What good is your personality if you're not attractive physically?

[Anonymous]

Personality seems overrated. No one really wants to admit just how important looks are. They're very very important & my experiences along with other guy's experiences have taught me this. I just get sick of hearing about personality. Again it's overrated

[SkipPerk]

I dated a girl at university that was unattractive (she was short with glasses and flat-cheated, which I like, but blah face). She actively pursued me and I loved it. No woman had ever done that before. She was intelligent and witty. She cared.

when we were first together, she was a virgin, and wanted to wait, which I understood. Then she blew me “so I did not feel bad.” What a girl. She let me go down on her. After a few nights she had enough, and of course she had a nasty hymen that bled and she looked like she was dying, but we got through it.

she did not seem to enjoy sex, but she never refused me (good woman). She helped me, she cooked for me, she was a pleasure. I grew to find her pretty. The sex was mediocre. I was in a bad place and was a jerk (I slept with a lot of her friends, all of her attractive neighbors), but when I met a hot woman that I wanted to leave her for, I paused.
i got nervous hearing other guys complain about not getting sex. I explained this to hot girl (who was unfortunately also a virgin), and she would not sleep with me. I told her I needed to know she was all in, and she would not do it. I kept ugly girl.

I dated her for some time. She took care of me, let me enjoy her body, she was great company, and she did not seem to mind me sleeping around (I did never tell her that I slept with her much more attractive little sister, who was luckily not a virgin, actually enjoyed sex, and had a boyfriend). You can learn to admire and desire a cool person. One funny thing, all these girls hated her because I would not leave her without guarantees (sex on demand, let me crash on demand,…

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I know this chick who has the best personality. She is fucking halarious, everyone who spends time around her likes her. She's not crazy or lazy. In fact she's probably one of the strongest coworkers at my job.

She's ugly as sin and has a really bad laugh too. And right now she's dating one of the most ugly, (inside and out) people I know. He doesn't even shower sometimes and his life is a train wreck because he's mentally weak.

Personality means a lot but the world is still a cruel place. That girl deserves a really nice dude possibly more than anyone I know personally, she's gonna be looking for a long time.

[Asker]

And i wish nothing but the best for them. Those people tend to be more down to earth

[sunflower00]

Yikes, how shallow. Obviously being at least a bit attracted to your partner is important, but how are you supposed to live with someone and enjoy life with someone who has a terrible personality? If all they bring to the table is looks and no good personality that would be incredibly sad and boring.

[Asker]

You dont understand my question though. What good is a personality if the guy isn't physically attractive? He's not going to get anywhere. His personality can't shine if women don't find him physically attractive

[HateyouxD]

Because you could be hot and be a total jerk (thumbs down) which is a total turn off...

[Asker]

He'll still be getting somewhere though. a lot of women are attracted to thugs and dudes that break the law. They're good looking

[HateyouxD]

I don't know why that is to be honest. But I know a lot of married faithful good looking guys

[Asker]

Of course they would be. They past the looks barrier first which is a very important barrier to overcome

[HateyouxD]

I dont really believe their are ugly people. I know most average men are assholes lol it's because they feel they have to be. There will be a nice young lady for you you just have to bbn keep trying or learn to attract them

[Asker]

More blue pill talk 😒

[WalkingInTheRain7]

Depends on the person, what good is looks if the person is absolutely vile and disgusting inside? Take for instance this, if you have a girlfriend like a Ferrari, say, fun to look at, fun to be with, but a nightmare to work on and maintain over time, having large costs. Or, sometning like a civic, may not be the most beautiful or fast, but reliable, versatile, and way happer to deal with overall. Why would I want a woman who's beautiful on the outside, but absolutely disgusting on the inside? It would benefit me notning to be with her.

[Custard505]

Because looks fade and what if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, do you really want the drug addict alcoholic abusive trophy wife for 20 years of peak appearance or the plain below average wife who is really pure and interesting.

[Asker]

What matters though to get your foot in the door? Looks. Without that, the personality don't matter

[Anonymous]

It's an excuse we use. Looks can be important because how healthy they are gives a preview of what they are going to feel like. Feeling might be important because sex feels good if you don't want sex with them then you are not attracted to them

[Anonymous]

Looks fade and have a limited impact. Personality is everything.

[Asker]

Maybe when you're older. But im a young guy in his twenties and if you dont have looks, your other qualities dont mean Jack shit

[Anonymous]

You probably have a bad personality and you know you do.

[Asker]

It's the typical norm like everyone else's. It's not amazing but it's not terrible either

[NathanDavis]

you wouldn't know anyway...

[Asker]

Okay

[MCheetah]

I'm glad I'm not this shallow.