Do men ever pretend to not love their ex because they know it’ll never work?

[strawberrybaby3]

[Finchie40]

If she is an ex , the relationship to him is pretty much already over , If he truly loved her and cared about her in the first place , she wouldn’t be an ex period , unless she ended things with him first , but even still , most guys’ exempt their exes from their lives , especially if she hurt him or betrayed him , so it comes down to how the relationship ended in the first place , for me to be able to give you better advice. I need to know what happened for the relationship to end in the first place. Me personally doesn’t take exes back that hurt me or betrayed me or backstabbed me, or cheated on me , when I walk away from a relationship , it’s pretty much over for me, in time I might forgive her , but I will never forget what she did to me. So if I am rude to her and treating her like shit , I am not pretending , I am being honest with her , that she destroyed me and broke my heart, and lost my trust in her. I don’t know if I will ever forget what she did to me , The damage was already done. I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite because I have tried reconnecting with an ex that I ran into years later after we broke up , seeing her again brought back great memories of the times her and I shared together , she was still beautiful to my eyes and felt we could put the past behind us , she felt the same way as well so we decided to meet up again and catch up as friends and not rushing into anything. We went out for drinks and talked and we felt the chemistry was still there between us enjoying each others’ time together , one thing lead to another and we ended up back in bed having amazing sex all night , sadly I realized my feelings for her weren’t the same as they were before our break up , I still had resentment toward her for betraying me like she did. I basically screwed her like she was just some girl I met at a club. She was screwing me like we were going to be back together , after that night with her , I never called her again , I know it was an asshole thing for me to do but my feelings for her weren’t the same and that’s pretty much when I realized I can never take an ex back period in a romantic relationship, I can fuck her again but I can’t give her my whole heart again. I can’t speak for everyone but that’s just how I feel and see things , I want a girl that stands by me like I stand by her , a girl that stays loyal and faithful to me the same way I do for her , That removes selfish Jess and resists temptations the same way I do for her , life is too short to stand by someone’s side that doesn’t truly value you , that just likes the convenience of you , I’m sorry but I feel I deserve better than that, I take relationships seriously , I can not commit to a girl that can not commit to me period , that doesn’t make me her top priority the same way she expects me to make her my top priority , I want a girl that brings happiness into my life , not misery , a girl that wants to be in my arms over anyone else’s arms. I understand no relationship is perfect , but when I meet a girl that chooses me the same way I choose her , that fights for me the same way I fight for her , that’s where love grows , without that we have nothing.

[SotiCoto]

If they still love their ex, that is by choice. Choosing NOT to love someone any more is comically easy if one actually wants not to.

[Juxtapose]

If you deprive a fire of oxygen, it will go out.

[Bklynbadboy12]

No we don't care about that if we love you then your gonna know it and feel it. Does your ex at like he doesn't care

[KrakenAttackin]

Some ex's we still care for, others we hate.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Yes. That was my first heartbreak 😂

[BoopBoopBeep]

I can't really say I'm pretending...

[NathanDavis]

I never have

[eagle1951]

not pretending for sure

[WhitneySnow]

Sometimes

[TallAnon]

Yeap

[dinojames22]

Yep.