Is it common for someone to be unattractive to most women?

[Tomisworthless]

Going on 30yrs old in a few months and I’m still a virgin that’s never experienced dating or intimacy. Most times I’m out in the world I hear women when they look at me say gross ew ugly or disgusting. Now I know I’m not handsome or good looking but I don’t think I’m repulsive but I don't know I’m used to being me and not seeing myself upon first impression like others do

[Curmudgeon]

it happens. I was in that situation until age 26.

But the question is: OK, what are you going to do about it?

If you don't know, here are some suggestions:

1. Build up your economic assets and value. Money is not enough, but it sure helps. Forget about bitchy women who "when they look at (you) say gross ew ugly or disgusting", and instead focus on getting that promotion, acquiring additional training and / or credentials, investing in your retirement funds (you can NEVER do this too soon!), and buying that house, or condominium unit if the housing prices in your area are insane.

2. Improve, or at least maintain, your physical shape. Don't compete against others--that will just bring you down and make you miserable--just compete against *yourself*. I hope that makes sense.

Believe it or not, by the time you are 35, if you:
--are unmarried without kids,
--with a stable and reasonably well paying job,
--in reasonably decent physical shape,
--with no criminal record, and
--you own a home of your own, even a modest one,

You WILL be desirable, as the women start realizing their partying days are over and they need a real guy as spouse material. And you might discover that some of these women who, in the past, "when they look (ed) at (you) (and said) gross ew ugly or disgusting", are now kind of gross and disgusting themselves, due to bad choices they made. And at that point, feel free to reject them! The best revenge is living well and all that.

3. Done enough of the above? Then develop an interest that takes you someplace you haven't been. Get involved with something that interests you. You might even meet a girl that way.

4. Look into antidepressant or anti-ADHD medications. They can really help in some cases. Often you feel like an outcast and really miserable because you have an inability to focus on what is around you, so stuck are you in your own mind.

5. If you are still desperately seeking a lady for a sexual experience, then try an older "Cougar" divorcee, who wants to "get her groove back". She might just be the one to break you in. Your initial lack of what they call “game” in such a situation will be non-threatening, and therefore downright appealing, to an older divorcee. And by interactions of this nature, you will get "game". No, the relationship probably will not last, but it will be mutually beneficial at first. And then, by the time you are the age of the Cougars yourself, you may even be trawling for younger babes! Or you may have already found someone and settled in.

[SotiCoto]

I hate to break it to you... but what women find attractive or unattractive in men is usually NOT about how they look.
You look totally ordinary to me... but who even knows what women are thinking? They're probably judging your height and how you dress... probably.

[Babygirl_S]

I want you to know that you are so much more than what you see in the mirror. Your kindness, intelligence, and all the unique qualities that make you who you are shine far brighter than any physical feature. Don't let doubts about your appearance overshadow the amazing person you are. You are valued, appreciated, and worthy of love just as you are. Let's focus on uplifting the incredible person you are inside. Remember, true beauty radiates from within

[Sameone]

Your words get directly to my heart
I agree with you 200%
But not all women think like this

[laly520]

apparently u r around very toxic people

u dont look ugly or disgusting

[tremendousfern]

You're pretty average looking, definitely not ugly. You need to get a grip and stop basing your self worth on the opinions of others otherwise you'll be going on 40 and wondering the same things you are now.

[Sameone]

Come on man if i was girl you are going to be my dream's man

Go ahead and try to get relationship or have sex

[KrakenAttackin]

Modern women consider 80% of men to be "unattractive".

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's more common than we think