If an ex or guy from the past doesn't really post on social media, does it make sense to even follow him back?

[Anonymous]

[Extraterrestrial1999]

I mean, is your whole motivation for following him, to keep up with what he's doing? Do you still have feelings for him? I thought some people just follow people they know, for no real reason?

[Asker]

I would be following him back because he followed me first.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Than yeah.

[Asker]

Is that a good enough reason to follow him?
I asked because I don't have to follow him back

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Yeah, it's just a follow, I know he doesn't post much, but it can't hurt.

[Asker]

It gives him access to contact me

[Extraterrestrial1999]

If he contacts you, and you don't want to answer, just leave him on read.

[Asker]

Okay then what would be the reason for following him back if I don't want to talk to him?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Most of the time, they'll figure your not interested, if you don't answer. Or, just tell him, you seem like a good person, i'm not interested in you in that way

[Extraterrestrial1999]

I don't know, maybe I'm weird, but I don't assume that just because someone follows back, that they want to talk to me. Sometimes people don't even like you, and will still follow

[Asker]

That is weird to me. I wouldn't want people I don't like to be on my social media feed. I do believe if someone follows you back it's for a reason. Maybe they don't want to talk to you but they are interesting in your life from a distance.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Great point, I would change my opinion to don't follow him back, but I thought you could still message someone, even if you don't follow them?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

I meant, I thought he could still message you, Even if you don't follow him

[Asker]

It depends on the individual's account preferences. Most sites you can but you can also filter it where they can't message you.

[spartan55]

If you want to keep stalking him, sure.

[Asker]

He followed me first, wouldn't I just be reciprocating what he did?

[spartan55]

Yeah sure.

[spartan55]

@asker how is he is an ex but you never dated? This sounds like middle school.

[Asker]

I forgot to mention it in the post but it is indeed a guy that I never dated but he had a crush on me.

[Danny_dan92]

Tsk still glued to the cock ehh?

[Asker]

Huh?

[Danny_dan92]

You miss the dick.

[Asker]

How do you come to that conclusion if he follows me first?
I would be just reciprocating his follow.

[Danny_dan92]

Because you’re following him and have not moved on.

[Asker]

Just because I followed him back on social media I haven't moved on?

[Danny_dan92]

Yep. Most definitely

[Danny_dan92]

Ask yourself this.

If he flirted with you right now and proposed having sex would you say yes? Probably.

[Asker]

I wouldn't because we never screwed around before. Infact we never dated

[Danny_dan92]

Uhh…. He’s an ex. That’s what your question implies

[Asker]

I apologize I forgot to mention I never dated him in the past. It was more like a failed talking stage

[Danny_dan92]

Ah, I have a lot of those. Very well, disregard everything I’ve said

[Asker]

Would you still follow him or her in your case?

[Danny_dan92]

I still follow a lot of girls I have talked too once before. Thing is once the talking phase ends that’s literally it.

Also, only reason why I still do so is because I’m still single. If that changes, then so does my following

[Asker]

Got it. Thanks for your input

[Anonymous]

If you're interested, yes.

[Asker]

If he followed me first, is it the right thing to follow him back?

[Opinion Owner]

If you want nothing to do with him, don't follow him back. If you are open to something in the future, do follow him.

[Asker]

What if I follow him back but I just want to be social media friends and nothing more?

[Opinion Owner]

That might be okay.