you twice already? I wouldn't mess with that if I were you.

Your friend may not know much about him, but you've had direct experience already that shows he's not reliable. Do you really wanna waste your time on someone who bailed on you before and warned you himself not to trust him?

Even if you like him, is it worth the risk of getting hurt again? Dude doesn't seem capable of a real commitment. And what if he ghosts you after the first date and you're left all confused again? Not worth the drama.

I'd say keep your distance. Maybe stay polite if you run into him, but don't give him your number or pursue anything further. Focus your energy on guys who are actually excited to be with you and treat you well. This one ain't it, luv. You can do better!

[CAPLOVE]

I get that. yeah i'm scared of being hurt again. Thank you!!

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem! Yeah totally understandable to be cautious after getting hurt before. That's always a risk we take though when we put ourselves out there, ya know? Just remember your self worth isn't defined by what any one guy thinks. Try talking to him a bit more to get more info like we said. But don't get sucked in too deep too fast if your gut's still not feelin it. You seem like a cool girl - don't settle for anyone that doesn't treat you with respect. You'll find someone better if this dude ain't it. Keep your head up!

[CAPLOVE]

Yeah I just feel like I want a guy so bad LOL. Is there something I can say to him about if he hurts Shoud I say something to him like if you hurt me again I'm done or post something on my story or something. Info about what? like use him to find stuff out? Yeah I'm trying to not fall all in but it's hard. I am learning to stop letting people treat me bad and get away from toxic people. But it's hard to relise someone is bad until it's to late. I just told my one "friend" off for something she did and I've started ghosting guys. I sure hope I can find someone better

[JayBones]

You should have unprotected sex with him immediately. The world need more stupid single mothers.

[CAPLOVE]

Hahaha, very funny. Whatis that supose to mean?

[JayBones]

I thought really hard for at least 5 minutes, but it is impossible to dumb this down any further than it already is. Good luck out there.

[CAPLOVE]

your lowkey a jerk

[JayBones]

I don't think its low key. It's 'you're" by the way. You + are = you're as in you're stupid.

[CAPLOVE]

Whatever

[KittyKat90210]

I don't think you should spend time with him. He's literally saying that he doesn't want you to. If he's telling you not to talk to him and that he's not a good guy, it's probably best that you believe him.

[CAPLOVE]

Do you think that's what he meant? I don't really get what he meant when he said he isn't a good guy. My friends thought he just said that for attention and to see how I would react.

[KittyKat90210]

Whether he's seriously saying he's no good or just trying to get attention, I wouldn't want to be with someone who says that

[CAPLOVE]

Yeah, I get that

[KatherineJ]

Let it go. He sounds like a player.

[CAPLOVE]

ok...