Yes this is a stupid question I know but it kinda makes me insecure. So I've been talking to a guy for 2 months. He has never asked me officially to be his girlfriend but we get along great so far, go on dates sometimes, have amazing sex, and I've been staying the night with him. He asked me if I was talking to anyone else and I said no and he said he wasn't talking to anyone else either. We both just got out of serious relationships so we're kind of taking it slow with the relationship talk. But I'm wondering if maybe he is embarrassed of me or if I'm not his type or something. He doesn't like any pictures that I post. Which is fine, I try not to worry about it. But I accidentally stumbled upon a few girls he used to have flings with. And he liked their pictures when he was talking to them. He doesn't anymore but he did when he was involved with them... he doesn't like any of mine and we've been talking for 2 months. When I go on dates with him, he pays. He fucks me multiple times a day every single day. It doesn't take him very long to get hard for me. He compliments me a lot and tells me he thinks I'm pretty, and sexy. He tells me he loves my body and is always touching/hugging on me. It seems like he is attracted to me... I just don't know why he used to like the other few girls pics when he was with them but not mine? He comments on my story in a message and tells me I'm cute or something but doesn't visibly "like" My pics on like Facebook or Instagram. Is he attracted to me but is embarrassed for his friends to see? Or am I just not exactly his type? I know social media isn't important and I'm not obsessed with it. Just curious if maybe he's ashamed to be associated with me...
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He doesn't like my pics but he used to like his former "fling's" pics?
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So what exactly are you wanting right now? I see you both got out of serious relationships, so are you trying to take it slow or be exclusive? I’m asking because even though you’ve been kinda going with the flow, it’s so important to know what’s going on, and to protect yourself ultimately. I’m sure you’re nervous to address the topic but I think at this juncture in time it is not only appropriate, but fair. Because right now, you’re feeling insecure and really get to have no say-so in if he actually is seeing other women since you have no official title. You aren’t entitled to the truth, you just have to cross your fingers that he’s being honest but it can really suck not having to be quiet about that. Right now you guys are using each other, but what happens next? I’d want to know.
**having to be quiet. ‘Not’ shouldn’t be there.
You're right.. but completely didn't answer my question. Lol
How not? Not being confrontational lol just curious.
I asked why he doesn't like my pictures on social media but used to like his other "fling's" pictures when he was talking to her. He doesn't do it anymore but when he was involved with her, he did. Is he embarrassed of me or maybe I'm not his type or something? I know I need to have a talk with him about where we are going but that is not the point of my question.
Scratch that, I was probably thinking too deeply about the question. In my mind, I feel like those insecurities wouldn’t exist if you felt more secure about your position in his life. You wouldn’t be worried about if he finds you attractive or whatever the case may be if you felt confident in your relationship. However you’re right, that doesn’t exactly address your question. So to be more direct lol I’m not sure why he isn’t liking your pics as well, and there could be no reason at all behind it, but that isn’t what I’d be worrying about. There’s bigger fish to fry.
Sorry I sent my response right when you sent yours😂
Could he be embarrassed of me or something? He is always calling me pretty and sexy when we hang out. We have sex multiple times a day and it doesn't take him long to get hard for me. He is always touching and hugging on me. He seems to be attracted to me but could he be embarrassed that his friends might see him liking my pics? Could that be why he doesn't?
Well, unless you guys don’t do anything other than going to one of your places and having sex, you actually go on outings or whatever then I don’t think it’s embarrassment. Mainly because if he can take you out in public then why would he be embarrassed online? The only way is in-person actions don’t match when you’re apart is if there’s someone he’s trying to hide you from. Even that doesn’t make sense since he’s liking other women’s photos. But honestly, don’t overthink it, truly. Right now it’s meant to be a very casual connection, no need to invest your emotions into being hurt that you aren’t equally acknowledged online. Not that I don’t get it, I just think the feelings are worth it. That’s how you talk yourself into calling him out when really you shouldn’t.
**his in-person actions
He doesn't like his former flings pictures anymore. I mean he used to like her pictures when he was seeing her. He is seeing me now and doesn't like my pics at all.
Who’s pics is he liking then? Just random women?
I just said... he **used** to like his former flings pictures when he was involved with her... he is involved with me now and doesn't like any of my pics. Does it mean he found her prettier than me if he doesn't do the same for me that he did for her?
Ohhh okay, my bad I thought you meant he liked his ex flings pics once upon a time but likes other womens photos now. Understood. It’s possible he did that because that’s what she wanted. I know I have friends who feel all kinds of ways when the men in their life don’t interact with their pics or stories.
Well I found out today he's been liking other girls pictures too. And still not mine. I guess he just doesn't find me very attractive or maybe I'm not his type?
Probably because he wants what he cannot have. You already said you two aren’t together since you just got out of relationships, which is fine, but in that case there’s nothing left to offer but sex, and with such a casual relationship then man has a wandering eye. I personally wouldn’t be surprised if he initially treated you as a conquest, now you’re conquered daily. I’m not even being rude when saying that, it’s just true. He could be getting bored or looking at his other options.
He never liked my pics tho, not even before he started seeing me... so does that mean he just doesn't really find me very attractive?
I think we both know that myself nor anyone else can tell you that with factuality. To know whether or not he finds you attractive is for him to tell you.
He tells me he thinks I'm pretty and sexy and stuff. But him liking other girls pictures and never liking mine makes me think he doesn't really mean it
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