Do you consider traits your children would have when selecting a mate?

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the child is going to be a combination of the two, in some way.

There may even be genetic tools to determine if there are risks to the match.

Is that relevant to you.

e. g. one person has a hyper emotional brain and the other is ADD. Bad combo?

Do you consider traits your children would have when selecting a mate?

"Oh honey I'm glad you are not like my prior bipolar boyfriend as that would have been a bad match given Im paranoid delusional... gosh... how would those kids have turned out. But I'm so happy..."

ClaircognizantEmpath · Accepted Answer

well lol i kinda imagined you ranting that... in a feminine male voice dont know why... height i can't deny height im now 5.3 and a half was 5ft 4 so the father genetics had to be tall... im not gonna lie as a woman any women knows height carries weight better of course it does.. if your short and heavier it shows more,,, on top of that i have long legs for 5ft 4 there is LITERALLY no gap between my floating ribs and the top of my hip bone, so apple shape, so for my daughter she is blessed to be 5ft 8 now at 18.. when she was born at 9lb 5oz and so long she was off the centile in the baby book, they over estimated as usual and said she could be six foot... my son is 6ft 2... so yes guilty as charged... however... i shudder at the future of mankind with genetics and choices... if their is a genuine health screening for inherited conditions understood, but will we end up where a health/mental health/financial type credit score will be used? i hear there is a new dating app for people with a top credit score, which i assume they legit let it get checked.. to ensure their wealth is protected, the other person is secure etc you mentioned the mental health side of it too, be awake to the narrative building here, ultimately if they are driving the minds of people to feel only safe going with the proposed ideals oh for the sake of your future, the sake of your offspring.. trust in the system... taking away your humankind uniqueness to sense and feel a connection...

in hindsight for me and many years of learning, i knew my son was different from a young baby.. then my daughter, but the shocker is by watching and learning from them finally recognising the same in myself along with modern understanding of neuro divergent. so then i look at myself and their father, both neurotypical... im currently under diagnosis for adhd and high functioning autism... so then i look at my parents and ask the same questions, oh hell yes both of them... ah.. i see... difference is.. for me as a child of the countryside in south east england, very fortunate too... i lived outside.. down the camp, up the woods.. at the ponies yard... at grandads down the farm.. etc etc...12 hr days with dad in the lorry in the school holidays... imagine where we started some old country bumpkin voice... well in the ole days we just let them free kept em outside and kept em busy, no junk food, no artificial sweeteners, far less pollution, ate organic veg from my grandads garden... thats how we dealt with it... so i sincerely hope that being neurodivergent and other mental health conditions never ever deter someone from a connection because who better to raise a child with an open mind than people who have the same, we need to raise the army to change the world people!!! whos with me?

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Yes, of course. I want my children to have the best chances at success in life.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

Not so much physical traits. I have found I've converged to a type of woman (ultimately my wife) who seems best-suited to make a great mother (assertive, has leadership skills of her own, mentally stable, Stoic, etc) personality-wise.

I didn't consciously realize that's what I was doing but in retrospect it makes sense how I converged. I think on a subconscious level, I was seeking a very good mother and one who would be well off even if I die tomorrow.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Of course you want to ideally have the best combination of traits you can because your children will only benefit from it.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

no... on this level we don't even know if we will have any kids... but if he is smart and witty kids will be great anyway :D

Dvious1 · Answer

Not everyone is going to have children Or wants children Better off without them

NathanDavis · Answer

for a first date... the last thing I'd think of is... babies, lol

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