Is a personality useless if you're physically unattractive?

[Anonymous]

[TenderFantasy]

You kidding? Some people will do anything, I mean ANYONE.

[Asker]

That's a woman

[TenderFantasy]

Yes and your point?

[Asker]

Women have men who will date them regardless. Men dont have that

[TenderFantasy]

@asker Guess we are observing two different things. I've seen some BUTT UGLY men with women because women are usually desparate for a relationship, men are not. They have that clock ticking telling them to settle down before it's too late. It's really not a gender thing. I've seen BOTH men and women that are desparate to get married, get a green card, so their family doesn't hound them any longer, etc.

[Asker]

I dont care about anecdotes because anecdotes can be countered with opposing anecdotes. Women make the mistake of always using anecdotes as a way to dismiss or debunk something. In general especially with the advent of the internet, any woman can get attention and find a man. An obese women can go online and get a group of men who'd want to date her and sleep with her so she's figure why do i need to work out if there's men who will accept me the way i am. Its why so many fat women think they're 10's. In general men don't get that kind of attention. Generally women dont want to date fate ugly men (which is fime). But its not the same. Most men are invisible now in 2024

[TenderFantasy]

@asker, what I've said are NOT anecdotes. They were REAL LIFE examples that I have observed just for being alive a long time and being out there in the dating world since the 2000's. My last ex (he was overweight, lived with his folks, played video games all day, your classic what people would call a loser nowadays), and he STILL left me after five months of dating, talking everyday, hanging out once to twice a week. And I don't appreciate you saying that my examples were anecdotes. I had to look that word up as I didn't know what that meant, but they are NOT "short, amusing stories"! I know you are probably not going to listen to reason. No one does a lot of times on here, especially if they are immature and closed minded and just want to be right all the time or they just want to argue. Sure, yeah, observations can be subjective, but they can also be correct! ... How would you explain me, a pretty enough lady, educated (both formally and informally), kind (for the most part unless someone crosses me, naturally), I'd honestly asses myself as at least a 6 or 7 out of 10, to be left by a 4/10! And I was even more devastated by that break up than he was!

[Asker]

They're still anecdotes use to try and dismiss an opposing view. And again anecdotes can be countered with other anecdotes. I could say that I've only seen good looking men dating fat women but you're try to dismiss my anecdotes and claim yours are the correct ones. See how anecdotes are problematic?

[serious]

No, not really. However it also depends on how much importance a person gives to physical looks and personality aspects

[IslaTheWitch]

You have to work on your self-esteem and natural confidence... so such questions won't popup in your head...

[Anonymous]

Romantically sure but it still has generally use