Would it be wise to judge a guy based off his social media post?

[Anonymous]

[incorrected]

What man couldn't agree with the underlying sentiment that smoking a joint and having sex with one's partner is enjoyable? Yet, the language used to express the sentiment betrays an immature and selfish mentality. I wouldn't pick someone who spoke like that.

[Asker]

That’s the only thing that bothered me, the “bitch” part but when you paint of of what he actually said, it’s not a bad thing at all.

[incorrected]

It was during my generation's heyday that popular media glamourised "gangster rap" and other trash influences that made immature men start talking like that; the music influencing the women of my generation was all about dating a bad boy and having a bad time of it emotionally (probably still is for all I know). Somehow it's like 'show business' has a desire to screw us all up.

[Summeroflove]

I would say he isn’t really…. Marriage material. If a woman posted something like that it would make me say ehhhhh…..


If I were you. Stay clear of him.

[Nikki1989]

Any man posting that nonsense is obviously very immature.

[ProbablyClueless]

Probably not... I used to post all kinds of the dumbest, most irreverent, most random garbage I could think and find on my social media. I didn't believe or think any of what I would post (and I tried to make that obvious), but people would read into my posts sometimes.

I actually stopped posting things during the beginning of the pandemic when I realized a few things: 1, that people actually believed the kind of stuff I was joke posting; 2, that a lot of people were reading into my posts as though they were serious, and 3; that a lot of people are actually way more unhinged than I assumed.

[Drew-1990]

Yes and no, that post yes 100% . But there are plenty of posts that seem a little weird, but maybe there's an inside joke you don't understand or it's just not your taste. Then there's things like that

[spartan55]

It never ceases to amaze me the absolute stupid shit people post online. I love reading stories of people so stupid they basically incriminate themselves on line..
This guy? Just sounds like a generic shitbag. They are everywhere.

[Asker]

Lol I mean it was pretty dumb but you just went pretty hard on the guy.

[Asker]

I guess sometimes we think of something and in that moment we think it’s okay or smart to post what we’re thinking but usually in those instances we delete the post. This post is still up though.

[Asker]

But it is pretty generic. It’s almost just a way for him to get a few girls in his dm. If he had a girl or as he calls them a female dog , I don’t think he would have actually made the post or wouldn’t have had to make the post.

[spartan55]

I went pretty hard on the guy? What about a prospective employer? New girl he just started dating? Think I went hard? Yeah okay... 😂 😂

[spartan55]

Yeah, because guys with girlfriends never call women bitches...😂 😂
You are pretty naive for 25?

[Asker]

When did I say guys with girlfriends never call women that word. Everyone knows most men use it but that doesn’t mean it’s okay or that it’s a word that I like to hear or use myself. So I don’t.

[Asker]

And he said “my bitch” meaning it would be his girl he’s referring to, not another women. Soooo

[Asker]

And yes it’s clear I have had plenty of questions and went into detail about my situation and I haven’t denied that. It’s obviously on my page. So rather I call him “that guy” or “the guy I ask a lot of questions about on here.” Doesn’t change the fact that I still believe you went pretty hard on him. Didn’t say you were wrong though. You’re more aggressive than you actually have to be lol.

[spartan55]

You can think I'm aggressive or whatever, but you don't seem to understand how social media posts shape the perception you give off. Or maybe you don't care which would prove my point.

[HawkPerception]

For that post... yes. That dude should be avoided like the plague unless you're a 304 girl. But social media doesn't entirely dictate someone's personality.

[JacobJordan]

Would be amazingly stupid provided you are going off 1 post. If he has many many posts of similar garbage then absolutely smart move

[KrakenAttackin]

How many women would be disqualified by stupid shit they posted or stupid whore-like pictures? Get real.

[Asker]

I mean I’m not disagreeing but unfortunately this post was referring to a guy. The post isn’t disregarding the fact that women do it too it just has nothing to do with a woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... so he made a stupid post. What are your overall impressions of him? We have all had stupid attacks.

[Asker]

My overall impression even before and after seeing the post. He’s not a murderer or rapist. So, he’s a decent human being lol but all decent human beings have flaws and depending on if the two of you are compatible you might can deal with it or you might can’t. That being said, he’s a good looking guy, who knows it. He has options. His body is fit, he walks with a good posture so as I said most women like him but he’s a bit arrogant and even creepy sometimes but he gets away with it because he’s good looking. I believe he may be a bit condescending as well only because he overuses pet names and not my real name enough. He’s into himself more than anything so if we did date, intimacy, dates, conversations etc would all be about him. I mean, I noticed he lets me speak, talk about myself etc he listens but with all I say he HAS to give a lesson on life, energy etc to make it about him again and what he knows. None of these things make him a bad person because he isn’t but I do believe it makes him a bad fit for me.

[Asker]

Also, he hasn’t given me much other than some flirting and good conversation. When we don’t see each other, there’s no texting (he’s not into texting so he says) but you would think he would call but not that either. Or maybe even s small check in text without us having to go back and forth texting but nope and I truly don’t believe he does this with everyone. So, I was half way out the door with him but the post pushed me out the door. Not because it’s that bad but because it adds to my overall impression of him.

[KrakenAttackin]

He sounds like a fuck boy or a wanna be fuck boy. Sounds like you are going to pass, probably the right choice.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Not completely. But they can tell you about a person.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't have any. What do you do then?

[QuickToAsk]

It's super wise.

[Danny_dan92]

We do that to girls so.

[Asker]

You judge us based off what we post? So what kind of post would make you go “Nah. I’m good. I don’t want to talk to her.” Or “I wouldn’t take her out.” Because most times, people are just joking or trolling lol.

[Danny_dan92]

I’ll give an example of when I do judge.

When girls that are in relationships post thirst traps

[Asker]

Well yes in that case I get it. That’s kind of how I feel when guys post things like what’s shown above. People are quick to call us out about thirst trapping post but apparently as you can see, you guys do it too. That’s something that didn’t have to be posted. He could have just linked up with an ex or a quick sneaky link or the “bitch” he’s mentioning and solved the problem.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, us guys do it too. Because yes, girls do slide in dm’s also.

My thing is I don’t judge people that post it when they are SINGLE. Because let’s call it for what it is, thirst trapping is the act of “looking for a mate” to see who is attracted to you and then you pick and choose who to interact with.

But nah, for whatever reason there are people they try to bs others when others call them out for doing it.

Like if I’m single and someone does it, I’ll tell them. Straight up, yeah I’m trying to see what girls like me. Not this bs lie “I’m feeling myself” nonsense you always hear

[Asker]

Awww yea, I can admit us girls use that line a lot, not me personally. I’m more into posting funny things on social media. I don’t use it to look for someone to hook up with or date but I personally don’t find anything wrong with people using social media for that but it’s like you said, just be real. I think us women hate seeming vulnerable, needy or desperate that we don’t even realize that wanting sex or a partner is natural so we lie to ourselves when we take pictures half naked or post or share post about having good vagina etc and say “Don’t take what I post on here too seriously.” Why explain yourself if you truly believe your intentions of posting it wasn’t to get a reaction and a few dms? Lol

[Danny_dan92]

You hit the nail right on the head

[AmeerX]

Not really

[dudeinohio]

In this case... yes